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I just saw you post and didn't want to thread jack. From your sig. line doesn't look like much has changed. How are you and the kids?
Things are great here! We never did get the house on the market. We'll probably wait til DS is out of HS now. I have a post here somewhere, I'll bump it up
aka-confused42 BS-45 me WH-42 DS-14 & DD-12 together 21 yrs, married 18.5yrs "I love you but not IN love with you" speech 6/3/04 D-Day 2/25/05; WH moved out 3/15/05 & back too soon 3/22/05...He left again 5/8/06 5/25/06 Plan B.....NC letter 6/18/06 Recovery finally began Jan 2007 We are IN love again!!!Sept 2007
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From your sig. line doesn't look like much has changed. I guess I better start changing my sig line then <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
Married 10 years, Legally Seperated Aug 2,2006 1 year of Plan A followed by 1 year of Plan B... ...now stepping towards recovery????? BH 37(me), WW 35, DB 7 & DD 5 My Story My struggle with an EA
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I guess I better start changing my sig line then ...........and?
aka-confused42 BS-45 me WH-42 DS-14 & DD-12 together 21 yrs, married 18.5yrs "I love you but not IN love with you" speech 6/3/04 D-Day 2/25/05; WH moved out 3/15/05 & back too soon 3/22/05...He left again 5/8/06 5/25/06 Plan B.....NC letter 6/18/06 Recovery finally began Jan 2007 We are IN love again!!!Sept 2007
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Much has happened in the last few weeks....
Back in March my WW invited me out for coffee with the kids and I accepted, however it didn't really go well since not much was said between the two of us as I was waiting to see what she was bringing to the table. I felt duped and after that returned to Plan B until she tried to make contact in late June, just before my birthday. She asked if she could accompany the kids to celebrate my birthday.
At that point I restated my Plan B conditions to which I received a confusing response from her so I declined her self-inviation and went dark again. She had wrote me a note in a card that said she wanted to go away with the kids to see if we could "try again".
In the meantime I noticed my WW had humbled herself based on the voice messages she was leaving for the kids and in once case where I refused to speak with her after she called she broke down while on the phone with my son.
She was crashing...
All the while this is happening, my life was also progressing well. I had regained my self-respect and was meeting new an interesting people who enjoyed my company. I felt good about myself and had almost resingned myself to the notion that a divorce is inevitable.
Almost 1 year from the start of my Plan B, I was contemplating contacting my lawyer to begin the D process. Then she called and asked asked if I wanted to come over and something about this call seemed different.
I accepted and went over for dinner. She went all out and cooked a meal she knows I love. She was asking me questions and divulging alot of what was going on in her life without me even asking. She seemed to be making an effort to show me that OM is clearly out of the picture and has been for a very long time. She even introduced me to her neighbor as her "husband".
I left that night not knowing if I even wanted to try and recover my marriage any more. I still feel that way, but knowing about Harley's $LB concept I am willing to see if my feelings can change, as long as she continues to show actions that are consistent with recovery.
She has been calling me almost everyday and has an excitement in her voice that I haven't heard in years. The look in her eyes is also slowly coming back. The alien is gone and she reminds me of the woman who I orginally fell in love with so long ago.
It has only been over a week since this started so I am very cautions and just taking things very slow.
So that's my situation right now. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
Married 10 years, Legally Seperated Aug 2,2006 1 year of Plan A followed by 1 year of Plan B... ...now stepping towards recovery????? BH 37(me), WW 35, DB 7 & DD 5 My Story My struggle with an EA
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Now that wasn't so hard was it??? Just a year or so of insane crap. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />
If you want it.....you date your wife....let her be interested in you...believe me....as her lighthouse, it can be better than ever!!!
Update your thread with this, I'd be interested in seeing others thoughts and reactions!!!
Thinking of you my friend! MWIL
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Well, you have been a busy boy! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
I'm glad to see that your wife is not insane and that she was just lost in fog. Its wonderful that you are invested in the MB system and willing to give WW (FWW) a 2nd chance. Re-read the post from ark^^ about being still.
I think the most difficult part of our recovery has been that I want to hurry and get there. I see my DH and I'm sooo happy he is back. I have to sit back and let him catch up. Its kind of like he's been in a coma and has to reorient to the real world.
Go slow, trust your gut and enjoy! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
Thanks for sharing your news.
aka-confused42 BS-45 me WH-42 DS-14 & DD-12 together 21 yrs, married 18.5yrs "I love you but not IN love with you" speech 6/3/04 D-Day 2/25/05; WH moved out 3/15/05 & back too soon 3/22/05...He left again 5/8/06 5/25/06 Plan B.....NC letter 6/18/06 Recovery finally began Jan 2007 We are IN love again!!!Sept 2007
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(((MWIL)))! Its like a reunion around here!
I hope your recovery is continuing to go well. There are quite a few of new BH that could benefit from your story. If you have time. Check in on Michaelsheart1. He reminds me of you.
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And likewise for you! My wife and I have chosen to enjoy our recovery...more trips, family time, and a nice new home we are about to move into, and we're so excited!!
I guess for you, just try and not push the "getting over it" part....I think that is just part of time, and learning to trust again....instead...don't just settle for having him back....attract him in the ways you know you can, and make it better! You'll push the level of intamacy, unbeknowst to your husband, and the feeling of needing to know every detail, (IMO) will abate.
I'll check in with Michaelsheart1...... Godbless! MWIL
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