SC, I'm glad you're doing better, and that you are sharing with your FWH.

Thanks all! Can't sleep...AGAIN especially with taking bowel prep stuff. YUCKO!

I'll check in on y'all when I can. Take care, thanks again@

Take good care of yourself, mvg. Hope to hear from your soon, and I hope your recovery is swift.

OH, and , Happy Anniversary!

Good luck mvg.
And happy anniverary!!

Snow

Praying for you mvg. May you recover quickly and I hope Mr. mvg will pamper you in your recovery! (If your recovery is slow.....that's all the more reason for him to pamper you longer! LOL....wait...on second thought, don't laugh ~~~> CTS = Chuckle To Yourself <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />)

Ace

Thanks all, the prayers really helped. Surgery went great. However my BP was REALLY low (71/56) so they were concerned even tho i have low bp (90-60). Head hurt, food stunk, they wouldn't let me get up. Doc was busy delivery babies I was stuck with those nurses tho think they can just tell you whatever and you are not suppose to question them. Just EXPLAIN to my why I can't get up and I would've been ok, not just nope and that's it. I didn't care for that shift at all! Creeping crud H had is kicking in on me. I feel much better since taking cold meds and acid reducer cause of course gall bladder wants to act up too. Other then a little sore, swollen, and tender, surgically EASY stuff. But i am SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO glad to be home where i can be much more comfortable. I hope to catch up with y'all soon.

Ah, the wonderful serenity of the hospital. SYKE!!! Boy, I know what you mean, as my ONE NIGHT stay is far too fresh in my mind, except I was in the NICU (not neonatal--neurological), so the nurses were pretty cool, and took good care of me; it was just the incessant noise, the uncomfortable bed, and the other patients CODING down the hall--scary stuff, sad stuff.

I'm glad that you are home and well (for what you've been thru). Did they take the one ovary that you mentioned you may be having problems with? Well, no need to reply right now, it's just good to know you're safe and sound.

I'm so glad you are back home, mvg.

We have a big snow today and it's so beautiful outside.
I wish I could stay home and enjoy it, but I have to come to work.

I'm thinking about you and wishing you a quick recovery.

SL, you sound so good. I'm glad you feel better. I do hope you were not mad about my last post. When I think about it again, I feel that I shouldn't be giving advice solely based on my experience. I'm still learning and still having problems doing all the MB way, sometimes my pride and my hurt got in the way big time and that set up back time and again. I hope I will keep learning and improving and you are going to be here sharing and helping just as you have always been. I really admire you a lot.

Have a great day, ladies.

Snow

Snowy,
In no way have any of your posts offended me, or angered me. The fact that you share your experience helps me AND so many others here.

I've been learning to detach from PWC, but in so doing, find anger lurking, and have been working on that. I've kind of taken a violent swing of the pendulum, in that I ONLY do what I want, what I compel myself to do. I only cook when I WANT to, for the joy and for the happiness it brings others, of course. I clean when *I* want to (my house really isn't that messy), and I watch TV/movies/read/post/meet, etc, when *I* need it.

I try to remember what's done is done, and going back over our relationship over and over, looking for all the bad and all the good, and trying to make sense of what's happening does me no good. It actually has been very painful. I look back to see our patterns (reading about codependence), mostly, but in so doing, I dredge up some stuff that is hard to face; how pushy I've been, and how my focus slowly shifted off of me (before our DS) and straight on to PWC (post DS's arrival). I think about how I've felt like the BAD GUY since having a child with him. I've tortured myself over this thought, by taking on EVERYTHING; all the chores, all DS's care, all his frustration and anger, all my anger. I felt like I RUINDED his life.

Well, that's just not true. It's HOGWASH! I'm not to BLAME for any of his stuff. WE both have/had choices and made them, even if we chose NOT to decide, even that was a choice.

Oh, I can't write it all down here. It would take pages upon pages.

Hey mvg glad you are at home finally. I haven't been in the hospital for a while (thank goodnees) but remeber oh too well the experience(s) me and my family have had. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/ooo.gif" alt="" />

You may even have gotten sick from the hospital and not from the H's creepy crud (i like that word <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />). When my h was in the hospital last year with his pneumonia (long story but it took him 5 weeks to get over it) they sent him home from the hospital because they said he stood a better chance of getting other creepy cruds in the hospital than at home. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

Well hopefully you have been sleeping and taking it easy and your H is spoiling you rotten. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Take Care SC

Hi everyone!

Starting to get back to normal more and more each day. Still get very tired easily doing nothing! Going to be hard to get back into the 'work' mode soon.

H has been very very good about taking care of me. He even did a little intervension (sp?) with work. The preacher sent email the day after I got home, real nice,how ya doing,hope everything is going well...and oh by the way! Asked stupid question of where a report was that I had given him 2 weeks before. H told me about email, I felt I had to reply..probably shouldn't have but did. Response email, LOOK IN YOUR FOLDER YOU PUT IT IN. If you can't find it in YOUR folder, look in blah blah blah for mine. IF you can't find it there call me.....Now I was still very groggy, dizzy and couldn't get fingers and brain working together, there is no telling just how badly that email was typed. What really galled me was this is the man who is always telling me I'm take on other's responsibilities and do to much. Well now we see why! DUH! THEN his wife emails with a few questions...again stupid and nothing that can't wait. I just didn't respond at all,so she sends ANOTHER email asking if I got the first one. H said I'll fix this...HE emailed her and said he hadn't told me about her emails because he wanted me to consentrate on recovering and not worry about work. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Very proud moment for me, he just doesn't do that that type of thing.

Ah I feel better now, venting done.

How are y'all doing?

Glad everything is going well enough and you are able to post again! Also happy that hubby is pitching in and helping you.

Take good care of yourself and get strong. Did they give you an idea of how long recovery will take?

mvg,

Another great post. Glad to hear your hubby is stepping up to the plate and especially doing things he has never done before. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Also glad you are feeling better. It will take a little while. Did they have to take everything or did they leave the one ovary?

Just keep taking good care of yourself and resting.

It's good to hear you are getting much needed rest. My work NEVER contacted me, except to check on my recovery. I'm well back into the thick of things around here now, though.

I meant to ask about the ovary, too. Hope all is well in that department. It's good to hear that you are being taken care of so well.

Write us when you can. Rest up.

mvg:

I'm so glad your H is stepping up and doing the things he usually wouldn't do before. Did you thank him for doing that <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> ?

Please take good care of yourself at home and also let your H pamper you and fill you with love and care.

Snow

They took the uterus and one ovary (at my request). Laproscopic surgery was much easier, I think, but I tell ya it's still an energy zapper.

I'm going back to work after seeing doc on 3/11. I could go back before then but H wants me to wait. I might pop in after hours to check on just how much is piled up. I've got to get the financial reports done for Feb. done before 3/19. If I wait till the 12th it will be push and shove for sure, I don't think H understands that part. So if I go before and just get that part entered into computer I can then bring it home and get it done with ALOT less stress.

Thank you all for your thoughts, prayers, and concerns. I deeply appreciate them. I am doing better each day and trying to do something productive each day also to help build strength back up.

After all of this I'm REALLY not looking forward to having gallbladder removed and am going to hold out as long as possible.

Take care my friends.

Just checking in. How's everyone doing?

Things are good here. Going back to work on the 12th..YUCK but must be done.

hey where is everyone???? Hopefully doing well and 'doing' life with peace and joy! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I saw your post yesterday, but had a pretty busy day, and evening; had dinner with a girlfriend.

I hope YOU are doing well, healing nicely, and getting sick of being cooped up. I never did get sick of being home. I loved it, really. I was able to take the time to finish redecorating my room, and ENJOY it!

Hey mvg,

Glad you are up and about. Too bad you have to go back to work at all LOL.

I have not even been reading here lately. I was so on top of the rollercoaster hill for quite a while but since my last good post i have been at the bottom of the hill with no site of climbing yet. Such is life though.

You just take care of yourself and keep resting until you have to go back to work.

I am doing well. Still get tired quite easily...don't know if that's from surgery or lazy! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Glad to see you both. I haven't posted much as things are going smoother. SC check out the 20-50 vacation thread, makes for a nice diversion when things are at a standstill or just treading water or going well.

Best wishes to you both.