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Re: We Seduced Each Other
sexymamabear #1952275 10/08/07 10:07 PM
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Until he agrees to NC of any kind and sends a NC letter, assume they are still involved. There really is no reason to not send this letter, unless they are still involved.

I learned that one from experience, too. I am working toward my own personal healing and that of my children, after H pretended recovery for a short time. False recovery is very painful. Please listen to the folks here about NC and exposure. It is tough, but it is necessary.

We want to give them the benefit of the doubt. But that is dangerous for us.

Thank you for the advice. I take your advice to heart. Gambling with are lives, we are. We've been dealt some bad hands, but maybe our luck will turn yet.

I wish you the best of luck in your recovery.
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p.s. the reason the workplace exposure letter needs to be sent to so many ppl - with a cc list on each letter - is because if only one person is notified, it will be tempting for that person to deep six the letter and keep it off record. That is much less likely to happen if SEVERAL people are notified because they will know that others know so there is no use.

While some companies will do nothing, the exposure is still effective because affairs thrive on secrecy. If the company is catching grief about this, they will expect them to not carry on the affair at work, which puts pressure on the affair. It is also very embarrassing.

In my present and previous companies, high level execs were summarily fired for workplace affairs. One fella was led off the premises by a security guard 2 days after his wife exposed to our company.

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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