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Dr Harley and many folks here strongly recommend relocating family as one method of killing A. Anyone out there actually gone through it themselves and can share their experiences? My biggest concern is moving high school age children and the impact it'll have on their lives. My situation is explained in http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/sho...e=0#Post3289770Thanks in advance
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Capitan, we have some who lived in the same neighborhood or even next door to the OP and moved. One was BigKahuna. They have 3 teenage boys and they moved out immediately to get away from the OM.
It is much better for kids to move than to risk the ruination of their family via a repeat of the affair. His kids understood exactly why they moved and understood the reasons.
It was a good lesson for them to see their father taking a stand against adultery in defense of their family. BigK's marriage is recovered today and his boys are doing great.
Do you live close to the OM?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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My situation a little different. OM is about 3 hours away, and that won't change if I move my family to my new duty station (military). Primary reason to move is to have family co-located with me, otherwise I'll be coming home on weekends. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />
If he were near, you bet I'd move.
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Moving is a big family item. Discuss it with your family but you will need t/b the one to make the final decision.
Children adapt well but may grumble for a while. Move for the right reason....to keep your family in tact.
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Cap,
We are in the process of trying to sell our house and move out of state to put more distance between us and OW. We're (optimistically) hoping for an offer this week. We'll let you know what comes of it and how the move goes.
Not sure if I mentioned this in past post: my H quit his job in Jan 07 when he confessed his affair. He didn't know if he could stay away from OW. We put the house up for sale in Feb and wanted to move in May/June. The house didn't sell so he got another job 3 blocks away from where OW and he worked. I'm still very nervous about possible (inadvertant?) contact.
It will take some sacrifice, but the choice between moving schools and possibly having family disintegrate is a pretty easy one, IMO.
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Me 44 WH 46
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Dday 2 Jan 19 07 EA and PA
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