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Rin,
just popping in to say Hi.
Hi. All seems so peacfull for you now.
Nice to have inner peace.
BS 38
FWW 35
D Day 10/03
Recovery started 11/06
3 boys 12, 8 and a new baby
When life hands you lemons make lemonade then try to find the person life hands vodka and have a party.
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LMAO...Thank you Frog for thinking about me! I am at peace and not much bothers me...doing what i need to do and moving on... I did feel a little sad last night but it wasn't very long...I got over it! REALLY NICE TO HAVE INNER PEACE!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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I have to thank all of you guys (males) out there that have supported me and have taught me so much... Frog- you know you're at teh top of the list... MEDC- You're amazing! Thank you for your support... Healingbird- I know that we don't talk now...I think the last screenname I chose messed us up! Longhorn- For being the first person to help me out... PSB- For all of the support, continued support and the little extras along the way... BC- you too man... I appreciate it! Christner, LG, SDguy... You guys ahve all taught me that there are real men out there and that I should have respect for myself and that there are men out there who will respect me as much if not more than I respect myself... That there are men with intregity, moral character, and values...That the life I was living didn't have to be, to take the chance and change the things that I can control... To work behind my fear and live in the moment...to take one day at a time...demand more...to not be judgmental...to be honest... I thank all of you for showing me what real men are like and that they are real, not just something that I use to dream about! For all you ladies...WOW, so inspiring...tenderhearted...caring...strong...tough...I thank you for all of the support and for helping pick me up when I was down...for teaching me a better way of thinking about life, myself...for helping me gather my courage... The list is endless for all of you...I certainly would NOT be where I am today had it not been for the love, kindness, kicks in the butt, sharing of your experience, hope and faith... I AM WHO I'VE DREAMED ABOUT BEING...I love myself...I love life...my kids...I just hope and pray that I can give what I've received...my journey has just begun and it's been one heck of a ride but I wouldn't trade all the hurt, pain, joy, and all the other emotions that come with it! I value my life today...so to anyone out there struggling with your sitch...IT DOES get better...whatever you are feeling...trapped...extreme betrayal...like your world is/has ended...it you dream about something horrible happening to you or you're thinking about it...KNOW that you can get through it and be OKAY...better than OKAY!!! Wonderful...all that pain and hurt does go away...YOU CAN DO IT!!! No matter your sitch! Whatever path of recovery that you are guided down! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> THere's a day when triggers occur very rarely and if it does happen you're not triggered long...it's a pebble in the road...not that bolder that you can't see around... There's a place of senerity and peace...a place of gratitude for all that you have experienced in your life...no anger balled up inside of you...no unexpressed emotion resulting from fear...no regrets...happiness...joy...you may not feel it as strongly all the time but it's there...just have faith... Good night!
A loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge.
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So, so very happy for you, Rin! I can't think of anyone who deserves it more. You are an amazing, incredible woman, a terrific mom, who is beautiful and courageous.
What a blessing to everyone whose life you touch....even virtually.
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Rin, I AM WHO I'VE DREAMED ABOUT BEING...I love myself...I love life...my kids...I just hope and pray that I can give what I've received...my journey has just begun and it's been one heck of a ride but I wouldn't trade all the hurt, pain, joy, and all the other emotions that come with it! Nothing to say but that is MAH-VE_LOUS!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
BS (me)
ExWS -Drac
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DSS 15
D Day 11/06
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"You Can't Fix Stupid" - My Mom
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Thank you SOOO much guys...You both have been a MAJOR part of this journey!!!! It's all coming together and I still have time left on this D...I didn't think that I would be so calm in POWS wake...but here I am... I found out last night that he's not on the floor at work anymore, that he got an office job...thing is there's that minority thing and they had to fill the job...it's all about quotas these days! I thought to myself, NOW he tries to move forward and advance in life...but really it's just the same [censored] just a different day for him... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> NOT FOR ME!!
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Rin,
You sound wonderful. I'm working my way bacj to being there also. Keep a seat open for me.
Still
BW me 46
WH 46
Together 28 years married 23
3 Kids DD20, DD17 and DS 14
DD #1 (1st A) 10/13/01 with single OW who was co-worker
DD#2 1/23/02 phone call from OW
WH left job 4/02
MC 10/01 to 4/02 (when he showed up)
Separated 7/04 to 10/04
Retrouvaille 9/04
Red Flags 11/05
DD#1 (2nd affair) 8/16/06 with MOW age 29 twice married and he's her boss.
Moved out (him) weekend after labor day
23rd anniversary 10/7/07
Filed 10/18/06 still seeing MOW
Dropped divorce complaint 6/7/07
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I WILL that's were ALL of the gorgeous people sit and sweetie I've seen you're pic, so you have a SPECIAL seat revised! RSVP!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
I've been wanting to tell you that for some time BTW!!!
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Rin,
I simply try to do unto others as I would have them do unto me. You have been given much from many here, and you have much to give others yourself. You are a success in recovering yourself. Your growth is amazing, even in the short time I have known of your sitch here on MB.
I thank YOU for the kindness and encouragement you have shown me.
PBS aka E
Happiness is not having what you want, it's wanting what you have.
WWPBSD?
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<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> I won't have it any other way, E!
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Minor update...I got the half of arrears from POWS today...like the draft judgement said 10-20... I'm going to call my lawyer this afternoon and let them know...I hope that they have gotten acopy of the minutes from court...b/c here we are 36 days later! In a way, I hope he's shocked when he finds that he has to pay me the other half...I had to ask SPon. when I tlaked to her to validate that I heard within 30 days...just to know that I heard what I heard!! Off to the bank! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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Rin: I always wondered: Since you are always "LMAO!" How do you sit down? Wouldn't that be painful? And then, when you really L, you might PMP and then LMAO and with the high acid content there, now, it's burning! Just wondering! Keep smiling! and LMAO! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> LG <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
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WOW!!! I got lost with that one LG.... Did you see my special thank you on page 39 to you? And I'll do my best to keep smiling and laughing!!! Promise!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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Since you are always "LMAO!" How do you sit down? I always wonder that too, LG. I always picture Rin like a Ms. Potato Head whose butt part keeps popping off. Boy, I think the infidelity diet is over. I need to start LMAO some more.
Testosterone boys! Testosterone! It ain’t just for nose, ear and back hair anymore!
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Rin: About this: "Did you see my special thank you on page 39 to you?" LG>>>>> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> Have a wonderful weekend!
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I've lost 13 pounds LMAO...that's the count as of this morning! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Popping off or popping open? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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So you lost weight and got money. Today is a darn good day!!!
I am blushing from your recognition.
I am proud to know a person as strong, caring, and smart as you.
Your boys are lucky they have such a positive female roll model.
You keep that up!!
BS 38
FWW 35
D Day 10/03
Recovery started 11/06
3 boys 12, 8 and a new baby
When life hands you lemons make lemonade then try to find the person life hands vodka and have a party.
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I always picture Rin like a Ms. Potato Head whose butt part keeps popping off. LMAO - - APMP! Snort! BWAHHHAAAHHHAHH! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Thank goodness not enough for that "acid burning feeling", LG!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />
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Good Morning Everyone! I hope and pray that you are all doing well...
I've been really busy of late...making new friends, cleaning the house, finished painting the living room, except for the trim, started painting the dining room! Putting up pictures on the wall...etc., etc., etc...
I got to pressure wash some of the house this past Sun., I had to work on the lawnmower for about three hours, got it running, got the front yard cut and it died, wouldn't start again...it was getting late and I had to leave to go somewhere so I'll work on that another day...
We're all doing well...kids went camping with POWS and the HN1 was there this past weekend...all I heard was that POWS played football with OS...I think that was good...
POws gave me trouble about the cable bill, said something to the effect that he's given me x amount of dollars in the past months...I should have the money to pay it...I told him to turn it off...I didn't tell him this but I'm not paying the bill until it's turned off...now whether that means HE turns it off or the cable company does it doesn't matter....I'm going to get it turned back on in my name...
I HAVE found SOMEHTING that I KNOW NOTHING ABOUT!!! The heater! I tried turning it on this morning and it wouldn't do anything...judging from the gas bill I don't think that it's turned on...I looked at it but have NO CLUE!!! So, I'll get my contractor to come over or a friend and look at it...If it's broke I have a plan and if it's not that's cool too!
OH, also ran into a co-worker of POWS last night which kind of upset me and I did let it take up space in my head for some time...he was trying to say that he kept talking to POWS and telling him that it would work out and he was hoping to run into me...I told him he didn't know HALF of the story that someone was getting violent and I wasn't going to stick around for him to hit me...
he sai something about how he thought that if the HNs didn't get involved that that would have helped too...I said YEAH, accusing me of pulling a gun on one of them and POWS was STILL doing me and the kids dirt...no thank you! So I did let that upset me and I had to keep telling myself to stop thinking about it...wasn't working so I called a friend and talked about it...that made it better...
We're going to the circus tonight! I'm looking forward to it...and my computer parts came in yesterday so I'll have a new computer up and running this weekend. HURRAY!!!!
Well, I'm SUPER TIRED TODAY...last to nights I've gone to bed at 1am and this morning it was so cold in the house that I just stayed up, warming the house with the oven...I'll go home for lunch and take a nap and make it a point to go to bed early tonight!
I KNOW THAT I'M TRYING TO GET TO MUCH done right now and I need to let it go and slow down...
So that's where I am today and have been...I'm feeling pretty good...still waiting to hear from my lawyer about the judgement and consequences for POWS...
I've lost 14 pounds and had to go buy new clothes this past weekend...now I'm in a six and headed for my fours...but I didn't have any NICE clothes at the house in my size...that's from a 12 to a 6...being 4'11" that's a huge difference...
Well, let me get to work this morning, it's going to be a struggle to made it to lunch today...I had an errand to run but I'm going to skip it...it's not that important and CAN WAIT!!
Hope you ALLLLLLLLL have a blessed day!! Take care!
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Hi All! Talked to my Paralegal today...POWS was within the time frame on the arrears...apparently they asked for an extension...great that I was informed...oh, well...
SO, POWS is current on his CS! Rough judgment still sitting on my lawyer's desk for him to look over...so we're in teh process...it's just still slow!
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