ok, i am back. short reprieve i know. but you guys are my friends and i want to be able to talk to you.

and i want to plan an mb weekend.

and i want to respect gekkos privacy and mine.

i had a hard week last week and vented here A LOT when i should have kept it between me and my therapist knowing there was a chance that gekko might read what i was writing. that was really inconsiderate of me and most of my posts were during a very emotional and reactionary time. i was thinking only of myself and not others feelings.

so, i am starting this thread to just talk about me only, what is going on, how MY therapy is going, my diet, my exercise, my business, my kids, and my music. i will not post about gekko anymore period no matter what is going on good or bad in our picture or lack thereof. i don't plan to date right now, but if that happens, i don't plan to post about it, i want to keep my privacy in that respect just that, private. i just plan to work on me and getting ME as healthy as i can.

so lets keep planning that weekend!
my business is going well. i just got a new chair for pedicures. it is in a word AWESOME! ooohhhh yes... it VIBRATES and has HEAT in it... all over body massage. hey, me and my chair... ooo la la, i can stay single quite a while as long i have that chair! lol

raw diet and exercise continue to go well. since the weight is coming off so well i am thinking of looking back into jazzercise again. my one business is doing really well, why not have another too. i love making my own hours and having cash in hand every day :-)

not too much going on this weekend. i have a bunch of cds to hand out to some church people. i have some offers to sing in florida come this winter! now THAT is exciting. i pray god continues to open doors for me in that area.

sad news is my dog will be getting put down soon. poor old man. wanted to wait til the end of the month but i don't think i can. he can barely walk. :-( i am preparing my children for it. oh, and i forgot to tell you that they won goldfish at the fair when we went! lol one has died all ready of course. so i will have to replace it. but we got a mini tank for them. geez, my kids were so excited about those fish. you would think they won a million dollars.

have a lovely weekend all. i will check in when i can but i have a lot to do this weekend. some homework for school (my history assignment is due) and lots of cleaning and mow the yard and the list goes on and on....

good nite all and remember, this is my ME thread. no relationship talks here, just about me and my stuff and how i am doing. kind of my mb blog LOL

later!
mlhb

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I knew you couldn't stay away long! You can't help but miss us...

Welcome back.

I'm glad things are going well with work and your diet.That pedicure chair sounds terrific.But sorry about your doggie. That's sad <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> Thankfully I don't have to deal with that just yet. My dog has several good years left I hope.

I hope we can get that weekend gathering going.I'm looking forward to it!

Well, I'm headed to the beach house this morning for a few days. mlhb I had a question for you probably best posed in private so I might IM ya when I get back.

Have a great weekend!!

P.S. I'm holding you to no guy talk on THIS thread! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

have a fun weekend AB and you can IM me anything. i will try to help however i can.

there will be no guy talk from me anywhere on any threads so don't worry.

it is nice and cool here today so i think i will get out there and mow.

good saturday all
mlhb

well it is half way through saturday and it is freezing today! it has been pretty humid here for several days so now that it is in the 60's it feels chilly.

i have contacted the closest jazzercise instructor i could find to get some information. i could just prepare myself for my own business and do my own thing but i have no idea what to do. at least with jazzercise they are all ready set up and they help you every step of the way. you do have to pay them a certain percentage of your sales every month though. but they are a well known name and i can take my certification anywhere. i am going to keep working on me and getting into shape (altho with jazzercise the nice thing is you do NOT have to be perfect) and i figure i will be ready for a workshop and have the money for my investment in the franchise by the spring. between that and my other business which i am working on a full blown continued advertisement campaign, i should do really well. i think my 15+ years in management has given me the background for this!

i will also get more cds done this week hopefully and within the next 2 weeks get them mailed probably to churches right now that are within driving distance. altho florida i will have to fly to.

so i plan to keep pretty busy and that is all good and it is all healthy stuff.

more sad news tho.....
my nose ring closed :-( WWWWAAAAAAAAA!!!
when i put the smaller one in it did not penetrate all the way through my nose so the hole inside my nose closed off. well, i can put an earring in but it won't stay, it just pops right back out. major bummer as i really loved it. so.... i WILL get it repierced in the near future.

hope your saturday is going well.
kids and i are off to have some fun now.

mlhb

good sunday morning!
officially down 30 pounds! woo hoo!

you can't beat that. i am feeling so much better. i am so glad i got out of my plateau i had been hanging at for awhile. it is this way of eating i am sure that is doing it.

well, off to church. kids have a bday party today, i want to come home and exercise and clean than back to church tonight i think....

take care
mlhb

hey, check out my sig line! yes, i have decided to "blog" again! dear lord, i was not too good at it last time but this time i am committed to it LOL

i hope you will check it out, leave feedback and comments, and join me there!

off to church. we have some music ministry going on tonight and i have a cd of mine to give to the missionary there. ya never know, maybe he knows of some churches i can sing in!

nite all
mlhb

Hey AB, where's the beach house? Sounds like a good place for an MB gettogether.

hey newly, that sounds like an awesome idea but she told me on IM the other night where it is and it is too far of a hike for most of us...

does albany work out ok for you newly or no?

i'd like us all to agree to a weekend in september.

i can do most of them so throw out dates people.

mlhb

just wanted to say happy monday to everyone.

hope it goes well.

i have work today, some history homework, go walking an hour with the kids tonight, fold laundry..
try to contain your excitement! lol

mlhb

I can probably do Albany. I just need to work around when I'm heading farther north.
Just pick the date. It will be nice to meet you. And I hope we can convince Nams to come too when we have an actual date/place.

You should look up an Appleby's, Friday's, or some park at which we can meet. Then we can decide on a signal, like wearing a yellow ribbon to denote any MBers arriving.

yellow ribbon? i can't just ask for the cool tables? i'm in for albany any day! the sooner we can nail down a date tho, the easier it'll be for me to ask my family to watch my daughter.

p.s. your blog seems to cut off comments if too long.

hey ashes, i will look into that. were you being long winded? LOL

i have to run but will comment more later on dates and such.

mlhb

ashes, i commented on your comment and it worked for me just fine. maybe try again another time...

mlhb

maybe it's my web browser or computer display settings. i just can't view the whole width. either way, thoughtful comment to my comment <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

well fix your web browser or display setting! haha

ok mb weekenders here are 2 weekends i am putting out there:

Saturday Sepetmeber 15th or Saturday September 22... any takers?

mlhb

Ok, I started reading a book called "dating without drama" awhile back. this is only for gals (sorry guys, but you can pipe up on anything posted if you would like haha). it is written by a woman and covers all aspects of dating. i have only glanced at bits and pieces but it was an online ebook. anyhoo, i did sign up for her weekly "dating dish" she sends out and i thought i would start sharing them here. i think us girls over analyze sometimes and look way too much into things. i like these little weekly "scoops" as they help to keep me a bit grounded shall we say. so here is this weeks "dating dish" from "dating without drama"

And now onto your Dating Dish Newsletter for Aug. 14, 2007:


The other day my friend Molly and I were out having
a girls' catch-up session over mango margaritas and,
about fifteen minutes after we sit down, the conversation
turns to - what else? - GUYS.

It starts when Molly's face twists up into a little knot
and immediately I can tell that she wants to ask me something.

(It's the look that ALL of my girlfriends get when they're
about to ask me dating advice since they know I do it for
a living...)

I laugh and say, "Okay, Mol, what is it," because
A) she's my friend and I would do anything to help and
B) let's face it, a dating coach is never REALLY
"off the clock."

So Molly spills her guts.

She's been seeing this new guy - let's call him Sam - and
for weeks things seemed like they were going great...

They were spending lots of time together, Sam was calling
regularly, the chemistry was incredible, and she really
thought that things were going SOMEWHERE...

Then all of a sudden, Sam began to pull away.

The phone calls became a little less frequent.

He cancelled their dinner plans one night because he was
"tired."

"So what's his DEAL?" Molly asks. "I thought we were on our
way to becoming serious and now it seems like it's the
beginning of the end!

How can I MAKE him realize that I'm the one he was meant to
be with?!?"

Then Molly makes another face...

One where she kind of squinches up her eyes and purses her
lips as if to say, "Okay, Paige... I know you're about to give
me some tough love. Dish it."

I laugh again and say, "First of all, Molly, you and I both
know that you can't MAKE him realize that you're 'the one.'

He should KNOW it because he's had the privilege to spend
time with the amazing, gorgeous, brilliant, hilarious person
you are.

But here's the thing about guys... As much as most of them
really DO want a relationship with a special woman, when the
opportunity actually arises to CREATE that relationship,
THEY FREAK OUT."

Molly takes a gulp of her margarita and nods her head.

I explain that it isn't personal...

It's likely that Sam is apprehensive about the IDEA of
commitment, not necessarily a commitment WITH Molly.

"You see, a guy usually needs to EASE his way into a committed
relationship like he would ease his way into a hot tub:

He's pretty sure that once he gets all the way into the
hot tub (i.e. commits), it's going to feel AMAZING...

But the first time he touches the water it feels
UNCOMFORTABLY HOT...

So he first has to dip his toe in and get used to
that (i.e. go on a few dates with you)...

Then eventually he can get his legs in and, hey,
it's really not so bad (i.e. seeing you on a regular
basis, opening up and letting you get to know him)...

(Insert your own joke here about what it takes
to get him in past his 'nether regions!')

And before you know it, he's in the water (i.e. relationship),
he's loving it, and he never wants to get out!

"Ok, that makes sense," Molly replies. "So what can I do NOW?"

"Give him some space and he'll figure it out," I answer.

This doesn't seem to satisfy her, and I know exactly why.

My friend Molly is a go-getter, both in her career and in
her relationships. She likes to MAKE THINGS HAPPEN. Even
more than that, she likes to be in CONTROL.

But the truth that Molly - and all of us, really - need to
understand, is that WE SIMPLY DO NOT HAVE CONTROL OVER
ANYONE'S ACTIONS BUT OUR OWN.

We can't MAKE someone decide that they can't live without us...

We can only be ourselves and hope that the guy in our life is
worthy - and by worthy I mean that he's smart enough to realize
that we're totally irresistible.

And if he DOESN'T come to that conclusion on his own...
Well, then, why waste another second of our precious
time on a doofus who can't recognize how fabulous we are
anyway?!?

hey, it may not be perfect advice but a lot of it makes since to me!

take it or leave it. or have a good chuckle.

disclaimer: i am providing this for you ladies out there, and am no way going to comment on anything or how it pertains to me. i am sticking to my "not sharig personal relationship information on here anymore" rule. that is for me and my well paid therapist.

mlhb

also, for anyone reading my blog, i changed the template and now you an actually read the whole entire comment without it being cut off. i am finishing up my topics now and have added pictures under the topic "picture journey", top right hand corner of home page.

come and visit me often! :-)

mlhb

happy tuesday.
i am in a bit of turmoil this week. i HAVE to set the date of when to put the dog down. this is NO easy task. my kids are like "no mommy, we don't want to do that!" but this dog can barely walk, is numb from the waist down, cannot feel when he has to go to the bathroom thus has accidents, and just paces and paces. he seems to be sticking to me like glue lately almost as if he knows what is going to happen.

my kids have been taking tons of pictures of him these past few weeks. i gave him a bath the other night and even though he eats like a pig he is just skin and bones under that fur. omg, i am not a huge dog person, these dogs were my exes dogs, but i do have a heart and it makes me feel very sad to have to do this. and this is really stressing my kids out. my dd has been so stressed about the dog and having to go to her father's more this month due to vacation time that she actually wet the bed the other night. my dd has not wet the bed since she was about 4 years old. she is 10 now. trust me, that little girl is really stressing. she has cried more this month than i have seen in a very long time. and i feel helpless. i comfort her but she still cries because she knows she has to go to her dads and she knows the dog IS getting put down. poor little girl.

i am angry too because my ex should be the enduring this stress not me since it is his dog. but he is enduring nothing and only told me he would "try" to pay half of what it costs to put him down because money is "tight" for him. yeah right tight my a**. he lives with ow and between the 2 of them make quite good money. he takes the kids away for weekends to hotels all the time. trust me, he is not hurting for money. i am only paying half of that bill whether he likes it or not, i will have the vet bill him for the other half. she knows it was his dog.

i have a college exam on thursday too. and the kids are with their dad most of this week since he is using some of his vaca time with them. tues-thurs night and they are with him all day friday while i work. it sucks. not a good week at all. and i have to reschedule my therapy appt as i can't make it tomorrow now. ugh. too much at once, too much at once.

hope everyone else is having a better week.
mlhb

i remember having to put our cat down 7 years ago, it wasn't easy. it happened so quickly though and no kids involved but it was still hard.

nice template, can see all of comments now but your pictures aren't showing up. they are linked to your yahoo emails. i think you need to upload them to freewebs if possible.

now that is wierd about the pix! they show up when i look at it. and i cut and pasted them too...

back to the drawing board.....

mlhb