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You sound so full of energy! I WISH that I had your energy... I seem to be a sleeping fool lately...
I hope you enjoyed your movie.... keep on!
LOL!

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Hi Sadmo, I am full of energy...becasue I love what I doing...life is good...it has it's up and downs but it's what we learn from them, is that not correct? I grieved my lost and found a positive attitude behind it...

God has always provided for me BUT I have to do the foot work to get where I am...opportunity is sometimes not seen by people because it involved hard work...I have had the opportunity to grow and learn to love myself and to get to know who I am with the help of the wonderful people who have come into my life here and locally...

THe movie was slow but it was GREAT! Come to find out there are a series of books, which I think I would like to read...

D-day was an awakening for me and the process has been a tough fight...I've had to learn to love myself, respect myself, laugh at myself, learn WHAT I was feeling when I was feeling it, set boundaries not only for myself but in dealing with OP...

I was a lost soul not living life but letting life live me...the anger, resentment, unhappy, despair was engulfing at times and many times I wished that I would get into a horrible car accident...TODAY, I enjoy people like you, sharing our worlds, the blue of the sky, the tone in someone's voice, a different POV...

I was self-rightous in my own way...thought I was an open-minded individual when in fact I was very close-minded to a world of thing...my own attitude and belief system contributed as much destruction to my M as POWS, just in different ways...

I was willing to put in the work and he was not...this much I know to be true...I know that him not wanting to do the work is about him and that I can not sit still and wait on him because that would only cause me misery...

So, I think please correct me if I am wrong but we are really in the same place...

THe other thing that I see is that I don't want to be with POWS, it's not that he's any less than I am but rather not the person that I need to be with...we are not on the same page in life and looking to different things for happiness...

Presently I am looking to myself and my Higher power and POWS it appears to me but only he has the answer is looking to OP and himself...but not to himself in teh same way that I am...it's a fullfillment of wants, material things...

Anyway, that's all a DJ anyway...JMHO...

I am passionate about creating beautiful things and working with wood, fixing things...I am very mechanically inclined...it's my love...question is how do I incorporate that into my job? What kinds of jobs would suit my passion...OS is ALOT like me in this manner...I was in love with my legos when I was a kid...WELL, LMAO, still am...would play with them for hours and you would not hear a word out of me...OS, same WAY!!

ANyway, I have to go to work in the morning...beena long day and I ahven't packed for my trip yet, have errands to run tomorrow at lunch, and have the kids stuff to get together for POWS' weekend...NEVER let them go with him in their school clothes, rule #1...LMAO...don't trust that they will make it back! LMAO

Have a great night, and I hope that my thoughts were not me rambling tonight...they felt pretty clear at teh time...LMAO


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When I picture you working on your house (that sounds so good doesn't it? "Your" house). <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> I picture you as a whirlwind of activity like Taz zipping around in those Loony Tunes cartoons.

Your story is an inspiration. I truly do believe that, no matter what the situation, if we turn to God, He will make "all things work together for good". It's not that God will make all things good-but if we are willing to turn to Him, and be patient waiting on His perfect timing, He will make all things work together for good in the end.

You are an example of that promise.

Hope you post some before and after Rin's decorating blitz pictures!

Love ya'


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You know I had a really good post to you then I lost it.

So now you get a "atta girl"


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LMAO...I feel like TAZ! Especially with everything that's going on at work and at home...

At lunch I had six places to got to for errands...got my own auto ins. policy today...only got five of the six places done...so i hit the sixth after work and I'm off for the weekend...

Oh, I called the gas company and found out that i don't need POWs to change the gas into my name, but I do for the cable company...So I'm going to eat up his gas deposit and then I'm changing it into my name...

As far as the cable...i'll let that go until he's ready to change that...We would have to met at the cable office and I just as soon stay dark as long as I can...And If he calls and turns it off then the problem is sovled too, I'll just pay the deposit and turn it back on...win win on that one!

JT...I had thought about pics, but POWS took the camera too...LMAO...all I have is my cell phone camera and you know those are bad...I guess I could get a disposal one...the ugly bathroom is almost done...God, I wish I had taken pics of the trashed place and then pics of after I cleaned it...

I should have listened to BC! Sorry BC! I was living and forgot about it! LMAO...

I hope that God will help me get back into a routine with these kids! I have been having a hard time getting them in bed on time...but this week has been rough with not water a large part of the week...driving back to Spon. house to bathe, get something to eat, etc...

I think that will get better as we settle in...

Well, i'm off for the weekend...we're painting a yellow hibicus(?) on a black black ground this weekend...it's beautiful...I'm looking forward to painting this one!

Hope everyone hasa great weekend!

Frog- that baby kicking yet? I would love a little update! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />


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FANTASTIC!

That's what it's all about baby!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

You will be surprise how quickly you will fall into a routine, don't sweat it.

Enjoy your weekend.


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Yeah...are you kidding, Rin?

A routine is hard enough to maintain when everything is in order. When you are moving and don't have water and they're sick...yada yada....NO WAY!

You'll get there.

Another atta girl from me. You are an inspiration, Rin, you really are. What a survivor!

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HI, Thanks Ladies! I had a wonderful weekend! Boys just got back...POWS drove up at the end of the driveway, not even in the yard...I put some mail on his seat and got L out of the truck...didn't say a word to him...He got the boy's bikes out of the truck...

My Aunt and I took the scenic route back stopping at a flea market here, someplace there, over here...We hada really good time...

I'm not so impressed with my painting but it came out good, better than I thought when I looked at it today...

The grass was cut while I was gone, and the yard is shaping up...it's startingt o look like a home and not an abandoned house! LMAO...

Now, if I had a ladder to get the Christmas lights down from last year! LMAO...it'll come together...

Oh, THANK YOU BOTH for the compliment...it's great to know that I inspire people...

WEll, let me get teh clothes into the dryer and wash some more, so the boys will have school clothes and clean a little before I go to bed tonight...I'll check in a little later!


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Rin,

Leave the Christmas lights ,,,,,, you aren't that far away from Christmas now! LOL!!

Glad you had a good weekend.


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I'm with Bugsy, leave the lights up, Christmas is just around the corner...

We take ours down every year, 'round Superbowl weekend, but I still see houses in our neighborhood with their lights still up. Reminds me of when I was little and my step father left the 'snoopy' lights on the tree in the front yard for an entire year. I remember coming home in the afternoon in the summer, to see the lights on the tree. I giggled every time.

You sound like a whirlwind of cleaning and doing. You DO have so much energy. I'm exhausted reading your thread.


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LMAO...I can leave them up...just need to get the ones that are hanging down...

LMAO...a whirlwind of energy...LMAO...I call it time management...LMAO...like I just finished cleaning up in the boy's room, preparing to swap the beds around...

I got a garage bag full of stuff from their room and I'm sure that I'm not finished yet...I'm all about declustering right now...

I have a pile of stuff to go to the rummage sale...out with the old and in with the new!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Tonight I want to finished the last coats of paint in the bathroom...it's the closest to being finished...that way I can have one room finished...then I can finish my room...

I got a compliment from one of my co-workers today of how the yard is shaping up...I still ahve some work to do in it but it looks world's better and the ggarage is coming together too...

Well, I need to head back to work...Thanks for checking in...be back as soon as I can!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />


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Morning! I'm doing pretty good this morning! I was cleaning the spare room which is now Ys's and I started sneezing and not I'm all stopped up and feeling bad...i was vaccuuming the carpet and started sneezing so bad it hurt! So, I started with some meds...

I got the beds swapped around last night in their rooms, not an easy task...and I applied another coat of redto the bathroom walls that I'm doing...one more and that should be done...

Home phone is fixed as of today...that was the last major thing that needed to be repaired from POWS...there wasa short in the box and had to change a wire inside...

A friend of mine called and said her son saw POWS at the house at one in the morning, but I don't think that was him...I have new renters next door and I think they were moving in late last night...I don't think that my friend's son remembers what house I live in and she said that he saw a white truck and trailer there at 1am...

I got CS in the mailbox yesterday afternoon, so it couldn't have been him...

BUT It's good to know that I'm being looked after...

Well, I'll post more later...I just had something come up...


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HI Guys, I don't know if I'm going to get much done tonight! I am feeling really horrible with this congestion...at least the kids don't have religion tonight...

So I can cook some supper and do as little as possible...I would like to move the stuff for teh rummage sale out of the house...prehaps I'll do that and call it quits for the day...

I'll have my hands full with supper, homework, bathes and getting the boys to bed...I guess it will depend on how I feel this afternoon...I don't even feel like eating, but I guess I'll get a little something before heading back to work...have to keep my energy up to deal with this little Taz's! LMAO...


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Rin,

TAKE A BREAK! You've being going at break neck speed. Your body is trying to tell you something! LISTEN to it!


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Rin,

Have you had the air quality in your house checked?

Seems like an aweful lot of stuff going around.

If I were you I would have the place checked for mold or airborne icky poos.

You sound so good lately. Proud of you!!!


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HI, guys! I am taking a break tonight...decided to order pizza instead of cook...the boy's are in the tub now and the only thing I did tonight was straithen up YS's room so he could get to his clothes...

Feeling a little better since I got home...ate some pizza and took something for my headache plus my sinus meds...

Got OS to take out the trash...so I've been on the sofa a large part of the night...trying to rest...

Frog- I haven't had the house checked for that...I have a dust allegy and there's a 1/8 inch of dust on top of things, you can tell when you vacuum and of course on teh ceiling fans and the tops of things...it's so concentrated...who knows the last time the carpet in there was vacuumed...

My nose has been running all day and I've had the box of kleenex next to me...good thing it's got lotion...LMAO...

Today made seven years that I've been workign for my company...what a day! Going to take some more Tylenol and lay down after I get these boys down...

It's coming together little by little...like LA asked me one time: "What's a rush ever got you?" So, now I figure everything does not need to be accomplished in a day...LOL...another big difference in life...I have learned how to take a break...

A little cooler and I can out the windows and sleep that way...I love opening the windows and sleeping at night...the air feels soooo good!

Well, let me go lay down for a minute...


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Hey, Rin.

Sorry you're feeling crummy ... but I join the ranks of people who are soooooo impressed with all that you're getting done! Way to go, girl.

Good job of taking a break and taking care of yourself tonight, too. Pizza is a wonderful thing sometimes! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Take good care and enjoy your break.

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Hi AmI! Thank you for stopping in! I really appreciate everyone positive attitude about me...it helps to keep me going...

I've been watching TV most of the night, not something that I normally do...will be headed to bed soon!

Home phone still not fixed...so I called again! If we can't get it resolved I'll just cut it off and use my cell...save me some money at the same time! LOL

WEll, I've been taking a hot rag with methol in it and breathing into in to loose this stuff up...it's helping some...took my meds. again...I want to finish watching this show but am really tired...

kids went down really easy...had to have a short talk with OS...about picking up after himself...he's mentioned several times about POWS not keeping things clean or picking up after himself, so I use that to point out how I feel when HE doesn't clean up after himself...

Point was taken and I left it at that! I did move some boxes outside the door for pick up for the rummage sale...LOL...I'm starting to acquire more floor space...go figure!

Oh, just to let you guys know...HNs look over here...say HI to the kids...I ignore the interaction...I believe that they will get bored with me over here and soon stop watching one day...until then LET them watch! I'm not doing anything wrong or anything to report back to POWS...and if they do, OH, well!

Oh, I found out that HN1's move is contingent on them selling her mother's house and they have to the end of the month! So we will see how that goes...she must have been pretty confident to pull her kids out of this schol and enroll them in the other...not a move I would have done until I was sure of the sell...but that's about me and not about her!

WEll, let me get back to this show and then bed! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />


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Morning, I'm sneaking on this morning! I still feel horrible...didn't sleep well at all last night either...almost called in but I know that we have some things going on and I wasn't sure if I would have someone to cover me so I just showed up with the help of Tylonel...LMAO

I had to start taking my cough meds. this morning...I'm doing pretty good, the last time i've been sick like this was last Feb...I get broncitis at least twice a year...hopefully I can avoid that this time since I have the meds. I need...running a low grade fever, so i think I can pull it off...

Anyway, things are going well...the only thing I did this morning was put a chair outside for the sale that I'm donating...that was enough for me...

Oh, I did unload the things out of my trunk that's been there since a few days after we moved...I was looking for my therometer...the one in the house was died and so was the one in the car...Oh, well...

I'll try to get some batteries when I feel up to stopping at the store...Same thing with parts for YS's bunkbed...I have to find some dialrods to put in the holes to secure it...we broke two of them the last time we took it apart and I would rather be safe than sorry on that one...being that he's five I imagine that he'll be jumping in the top bunk when I'm not looking... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

well, let me get to work...and finish enjoying my coffee...

Hey FROG, is that baby kicking yet? how about a little update? i'm so excited! A new baby, wish I was there!!!! i'd help you love on him!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />


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I agree with Frog. You've been cleaning and such, rustling up whatever is in the place; could be mold. I got deathly ill from mold in our basement a while back. Afterward, we went down there, particle masks, bleach water, and scrubber brushes in hand and deconned the area.

If you deal with a lot of moisture, there could be mold in the sheetrock. Since you've been cleaning alot, it could have been on the floors or in the bathrooms.

Take it easy, there girl. You've got time to get it all together at home. You LIVE there now, remember. Do a little at a time until you feel MUCH better.


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