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johnstwin #1959956 11/07/07 09:13 AM
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<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Jack Russell terrier vs. Bigfoot <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Small Sacrifices was one of the most disturbing cases I've ever read about. You know, all of our lives we go around with rose colored glasses re: the mother/child relationship and that a mother would never intentionally harm her children...that a mother would ALWAYS protect her children, mama bear, etc. Pick your analogy.

Then we learn about sociopaths. We still try to believe in the sacred mother/child bond. Then we have people hear about cases like Small Sacrifices where a mother harms and/or kills her children.

Even after knowing this I still didn't want to believe my XSIL would harm her children. I quickly learned that she was one of "THEM."

Interestingly, she used to refer to herself as "the polar bear mother." The irony kills me.

Now my nieces are safely in the custody of my brother. That was a long, hard road and a very difficult experience. Dealing with it helped prepare me for H's A, though. I'm sure of it now.

I'm hoping Ann Rule writes the story of Trenton Duckett. You may recall hearing about this last year. It was in Florida. Melinda Duckett make her son disappear. She tried to blame her X. People all over the place were looking for this little boy. I was on the CourtTV boards a lot during that time and a lot of us forwarded this information to everyone we knew in hopes that she gave him away.

Sadly, I think she killed him. I thought so at first but help out that slim hope (rose colored glasses again.)

Anyway, less than two weeks later Melinda blew her head off with a shotgun while at her grandparent's home. The walls were closing in on her.

A lot of people blamed Nancy Grace for Melinda's suicide but after learning so much about Melinda, I believe that was her plan all along. She did not want to go to jail but more importantly, she did not want her X to have his son. And she would have done anything to prevent that from happening.

Well, she succeeded.

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I just check the USPS website. The evidence folder arrived at the corporate office at 6:56 a.m.

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Great. What's your status on changing the locks?


Me - BS DDay 1 (Multiple affairs while overseas) - Feb 2003 DDay 2 (AdultFriendFinder Profile) - April 2007 Seeing a counselor. I think we have him stumped.
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Speaking of aliens yet again, did you see Signs? That movie scared me really good. For three weeks I was scared to go outside and night and if I had to go to the barn I was terrified "they" might be around. Any little noise in the bushes and I was off like a roadrunner.

Because of that movie to this day i will NOT go near a corn field.

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I'm working on that right now. I had a slight glitch so I'm letting my wrists take a break, except for typing, so I can work with the screwdriver again.

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Because of that movie to this day i will NOT go near a corn field.



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I still remember the Legend of Boggy Creek. I have an irrational fear of Bigfoot.


TOO FUNNY!! So does my mom!

Anne Rule has always been one of my favorites. I don't like scary movies because I'm a real chicken, but I LOVE true crime novels.

I then have to balance it out with romance novels. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

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Wild,

I love true crime novels also.... used to make WH nervous. Now I know why <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Still


BW me 46
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Together 28 years married 23
3 Kids DD20, DD17 and DS 14
DD #1 (1st A) 10/13/01 with single OW who was co-worker
DD#2 1/23/02 phone call from OW
WH left job 4/02
MC 10/01 to 4/02 (when he showed up)
Separated 7/04 to 10/04
Retrouvaille 9/04
Red Flags 11/05
DD#1 (2nd affair) 8/16/06 with MOW age 29 twice married and he's her boss.
Moved out (him) weekend after labor day
23rd anniversary 10/7/07
Filed 10/18/06 still seeing MOW
Dropped divorce complaint 6/7/07
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Sooooo,

Anyone like to venture a guess as to what might be going on where H works?

I talked to Melody a little while about this.

I don't see how this can possibly be swept under the rug, especially in light of recent revelations.

Sex on the premisis
Heavy drug use
Use of company tools-phone, pc's, etc. to further the A
H's arrest due to drug use

And this is a place that doesn't allow pork or pork products on the premisis.

I guess I'm just getting a little paranoid.

Any thoughts?

Oh, yeah, finally got that deadbolt installed. I had to go buy another one. The new one works just fine.

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Well, just got a short email from H. He needs the system restore disks for his laptop.

I wrote a short message back to just call me before coming out.

Why the heck would he need to drive out for those? Sounds fishy to me.

Now I'm nervous.

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He was trying to figure out what day was best to come home for the disks so he can get the pics I wanted that are on his laptop.

We talked a bit about computers and he thought Thurs. or Fri. would be good but probably Thursday. I said, yes, Thursday would be better, that is my day off.

H didn't know what today was. I guess he forgot. I asked if he' called the house number and he said yes so I told him I had the phone forwarded to my cell.

I guess he's wondering why. Hmmmmm....who might be calling little Charlotte?

I didn't tell him about the locks.

It was very calm & he rambled on a bit about this-n-that. No mention of M, D, or the A.

There's possibility he might get served tomorrow. Lawyer said Thurs. or Fri. were high probability days so we'll see what happens.

I'm still nervous, though!

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He wants to completely wipe out the hard drive and start over. Was it a company laptop? There's no other reason to need the restore disks...

He's probably realized that your evidence came from that laptop...


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That's a good possibility, cathys01. But his laptop at home has been acting up for a while now, it's pretty old and the A was killing it, too. He had loaded tons of mp3's on there and had as many external drives as the thing could run attached to it also.

So I'm thinking it's probably both reasons.

I had a lot of trouble with it myself when before he showed back up on Sunday. It won't boot up properly. I had to go into safe mode to look around and see if he had anything else hidden on there.

So I know he's not lying about it being messed up.

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As long as you've already retrieved everything you need off of it, then no problem! Make sure you keep your evidence in a safe place where he can't get to it (not on another computer on the same home network where he can erase it, either).

P.S. I'm in Houston too...looks like there are a bunch of us down around these parts!


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10-4 on that, cathys01,

I got it all!

Not only is the evidence in a safe place but it's also in two different email accounts and my sister has copies of it in Louisiana.

Now I need more printer ink!!

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Pepper stepped on a chicken today. I put her back out to pasture with Lindy.

She goes back to the vet next Thursday. I still can't find her other temporary shoe.

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As long as you've already retrieved everything you need off of it, then no problem! Make sure you keep your evidence in a safe place where he can't get to it (not on another computer on the same home network where he can erase it, either).

P.S. I'm in Houston too...looks like there are a bunch of us down around these parts!

wow! another Texan! That makes 4 of us, at least, that are in the Houston area.


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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That's right, I was going to mention that in the above post and I forgot.

Yaaaay Texans!

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Pepper stepped on a chicken today. I put her back out to pasture with Lindy.


Poor chicken. So how is he? Is the chicken o.k. or did you have him for dinner? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />


Husband was unfaithful to me before and after our marriage, at least 7 times. I found out 13 yrs into the marriage. Trickle truth for an entire year. Several different d-days, so it was more like a d-year. Difficult recovery.



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The chicken is okay, believe or not. (Remember that commercial a few years ago when a cow stepped on a chicken? The commercial ran for a least a little while before they pulled it.)

We decided to have a rooster. I hung him on the line so all of the blood could drain out so we could have rooster and dumplings.

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