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When he calls, tell him what you called him for.
Your H won't be "MAD"; he'll be FURIOUS!
The conversation will go something like this: (Only giving his lines because you don't really need to reply to his tirade)
"Why on earth would you do that?" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />
"He's gonna call the company and stir up trouble there." <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />
"I was going to give you a chance and try to work on the marriage, but after this...no way!" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
"You just blew the only chance you ever had." <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />
"How can I ever trust you again?" (I still laugh at this one when I hear it) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />
"Great! Now you've ruined their marriage, too." <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />
"You shoulda kept your nose out of it. I would have handled it." (Yeah...he'd have found a way for it to go deeper underground.) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />
He'll probably say a bunch of other things, too. All of which are simply a bunch of hot air that means nothing of significance in the grand scheme of your marriage. Your marriage can survive his anger but cannot survive a continuing A. It's all just gaslighting on his part.
Just so you know..anyone who ever exposed their S's A to OP's S has heard nearly the same things, just about word for word. As you listen to him try to remember that you already know what he is likely to say. Also try to focus on the absurdity of it rather than it's content, since at least then you'll see it for what it really is. Listen, pause and think..."You should have thought about being sued when you started this tryst with a married woman you work with..." (If it will make you feel better, add "Moron!" to the end of that....Don't say it out loud, you don't need to out shout him to be right. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
Just trying to let you know what's coming and that we've all been through it. It will pass. It will pass faster if you can ignore it rather than respond it it and turn it into a shouting match.
Mark
PS If you expose to the company, it won't be so much of a shock to them when OWH calls to file a lawsuit... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
Last edited by Mark1952; 08/02/07 08:48 AM.