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Rin wanted to share these with everyone. Rin B-Day
Happiness is not having what you want, it's wanting what you have.
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Me, BW 33
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It's almost over now, but HAPPY BIRTHDAY my friend!
A new year. A new Rin. What a thing to celebrate! You are a gift to everyone here....your strength and compassion are evident every day.
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THank YOU BOTH! DId you guys check out my pics from tonight that PBS posted for me! We had A WONDERFUL TIME!!!! It's been a great day! After Frog mentioned last year I went back and read some of my posts from my b-day...I have to say that this year was amazing, simply amazing from last year...I was reading and remember all the hard feelings I had... POWS burned my books not long after my b-day...so my world has changed greatly and I would change my world now for anything...I'm so happy with life...the little things, my great friends and support like you guys and gals here... I am grateful today...I am not angry with the world, nor POWS, nor myself...I love and cherish so much that I took for granted... Enjoy the pics!!! Here's the link again: Rin's B-day
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Good Morning! Well, if you check out the pics...my inner child was coming out yesterday! It was a FABBBBUUUULLLOUSSS b-day! I really enjoyed myself! The kids told the waitress LIKE 20 times that it was my birthday and EVERYONE AROUND us knew also! So, I had strangers telling me Happy Birthday... We stopped by Spon. house and got Spon. H to take a digital pic of us...then Spon. was at a meeting so we stopped by there to show off our face painting! OS was a bat, YS wasa a pirate, and you'll just have to check out the pics for me!! LMAO... One pic was taken by OS, and the other by YS (the close up one)! It's a great morning too...we're laughing this morning at GOGO attacking the kids...she bites OS's ankles when he tries to get away from her...YS is as tall as her is with she stands up...so she jumps at him and pushs on his chest and being the clown that he IS...he falls down!!! GOGO doesn't fight fair!! LMAO So with the three of them, it's always interesting...we're blessed to still have her after being away for so long...she was meant to be a part of our family from teh start...our dumpster girl!!! Well, let me get myself together, and finish my coffee and oatmeal... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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Rin you are cutie patudy girl! New year for a new you! There's a lot of purple goin on with you these days...are you going through a Prince phase?
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well don't you just have the prettiest smile!
now, let's talk about your makeup!
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Rin,
I love the face painting!
I LOVE even more the pure JOY I am hearing in your posts!!
So glad you had a great day!!
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I'm so glad you had a fabulous birthday. Your boys are awesome by the fact that the first thing they thought of when you told them you were going out to eat was YOU! That shows character-- that they're thinking of others -- even at such a young age. Way to go Rin. Cherish these times.
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SL- I thought Prince was still in!!! When Doves Cry!!! Purple Rain!!! Come ON!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> LMAO Thank you very much! MEDC- Would help to say that I'm normally a natural lady!!! I was reenacting my own Broadway Music!!! Similar to CATS!!! LMAO <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> tHAT SMILE IS MY best ASSET!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> BUGS- MY lady and fellow Angel!! Life is good, what more can I say!! There's no tension in the house now...who would have thought that getting rid of POWS would have done that! LMAO That's a lot of acceptance...sometimes I still wish things were different but they are what they are...that's the skinny of things!! LMAO... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> PM- They have always been great kids...they have started taking on chores by themselves without being asked...MOF, they ask me if they can do this or that, and they even fight over WHO'S going to care for the dog...this morning I asked OS to take out the trash and YS put a garbage bag in the can without being asked...so I told him to add a pebble to his jar for being great... POWS once told SPon. that the kids' behavior wasa direct result of me...I'll take that b/c it's true...I'm pretty hard on them and have been but I think that if I'm like that now then that's less that I'll have to do later... Well, let me get back to work... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Thank you all for the compliments! you guys are sooo wonderful!!
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Well, I'm feeling a little anxiety right now...I said that I wouldn't deal with my lawyer yesterday SOOOO I called today... We STILL had not set up a holiday schedule and included clauses...I decided to only include the right to refusal...and made up my own holiday schedule from the brief dicussion that I had with POWS a few weeks ago...we'll see if it flies... Also, the para said that my lawyer was suppose to talk to POWS's but she hasn't heard anything yet about the things that POWS took...this whole process has been LONG and DRAWN out, not matter what I do..."I" can't speed things up... THe judgement hasn't even been completely typed up yet and submitted to the judge b/c of the holiday schedule not being completed yet... Anyway, para's going to type up what I proposed and fax it to me at SOME point...I'm sure not expecting it to be today...I did tell her about the kids going to the ILs and that since I only have them one weekend a month that I would prefer to be with them if he's not going to keep them... I have to keep in mind that this whole process has been drawn out for some reason unknown to me...and that this is the way it suppose to BE...once again unknown reasons to ME... POWS also has three days to pay me the arrears. It's suppose to be within 30 days and that was on the 14th...next CS payment is due on the 15th...He paid the 1st on time...so we will see how that goes too! Like SOOO many others here both present and past, I'm ready for the process to be complete and over...LMAO <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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Rin-
It will all work out in the end!
I just had to say, WONDERFUL SMILE! You looked so happy on your birthday, that is great!
Just stopping into say, "You are amazing!"
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Thank you Sadmo for the reassurance...
OS and I were talking on the way home, and he was telling me that MIL said that the tools that POWS took was for his job and that OS said he knew that was not true but didn't tell LIM that b/c he didn't want to make her more mad...
POWS has MIL snowed in...it's amazing!! The tools that were work related that were here was b/c he took them from work for personal use...
All I have to say is that she's going to have a rude awaking if she's footing the bill for him when the time comes to settle...
His lawyer can't be that stupid either...a welder/fitter doesn't use a chain saw on the job...or a table saw for that matter...or what about 2-12' ladders???? Or my chisles that my dad gave me????
Jesus, POWS is a miracle...it's a miracle that he's stayed alive all this time with THAT thinking...
I'm actually looking forward to seeing how this works out and the lies that he'll come up with this time...I should be able to get a good laugh out of this one...
I can tell that OS is frustrated with MIL b/c he knows the truth and she doesn't and he feels like he can't correct her b/c she won't believe him...poor kid...I think this is the real reason he voices what happens when he's with POWS or the ILs...he's tired of the lies too...
I feel so bad for him...OS!!!
Anyway, Thank you once again for the compliment...it's funny how I can laugh at what MIL told him...I don't know, guess I'm getting REAL USE TO POWS' lies and having to deal with them...pray that the truth will prevail...
GOd please help me...
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Rin, I think YOU should call the judges office tomorrow and ask them how to get your stuff back. More likely than not, they will be pretty aggravated at your H and may step in immediately.
I know you have a lawyer...but remember, the lawyer works for you and there is nothing that you could screw up by calling the clerk. They are very helpful.
Have a nice night cat woman.
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OKAy...I KNWO that you are right and I need to do this...
I WILL CALL tomorrow...I will ask to speak to the judge and explain what is going on...I have no clue how to even start to explain...
I have to admit that I am a little fearful in doing this...thrus why I haven't done it yet...I mean in the past seven months I've had a judge recuse himself, two dates/three dates???? YUCK!
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Rinders...this is about boundary enforcements...you taking the steps, your part, and letting the outcome go.
A reminder.
I understand what faces you...all the mess...the stuff that has happened, is happening and dwelling in the what ifs of what could happen.
Stop. Be present and examine your code. This wasn't what the court said was required. You following through is your own obligation. No more self-betrayal, 'k?
You know...sometimes I'm saying "You go girl!" and then I hear me saying, "Stand still, woman!" What's confusing about that?
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LMAO...Good to see you!! Thanks for the reminder... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Confusing???? What's confusing???? The rollercoaster ride or rider??? LMAO... I got this...Tomorrow I will just do it and be done with it just like everything else... I've had a good night and a pretty good day...got some great news from a friend... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> I'll get better as this whole standing up for myself thing...I'm still new to the game...LMAO...okay is that an excuse or what??? LMAO... ALright I'm going enjoy the mosquites and night air for a while, then headed for a HOT, HOT, HOT shower...I can just imagine it now! Thanks LA...you have great timing you know! :giggling:
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WEll, I had a pretty good night, only woke up twice... Once b/c I dreamed that I ran into OW and OW apologized to me and said that POWS was not what he seemed and I was right... I dream about POWS and OW often...My PTSD has gotten been with time since D-day...I don't jump at every little sound that I hear or startled easily anymore...so it is getting better...at least they are not horrifing dreams, I can go back to sleep pretty fast afterward... I remember having dreams about my FOO for years then they just stopped and D-day started all that [email]cr@p[/email] again, the dreams are just different...but like I've said it HAS gotten better and I do sleep more these days than in the past... Anyway, today I will make the time to call the judge...I'm not giving any thought to what I need to say in advance, I figure the words will come that need to come... ON ANOTHER GREAT NOTE>>>I got on the scale this morning and there's another pound shed...I keep this up and MOMMA will be sprakling like an ornament at Christmas time...LMOA... At 4'11", "they" say I'm suppose to weight 110 lbs, but that's TOOOO skinny, I'd look like a rail...120 is more healthy I think for me... I FINALLY stopped eating during the night!!! LMAO...and I'm not buying ANY Halloween candy after on sale...LMAO <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> I did enjoy my red beans and rice this weekend, Ice cream cake this week, and a snicker this past weekend! I'm not depriving myself at all... Well, llet me get dressed and going this morning...need to be out the door in 40 minutes and I'm behind, in no rush today AT ALL...Morning ARE A WORLD OF difference...GOD, I use to be SOOO full of Hate and anger, yelling at the kids...blamed it on the way my childhood morning were... OKay, got to go!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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Rin, do NOT call the Judge. That would be an "ex parte" communication. He is not ALLOWED to speak to one party without the presence of the other party unless an exparte motion is made. It is unethical. You don't want to pi$$ off the Judge in your case. You have an attorney. A clerk can't tell you what to do either because that would be giving you legal advice. Just be patient and let the system work for you. It has so far.
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OKay...what is ex parte communication? is that what you said about not allowed to talk to the one without the presence of the other?
I think I had asked my friend who's a para here one time about this too and she said that it wouldn't help...but then when I was sitting in court that day there was a father who had called the judge the day before but that was on a drug charge...the girl was given a drug test right then and there and then the father and judge agree to keeping her in jail until the family could find treatment for her....
BIG difference from what I'm dealing with...
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