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Re: detachment/boundaries wildhorses74 #1918519 09/13/07 08:52 PM
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Sadmo Member S Joined: Nov 2006 Posts: 675 IN	Rin- I hope all goes well! You and your kids are in my thoughts! The light at the end of the tunnel is so close!

Re: detachment/boundaries Strivn4Better #1918520 09/14/07 08:01 AM
Joined: Oct 2005 Posts: 735 F familycomesfirst Member
familycomesfirst Member F Joined: Oct 2005 Posts: 735	I'll be praying for you this morning Strivin'.

Re: detachment/boundaries familycomesfirst #1918521 09/14/07 08:13 AM
Joined: Dec 2006 Posts: 2,155 L LilSis Member
LilSis Member L Joined: Dec 2006 Posts: 2,155	Waiting to hear....

Re: detachment/boundaries LilSis #1918522 09/14/07 08:58 AM
Joined: Apr 2006 Posts: 2,693 F frognomore Member
frognomore Member F Joined: Apr 2006 Posts: 2,693	This is not the end but a beggining. When this is finished please remember it was necessary to be adversarial through this process but IMVHO for the kids it becomes important for you to work together in the future. I Know you can and I hope STBX can too. It is very important. Hope all went well and I hope you are holding up OK. BS 38 FWW 35 D Day 10/03 Recovery started 11/06 3 boys 12, 8 and a new baby When life hands you lemons make lemonade then try to find the person life hands vodka and have a party.

Re: detachment/boundaries frognomore #1918523 09/14/07 09:25 AM
Joined: May 2006 Posts: 1,372 A AmIok Member
AmIok Member A Joined: May 2006 Posts: 1,372	Thinking of you, Rin. Hope it's going well. You've been so strong for so long!

Re: detachment/boundaries AmIok #1918524 09/14/07 10:09 AM
Joined: Dec 2005 Posts: 2,819 S sdguy038 Member
sdguy038 Member S Joined: Dec 2005 Posts: 2,819	Sending good thoughts your way, Rin!

Re: detachment/boundaries sdguy038 #1918525 09/14/07 10:12 AM
Joined: Dec 2006 Posts: 6,986 P princessmeggy Member
princessmeggy Member P Joined: Dec 2006 Posts: 6,986	Praying all goes well. Widowed 11/10/12 after 35 years of marriage ********************* �In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists.� Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story

Re: detachment/boundaries princessmeggy #1918526 09/14/07 10:23 AM
Joined: Sep 2000 Posts: 3,830 Pacific Northwest F FaithfulWifeCJ Member
FaithfulWifeCJ Member F Joined: Sep 2000 Posts: 3,830 Pacific Northwest	Praying for ya, kiddo! Today you are going to lose some things that were dear to you--that is the ugly nature of divorce. But today I pray that God will be at your side, supporting you, encouraging you, and granting the judge wisdom to see through PWC's games and to grant you what you and the boys need to move into a healthier, happier life. Love you!! Your mama bee, CJ

Re: detachment/boundaries FaithfulWifeCJ #1918527 09/14/07 10:44 AM
Joined: Nov 2005 Posts: 833 Wiscowsin W walkingthefield Member
walkingthefield Member W Joined: Nov 2005 Posts: 833 Wiscowsin	I was thinking of and praying for you too Rin! WTF * Warning * Make sure brain is engaged before shifting mouth out of Neutral.

Re: detachment/boundaries walkingthefield #1918528 09/14/07 10:59 AM
Joined: Aug 2007 Posts: 100 I IAPBS Member
IAPBS Member I Joined: Aug 2007 Posts: 100	I just got a message from Rin, she wanted me to share some details. She said things are looking good. Some agreements were made on CS, use of the house, and POWS has to sell the Harley. More details as I get them or when she is able to post. Happiness is not having what you want, it's wanting what you have. WWPBSD?

Re: detachment/boundaries IAPBS #1918529 09/14/07 11:07 AM
Joined: Jan 2007 Posts: 2,828 Midwest B Bugsmom Member
Bugsmom Member B Joined: Jan 2007 Posts: 2,828 Midwest	Whoo Hoo!! Keep the info coming!!! Keep those thoughts and prayers rolling everyone!! BS (me) ExWS -Drac DD 9 DSS 15 D Day 11/06 Divorced 10/01/07 "You Can't Fix Stupid" - My Mom

Re: detachment/boundaries IAPBS #1918530 09/14/07 11:39 AM
Joined: Feb 2007 Posts: 1,115 Louisiana B BetrayedCajun Member
BetrayedCajun Member B Joined: Feb 2007 Posts: 1,115 Louisiana	Quote and POWS has to sell the Harley. BWAAHHAAAHAAHAA!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> BS 33 EXWW 35 DS 5 OM1 9/06 - 03/07 OM2 04/07 - present Divorced May 8, 2008

Re: detachment/boundaries BetrayedCajun #1918531 09/14/07 01:00 PM
Joined: Dec 2005 Posts: 2,819 S sdguy038 Member
sdguy038 Member S Joined: Dec 2005 Posts: 2,819	Quote to see through PWC's games Sheesh. Just like a real mom--can't keep track of her kids' names.

Re: detachment/boundaries sdguy038 #1918532 09/14/07 01:29 PM
Joined: Oct 2006 Posts: 118 M MyBad Member
MyBad Member M Joined: Oct 2006 Posts: 118	OOOO not the Harley! That should get him where it hurts!!!!! Good job Rin! Prayers for you and your kids, MyBad

Re: detachment/boundaries BetrayedCajun #1918533 09/14/07 01:41 PM
Joined: Dec 2006 Posts: 6,986 P princessmeggy Member
princessmeggy Member P Joined: Dec 2006 Posts: 6,986	Quote Quote and POWS has to sell the Harley. BWAAHHAAAHAAHAA!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> Gee, is that the same Harley he claimed was already sold last year? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Widowed 11/10/12 after 35 years of marriage ********************* �In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists.� Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story

Re: detachment/boundaries princessmeggy #1918534 09/14/07 02:12 PM
Joined: May 2006 Posts: 5,871 S silentlucidity Member
silentlucidity Member S Joined: May 2006 Posts: 5,871	Quote Quote: -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- to see through PWC's games -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Sheesh. Just like a real mom--can't keep track of her kids' names. OMG!!! I think Rin's got enough to deal with without having to take care of my husband's stuff too!!! LMAO!! Senility is setting in... Me-BS-38 Married 1997; son, 8yo Divorced April 2009

Re: detachment/boundaries silentlucidity #1918535 09/14/07 02:24 PM
Joined: Aug 2007 Posts: 100 I IAPBS Member
IAPBS Member I Joined: Aug 2007 Posts: 100	Got this message from Rin: Quote We're movin home! Happiness is not having what you want, it's wanting what you have. WWPBSD?

Re: detachment/boundaries IAPBS #1918536 09/14/07 02:27 PM
Joined: May 2006 Posts: 5,871 S silentlucidity Member
silentlucidity Member S Joined: May 2006 Posts: 5,871	What a wonderful thing to read! Me-BS-38 Married 1997; son, 8yo Divorced April 2009

Re: detachment/boundaries silentlucidity #1918537 09/14/07 02:49 PM
Joined: Nov 2006 Posts: 117 St. Louis, Missouri L lieslies Member
lieslies Member L Joined: Nov 2006 Posts: 117 St. Louis, Missouri	Thank God! I am so proud of you for sticking this out. Give us and update soon! Me, BW 33 WH 38 DD3 Married 5/3/02, together since 1998 D-Day 11/6/06, 12/4/06 WH attempted suicide 2/5/07 Plan B 4/16/07, Plan D 4/30/07 Order of protection filed 5/3/07 (irony not lost on me) D final 10/7/07??? My Story Ongoing Saga

Re: detachment/boundaries silentlucidity #1918538 09/14/07 02:59 PM
Joined: May 2006 Posts: 5,463 Houma, LA S Strivn4Better OP Member
OP Strivn4Better Member S Joined: May 2006 Posts: 5,463 Houma, LA	HI Everyone! I just got home...We're moving home not this Sunday but next... The only thing I lose was my laptop... CS, over 1K a month...and arrears was settled at almost 2K... POWS has a set of bills that he has to pay and so do I... No spousal support... MIL was the one who stepped in and settled POWS down...told him what to do b/c she's holding the pursue strings!!! CS came from her last month...this month will be coming from her and so will the settlement on arrears... CAn WE SAY ENABLING???? I am SOOO tired...we were in court, mediating from 8:30 to about 3:20...it's been a really long day... POWS gets the kids the 1st, 3rd, and 4th weekend of the month, and summer goes to 7 and 7...with the week before school with me... Oh, on the laptop, my A asked about another computer we have, and it's running an old windows...well, my A said that he didn't know what that meant, well, POWS's A said "that means you can't pull up PORN!" POWS wanted his gun back and I wouldn't give it, sayig I needed it for protection! HN1 claimed that I pulled the gun on her! So, he's not getting that back, and everything in the house stays! Oh, did I tell you that I told my Attorney this morning that I felt like I was being [email]d1ck@d[/email] around...that was interesting!! BEfore we headed over to court...he was not happy about that and we had to work out some issues about him representing me! LMAO So, I'll be shopping for a new laptop soon! LMAO OMG, THank YOU ALL, I was SOOOO surprised to get back and see ALL of the SUPPORT...so many posts! My heart Leaped!!! Words can't express how I feel about you guys, the prayers, etc... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> A loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge. Thomas Carlyle

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