Mad that I took away his "toy." I guess he forgot about the recall due to lead contamination. Look what it's done to his brain so far!

He is so trying to push me into an angry reaction and Spock is SO not going to have the reaction H wants. Spock is not going to lose control. It is not "Amok Time."

Charlotte, what did their employers say about the affair?

GF

I haven't heard a peep from them. GF.

Aaaannnd they're OFF!!!!

Whoops! A false start. They open at 7:30. Coulda sworn it was 7. Well, if it's like that at all locations, I still have a chance...

If I don't get the money out in time due to sluggish tellers/sluggish equipment, at least I gave it my best shot.

I still have the advance, I spent very little.

Okay, couldn't take any money out. Some sort of notation on the account. What could he have done besides cancel the checks?

He doesn't get it. The more he tries to hurt me the more powerful I become...

I just talked to my attorney. He said he knew of no other way he could do this other than change the PW. I asked...even if I was using a check? He's still using his ATM card.

Anyway I told him that I'd be going there at 9am to see if I could find anything out.

I told him I wasn't even mad because H is behaving so foolishly. He said that's great and there will be consequences for this especially since there's an A. The court will not look kindly on him.

He's just hurting himself! What a fool!

Meanwhile I'm having a complete and balanced breakfast. I went to the store and bought a Porterhouse steak. Mmm mmm good!

Okay, H cashed a check for $500...so evidently he didn't report our checks as stolen.

Anyone have a clue as to what it might be? I am curious to see what ugly stick he is using to try and beat down his wife this time.

Oh, I think he's told them not to allow you to cash any checks, he's probably tried to remove you from the account.

If he's at work, can you go see him there? He would have to behave and most likely would be civil. Gotta see him some time. It would be a good time to do a pre-emptive strike about the divorce filing. Give him all the reasons for it
including you didn't want to do it. GF

Thanks GF.

I wish I could but he was supposed to be off anyway.

I have to be at my grandma's today.

C,
I have been trying to follow your story but am a bit lost when it comes to the banking issues. Can you give me a timeline? For example he took out 200 on 10-27. Direct deposit goes in 11-1. You went in on 10-31 and set up X amount to go elsewhere. I have some thoughts but I need my facts right before I post.

Hi suamico,

11/02/07 TELLER CASHED CHECK-H
11/02/07 ATM-H
11/02/07 DD
11/02/07 ATM-H
11/01/07 CASHED CHECK-Me
11/01/07 DIRECT DEPOSIT ADVANCE ON 11/01
10/31/07 ATM

Ok so DD advance was 1/2 the DD and it was supposed to go into another account? Did the DD make it in today? The reason I asked is because I was thinking maybe he beat you to the punch and had DD stopped and issued as a paper check. Is the DD from his job or yours?

If it is a joint account he can't just take you off of it. Please be waiting at the door at the bank as soon as it opens today. I am eastcoast so I believe you are 3 hours behind me. (10:18 here, 7:18 there?) Get ready to go!

Thanks, suamico.

I was only able to get about 1/4 of the DD.

It went through okay.

It's 9:25 here now. I'm waiting for the bank to call me back.

Charlotte,

You are cool as a cucumber! Excellent level-headedness! Keep it up.

I really think that ALL women (or men for that matter) should have an account in their own name only for "incidentals" or cases like this.

We've all seen this game played over and over. Usually it is a WS trying to starve a SAHM into submission.

Hang in there Charlotte, and don't forget the important stuff - like feeding that horse.

Yah, especially the horse. And fresh water.

I'm amazed at the transformation in you - just seeing through the Boards.

I agree. I am a SAHM and in a strong marriage but I ran into a glitch when we were living in WI. Everything is joint including all credit cards. I was trying to plan a surprise party for DH's 40th birthday. I tried to apply for a credit card in my name so I could use it without him seeing what I was doing. In WI the spouse needs to be informed! I was floored. I did manage to pull it off with my parents help. After that DH and I moved to another state and talked about how this could be a HUGE issue if anything were to happen to him. We are working on getting a credit card in my name and building credit for me only. We never thought about it because we both assumed it was "our" credit record but it really is his. How screwed up is that? Poor DH is always trying his best to protect me and the kids but we really didn't think about this part. He has life insurance on himself just in case and has 401Ks properties in both names etc. To think we forgot about MY credit history never came to mind.

Thanks, Bring It On!!

I disagree. In a good, functioning marriage, everything should be joint...to include the finances.

Too often, those seperate accounts can lead to making financial decisions, then personal decisions, that create independent behavior.

Its too easy to keep secret what you're doing when you're living seperate lives...financially or otherwise.

Which is why my wife and I have had only a joint account for the last 20 years. We also jointly agree on how we spend OUR money.


Now, in your case, Charlotte, it of course makes sense to start a new account RIGHT NOW. Since he's not trustworthy, you shouldn't trust him with your money. Its a different story when an affair is on...all bets are off on trust at that point.