Not sure if this is the right place to post... but I'm too upset to really care... I just need advice.

Ex and I were never married, but were together for 14+ years, so to me it was like a marriage. To make a very long story short... he cheated and moved in with OW 2 years ago (Aug 2005). After all of the financial stuff was settled, we has no reason to be in contact anymore, so I haven't seen or heard from him since April 2006. I think I've always held out hope, he would miss me and come back. Or at least make contact again since he never took much of his stuff (and I just couldn't bear to throw it out).

Anyways, I found out today (about 30 min ago) that they were married 2 wks ago on Aug 17th. I know it sounds so dumb, but I can't stop crying.

I've been having so much trouble getting back out there and trying to date again. I was with my ex from the time I was 18 until I was 32... It's so hard to imagine being with anyone else. I've never really dated before. I've been on a couple dates in the past 2 years, but it just makes me miss the ex even more...

any thoughts... besides the fact that I feel so pathetic.

--Jen

Hi. I am sorry for your pain. It sounds like you need some counseling to help you with this problem.

I was at one time in the same boat as you...but now enjoy dating and getting to know some pretty terrific women. Don't be ashamed to seek out the help you need.///you are not pathetic...just stuck. It will get better.

Be well.