JL:
I'm not sure we'll hear from BB again. Something he said about his visit with his WW bothers me, though, and I just have 2 say this. Maybe it'll be of some use 2 others in a similar si2ation, if not BB:
Hi JL
The night of meeting her in Seattle without this very controlling Om knowing, we had Sex in the Hotel room. See has been in my home town for a week now and since that night in Seattle we have had sex almost every day for the last 2 weeks. The OM insists she calls him every day and she does. However she wants me too and is with me every day. Is she close emotionally? No, not always. Changes from to moment.. It is confusing but call me a pig but I can’t help but ****** her every chance we get.
Thankfully, I don't need 2 call this behavior "piggish" because BB already did that (and so he recognizes it for what it is).
This behavior was not in BB's best interest for at least 3 "obvious" reasons (and these can serve as an example for others in this si2ation, and BB, if you read around on this or any other infidelity forum, you'll realize this si2ation is rather common):
1. Mrs BB may have brought home an STD. BB 2k a risk 2 his own health by having SF with her.
2. Why keep this visit and the activities secret from the OM? You want 2 END the affair, not prolong it by supporting secrecy.
3. Your W will go back "home" 2 the OM confused, alright. You have confirmed her revisionist suspicion (assuming it isn't really true), that you only want her for sex, you don't want her for who she is. Heck, I got accused of the same thing, and I NEVER treated my W in that manner.
I believe that she is very confused and so do our friends. Plan B will be the action of my choice in last few days she is here. Call it selfish but the sex is great and I won’t stop that.
Again, I didn't need 2 call it selfish, because it is obvious that you recognize it for what it is.
I wish I could remember who said "the best way 2 a woman's heart is through her ears". Not sex.
Even WSs need 2 be shown some level of respect, otherwise where's the draw for them 2 end their A and come home? I don't mean honor their behavior. I mean remind them of the good qualities that they have that made you fall in love with them in the first place.
That's good plan A (and plan B) behavior. Boning a confused infidel every chance you get, because it feels good, is not.
-ol' 2long