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oh come one Justuss....that was funny!
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that makes it even funnier! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />
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that must be all you're fault Mk
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Latest email.... her "ears must have been ringing" I love you more than you know...more than I should Funny how I was thinking of how much I really do love her this morning and then I get this email this afternoon. I hope the DA drops all charges so I can go home.
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Man, it's just killing her that she's not getting any response from you. But you know what, you're doing absolutely the right thing. I think when you finally do get to send her the letter it's going to blow her away and she's going to feel so foolish. Let's just hope she's decent enough to admit that she's been wrong about you all along and you guys can get into some serious MC.
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“In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists.” Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story
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Latest email.... her "ears must have been ringing" I love you more than you know...more than I should Funny how I was thinking of how much I really do love her this morning and then I get this email this afternoon. I hope the DA drops all charges so I can go home. This e-mail made me smile.... She is hurt, angry, hormonal and doesn't know what end is up. But she DOES love you <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />. I would take that leap of faith when you are able to see her again. Hold her and tell her you love her and want to be a family. You will have a hard road ahead but don't you think it's worth a shot?
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You will have a hard road ahead but don't you think it's worth a shot? .... ....... isn't..... that ....... why I'm here?
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Right after I posted a funny thought came into my head. I don't know if you will find it funny but I got a chuckle. You and your wife are like huge polar icecaps that are slowly melting. We may have to start blaiming you two for global warming. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />
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I might find that humorus...if I inderstood it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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As I read your posts over time both of you were filled with so much anger and resentment (cold, distant and angry) then every so often you melt a little (putting your ring back on, wanting to be home with your wife not just your son.) Then she sends you that e-mail after all her other cold ones. I guess that is just what popped into my head. How I saw it as an outsider.
It has been quite a ride for you both. None of us knows the whole truth about what happened in the past. Even you and your wife have questions. I think your wife believes you had an affair and was reacting to that. Did she have a revenge affair? Only she knows that. I think there is a really good chance that she didn't, was a carrier all these years. Hopefully you both can get to a place where you both feel safe to openly talk to each other and trust again. I am hopeful for that.
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Don't worry, he'll be receiving more maliscious and cold ones as soon as she realizes he isn't falling for her lovey-dovey one.
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probably true.... if one way doesn't work, she tries another...
I wonder if she realizes what the RO actually does. Or if she thinks I'm that stupid to jepordize my freedom for something like a reply.
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probably true.... if one way doesn't work, she tries another...
I wonder if she realizes what the RO actually does. Or if she thinks I'm that stupid to jepordize my freedom for something like a reply. I think she wasn't thinking clearly when she got the RO. Now she realizes what effect it has on her and wants it lifted. Kind of like trying to talk to someone in a coma. You know they can hear you, you hope they respond but soon you realize you will not be answered until they come out of it. I also think (Ironicly) that it was a good thing because as she sends those messages and doesn't get a responce she has to do more thinking. THAT is why I think you got the last one.
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Why? Why? WHY?!?! Why does she insist that she thinks since she dropped the charges everything magically goes away for me?? Printed this off and faxed to my lawyer. Has your attorney heard from the DA?
If they aren't dropping charges aren't they making the deal for the Conditional Mal Proc (sp?)
I thought that meant this would be resolved sooner...at least that is what I was told.
This forced no-contact really stinks.
Your son is missing you more and more. He says "Dada, I miss him. I give him hugs and kisses"
He tells me this several times a day...I feel so bad. He thinks you are working all the time.
He is spending the night in (town name removed) tonight so the house will be unusually quiet.
If you miss us both so much and want to come home, why haven't you made an effort to see him?
I know he would love to see you even for just a little while.
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