He thinks I'm working becuase that's the last thing I told him when I left from the civl standby. (he says through all his tears, trying to hold them back and be a man).

This weekend is going to SUCK!!!

gee ya think....dumb broad. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

sounds like a good night to have someone watch the house..

Exactly what I thought Bit.

She sent another email to clarify... not that this means anything though

What gets meis that she had hindsite to send this... why didn't she send it in the first one?

My coworker said he'd do a few drive-bys tonight. The Boss over heard us talking about it and she said it's a bad idea. If my wife were to ever send someone down to my office and they see his car... we'd both get the screws. (weird how now my boss doesn't want to help).

Why can't you see your son at her sister's? The RO is between you and your wife, right?

does the co-worker have to drive his car....I am sure being a young guy....he has friends who wouldn't mind taking a detour.

Just now, 4:22PM Nov 2, 2007, I got a phone call on my cell...it's her cell. I can't answer... obviously.

"Hi It's me, I know you can't talk to me but listen...this is getting ridiculous, we NEED to be able to talk to each other. How are we going to move forward if we can't talk. You need to get on the phone and call whoever you need to call and tell them you want to see your son. I would much rather you have him then drop him off with my sister, you know that.... Anyway, find a third party or something and get this taken care of will ya? ok...Bye".

Tell me.... is this a womain who fears I will kill her?
Is this a woman who feels threatened by me? Is there really an OM or is she STILL just 'into' her job?

call the lawyer NOW!!!!!

She is desperatly trying to get a babysitter tonight....she's got plans...

Let's examine that for a minute...
1, her sister and I have not gotten along since day one. After she came to my house when me and my wife were still just dating and tried to sleep with me...

2, her Dad is a retired Vet and lives litterally right next door.... her family knows more than I think they should know right now. Her Dad will make sure I get no where near there.

3, Actaully... New Hampsire RO states I am to have no contact with her family, freinds, and co-workers too... first person, being me, or third party.

So no.. I cannot go see my son at her sister's. Now... if I could get a message to her to drop him off at MY sister's... that might be doable without violating my RO. However...getting that message to her will.

I'm still screwed. NH... the "Live Free or Die" State.

You have my sympathy and condolences. Hang smart and tough. Maybe it will turn out for you like it did for me. My Ex did this (very similar) - and ended up paying dearly for it in court. For me it was the straw that broke my back. Like you I was outraged. Thru my lawyer I got agressive and never looked back as for me reconsiliation was now not something I would consider any longer. My lawyer turned the tables and exposed her charector to the courts and.... she got taken to the cleaners in the divorce settlment - including me winning custody of my then 4 year old son and 1 year old daughter.

I hope Karma works for you like it did me.


Keep the faith.

Already did... he can't do anything. He's done what he can with the DA. It's all up to the DA now. Sometime next week I'm supposed to get my new court date. I think this is CRAP, that my lawyer AND my wife are talking to the DA, saying the SAME THING, and the DA still won't ammend the Bail conditions. BUT... the DA has no problems moving the date sooner? With all this proof and the pleading of my wife to the DA to drop it all... I think the judge will laugh the DA out of the courtroom. What gives?!!?

Hmmm... bet sis has backed out.

I don't think the DA has the power to actually AMEND the bail conditions. I think he can RECOMMEND an amendment and then present it to the Judge, thus the hearing next week (which is pretty fast considering the legal system these days.)

Yep, but it's not fast enoguh for me...
My lawyer said the hearing won't be for bail conditions, this will be the real deal.

I am SOOOOOO hopeful to be home in time for Thanksgiving!

As for tongiht... the thought never entered my mind that there were plans with OM or anything. I figured it was for work... maybe the "meeting inthe early AM" is for marital? ...financial?

Yep, her sister must have backed out of babysitting, and she figures that if YOU have your son, YOU won't be as likely to catch her with the OM. She probably figures that you are at least spying on her, even if she hasn't seen you. At any rate, she might just want to make sure you are too busy to spy on her tonight.

You need to get somebody over to check out what she's doing tonight.

I'm a fool for sitting here looking at her screen name on my IM window trrying to will it to come back from "away" to "online" aren't I?

I'm sure she's dropping the boy off at her sister's, which is about an hour away from the house. Bed time is right now, but I'm even more certian my lovely sister in law, who doesn't even take care of her own daughter, will keep him up until she's tired of playing with her new toy for the evening, or he just plain crashes out. Wonder where he'll be sleeping tonight... she doesn't have a crib, and he better not be in someone's bed without gard rails.

So... she MIGHT be home between 8:30-9:00. But then that bed time for her too... and if she has an early meeting tomorrow....

Yeah my mind will not rest tongiht. Garuanteed.

The thing about the sister.... we had her watch our puppy once just for a few hours. She couldn't even do that... a puppy! We got him back with a broken leg... she doesn't know how it happened. Her daughter is 6 but about 80% raised by her grandparents you live right next door. Their back yards are one collective yard...

Then of course there allt he talkt hat will go on about us and why I'm not around... remember how my wife tells my son I'm a loser? Well the first time my son repeated the F word was from Auntie. yeah... the more I think about this the more breaking my RO to get him away from her sounds worth it.

Nah... my sister in law would never pass up the chance to ...as she likes to put it... play with her new toy. (My son) i wouldn't put it past her at all to stick him in the stroller my wife will leave with her and take him for a walk down town...where my sister in law goes every weekend...to the bars. only she won't be able to get in with him, but she'll do all she can to show him off... at night... in the cold....

No... sis didn't back out. She never would. It helps her be the center of attention she's alwasy craving.

TOMK,
I've just spent hours reading your thread. I feel for you and your wife. I may be too close to some of the issues to be totally objective but just imagine what your wife is going through if she has never cheated and this is indeed a false positive. I have information from the nhs in the uk that only 35%, yes 35% of positive chlamydia tests are true positives. Those statistics blew my mind. I know your wife has acted badly but if this is a false positive she must be hurting really badly. Here she is supporting her family, pregnant and she finds out that she has an STD. If she hasn't cheated she 'knows' her husband has. I know I have been there. I have NEVER slept with anyone other than my husband and I got a positive result. (I believe you have read my thread) Was I mad, emotional, irrational - YOU BET! I wanted the truth or the only truth I'd believe. Your wife's comment about 'moving on' doesn't mean she has an OM. I used that phrase myself. I was madly in love with my husband but I was so upset that he had 'cheated' and even more upset that he would lie about it. He too tested negative - twice! When I told one nurse about his results she said he was lying, yes, a medical person told me my husband was lying. He took me to his doctor who printed out his results, 2 separate, different types of tests said he was negative. It is probably too late for your wife to be tested again but there is a blood test which tells you if you have or have ever had chlamydia. A few other things I picked up on: your wife's fear of you kidnapping son could be related to her first son being adopted and the lack of support from her then partner. Is it possible that your wife thinks that she is not really worthy of you. Could this be where her jealousy comes from? You mentioned that she used to go to the gym at 4am and that recently she has been leaving for work at 4am. Could she have resumed her gym visits? And that you not noticing her efforts have made her even more insecure? I know from experience that the lack of communication that you described in recent years makes minds race. We can convince ourselves of anything! You mention that when your wife started arguing that you ignored her. After my tests results I wanted answers, my husband refused to talk to me and yes it is passive aggressive. I took it as a sign that my husband didn't care. Here was I in turmoil, thinking that my husband had not only cheated but had risked my life with unprotected sex and he wouldn't even talk about it! I know it's impossible with the RO but as soon as it is lifted you too need to do some honest talking. The letter you have written is lovely. I would have loved to have recieved a letter like that just after I got those b****Y test results but unfortunately, like you, we had a long, horrible road to travel before we got there. I hope everything works out for you.