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Good job, bet she'll think twice before getting involved with a married guy again!
Is she being subpoenaed as a witness at your temporary hearing or did your attorney bring her in as a third party?
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Thank you!!!!
That's what I'm thinkin' princess meggy! Maybe some other person won't have to go through what I went through because of her actions. And H's actions of course.
I hope she's kicking herself for ever getting involved with my H and she kicks him to the curb. I'm sure she never thought that this little placid runt would have the b*lls to fight back!!
She is a witness at the temp hearing. As is OWH.
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She is a witness at the temp hearing. Oooohhh, what I wouldn't have given to be given that opportunity! I would have slipped in a few zingers for my attorney to ask her on the stand to prove her "character", i.e., isn't it true that you had sexual relations with your downstairs neighbor in your bed while your 6-year old daughter slept in the same bed? Isn't it true that you were stopped by the police after you kicked your oldest daughter out of the car after picking her up from school and were found to be drunk? (These were just two of the things that were in sworn affidavits in her divorce file, there were many more!) (She was a socialite in our town to boot. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />)
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Sounds great, princess meggy!
Wanna come?
I've been thinking about asking my L if he wants a list...he might ask me, though. I might do that but whatever the case, I'm gonna let him have his head.
Humiliation is the key. I don't care what he asks her. It's not my humiliation to be borne. It's hers. And H's.
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Now back to earth. I seriously doubt that a Judge would have allowed those types of questions to be answered at a hearing (maybe at trial but not a hearing where's there's only a Judge). He more than likely will allow questions to prove up squandering the marital assets, plans to desert, adultery, etc.
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Hey, works for me! Will my attorney be able to impeach her testimony with the evidence? Or will he have to ask "trick" questions? Will he even be able to use the evidence?
Can she take the 5th?
I know they discussed opening a bank account and I have it in print.
H admitted to me that he opened a bank account but when I asked if it was with OW, he said no. I don't believe him. She was worried about any "legal" ramifications of opening a bank account.
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Now we're talking a whole different animal. There's more latitude when asking rebuttal or redirect questions once the door is opened. He can bring in the evidence if it isn't outside the scope of the rules of evidence such as hearsay, etc.
No, she can't take the 5th because this is a civil matter, not a criminal matter.
The evidence about the bank account is GREAT because that proves what his intentions were.
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Alright!!
Thanks, princess meggy!!
I feel even better now!
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Good Going Charlotte. WOW.
Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
D-Day August 2005
Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23
Empty Nesters.
Fully Recovered.
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Thanks Big K!!
That's what I'm sayin'....WOW!!!
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Forgive me, but I couldn't find anything in your thread about what the OW or OWH would be testifying to. Texas isn't one of those states still having an "alienation of affection" law still on the books, unless something's changed recently. Can you educate me please, Charlotte?
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That there was an adulterous affair. I can't remember the precise term my L used. I thought he mentioned the "a of a" but I can't remember...my head was spinning.
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But in Texas (even though it's a no-fault state) adultery can still be used as a "grounds" for divorce and can impact the final division of property.
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As in Georgia.
My wifey thought that she could get away with a no-fault divorce and was proven disasterously wrong.
I watch, and am as a sparrow alone upon the house top.
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No fault.
BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAAHAHAAHA!!!
Good for you, Pariah.
(Hey, that's the first time I've ever typed "bwahahahahahaa." I don't know if I spelled it right, though!!)
Consequences of adultery. Take heed...future adulterers!!!!!
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K. Well, I'll just sit quietly and wait for future developments. Hang in there lady.
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WTG Charlotte!!!!!
I'd love to know what OW is thinking about you now!
BW(me)
DDay EA 4/05
DDay PA 6/05
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Charlotte,
I just read your whole thread. Wow, what an inspiration you are.
You are so strong, stay that way.
Kudos to you!
Mitzie
BS/ME 47 Met on blind date
WH 46(Alcoholic,drugs?)
DS1:18 DS2:15
1st A EA9/07 PA10/07 NC11/07
2nd A EA/PA-10/2010
Found out- 11/20/2010
He moved out-1/1/2011 same apt.cmplx as OW(&her kids)
PlanB-1/1/11(broken)
NEW PB-2/11 Taking it one day at a time
There are two kinds of people in the world: Those who say to God, "Thy will be done" and those to whom God says, "Alright then, have it your way." ~C .S.Lewis
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I think I've found my new hero.
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Thanks so much, you guys! I'm sitting here trying to watch Criminal Intent and trying not to think about H. Already cried a few times.
Then I check in here and here are all of you with all of your support and encouragement. I don't know what or why or how I ended up here or who was responsible, (but I have a good idea!)
I know I'm doing the right thing for me, H and our marriage if it's meant to be. It just gets a little overwhelming sometimes and I miss him even though he treated me so shabbily.
Well, he can't avoid me forever so I'll at least have a few more chances to Plan A the heck out of him.
He's so screwy in the head now he's probably thinking who am I and what happened to his wife?
Well H, I'll tell ya' what happened to her. She came back. You'll recognize her as soon as you wake up and smell the river.
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