Can you imagine telling someone they have to stay hidden because they look ugly? Who could do that? And who would want to go out with someone who could do that? OR even thought like that.

Oh Who, you got yourself a handful, don't you?

What does he look like anyway? I won't even let my DD talk about people's looks. I tell her we look with our hearts, not our eyes.

Tell him next time "please, DH, try to look with your heart and not your eyes", or handsome is as handsome does". Oh, I wish I was that boys mother. LOL

I was a little worried about writing how I hoped things would not turn out well for WH. But I knew there had to others that had to have felt the same way.

There is just no part of me that hopes he goes on to have a wonderful life and/or marriage. Hopefully, sooner rather than later, he'll regret his choices. I just hope I get to hear about it!

You don't have to hope for good things for him, and you don't have to feel bad about that either.

However, you do have to hope for good things for yourself and make that your focus.

Are you doing okay in that department, yet? I know it takes a while. It's a process we all have had to go through.

Weaver,



Yup.


Fairly nice looking, but short even by women's standards. Course I am only 5'1" so it doesn't really matter.

Really, I think in his weird way, he is trying to reassure me that he never did find OW attractive.

I have always worked really hard on staying slim (some would say too hard) and it really irked me that he had an affair with a pretty heavy and unattractive woman.

He was pretty unhappy with me tho so maybe it was an intentional slap in the face aimed at me. Like the affair wasn't bad enough, he had to show poor taste as well!

Re the hotel thing, I think he used the excuse that some business associate who had met me might see them together, but it had to have been kinda depressing for her just the same.

I do know that he told me OW got really annoyed with him after he had commented on the attractiveness of several women on TV....all who resembled me to some obvious extent.

Don't get me wrong, my FWH isn't that shallow and I didn't mean to make him seem so, I just used to wonder a bit about how OW would have been received by folks who knew me, they would have mostly thought that he had lost his mind.

Who

It's weird how everyone who engages in adultry seems to trade down. No one can seem to believe who they are with when they have this really great looking, accomplished, intelligent spouse at home.

It's really, really strange but no so surprising when you understand about adultry and how it is alway all about the WS and not the BS.

The POS I was with was somebody I wouldn't have walked across the street with, normally. He was that gross, and he couldn't even read. I don't know what happened there.

I saw his picture not too long after he left, and I swear I almost threw up. I became physically ill.

Personality wise, he is a snake. Lookswise, I guess I thought he was attractive at the time, but now he is disgustingly, grossly, piggishly butt-ugly looking to me.

How's that for shallow, LOL.