Yes, yes and yes, surviving!

How intuitive of you to know not to ask to be the "other" sidekick...since that's the name of OW!!!!!

You got it!!

How did you know?

I sent H an MP3 of the song that has been around me for the last few days. The lyrics are so apt because I AM worried about him.

I have always thought of myself being part cat.....and catwoman is so...those femininin whiles and independance....bad a$$....I love her...I even used to have a black cat named isis after her cat....she kicks [censored] and takes names...nuff said. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />

she fights at batmans side but is her own woman....I'd fight by yer side any day lady <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Woo-Hoooooo!!

(I'll give you directions to the courthouse...) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

In all seriousness...Thank You, surviving!!

Here it is almost midnight and I'm still getting ready for court. Sleep?

What's that?

Awww Charlotte...I wish you were able to sleep...I'll be saying prayers for you about court...Just wanted to let you know that I'm still here and reading...Not posting much because you are in such GREAT hands...I know that "personal coach" of yours to be quite the DYNAMO!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Big Hugs to You Friend! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Mrs. W

Thanks Mrs. W!!

I really appreciate the prayers!

H is going to walk in and wonder why the air feels so foreign. He will be influenced by prayer and not even know it...

He might catch on fire!!

Hi Charlotte,

Sending support from the middle of the big blue. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

The 'smell' technique was what I used on the WS also. His sense of smell was warped and the calculator in his brain didn't work. Boy the A sure does mess up a person. LOL!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

L.

{{{{{{{{{{Charlotte}}}}}}}}}}

You can do this.....we're all here for you, even those of us who read your thread but don't post too often.

Looking forward to your update.

Ace

Good luck and God Bless, Charlotte! You will do great! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Good luck, Charlotte! We're all rooting for you!

She is there now!

Wow! Thanks for the update Melody. I'm sitting here grinning lopsided. Yea and wow.

Her H is about to be hit with prayers he doesn't know about, MB posters, special personal marriage coach Melody Lane, and the woman he married, aka Batman.

It won't be long now.

I'm betting he'll be home before Christmas.

Charlotte, wow. You're going to do fine.

Re: Batman? I have always loved bats. This is a threadjack, but the thing about caves and etc. - well, when I was 9, my stepfather came out to me in the backyard with his hands behind his back. Said "I want to show you something, but I don't want you to be afraid." I said "What? Show me." and he brought his hands forward. Cradled in them was a small, dead brown bat. I never saw anything so adorable.

Reached for it, he pulled his hands back and told me not to touch it, because it could make me sick, but I could look. To this day their wings, the little tiny claws, the faces, the contrast between the furry bodies and the smooth skin of their wings, just warms my heart.

I used to swim at night in my in-laws pool in Texas, floating on my back, and watching winged creatures fly over head. I used to hope they were bats, and that they would come and dip into the pool for a drink. It was always so dark I could never be sure whether they were birds or bats.

Friends sent us a bathouse to assemble and put up to attract them. We did, but birds nested there instead. Finches. Go figure.

Batman, I'll be checking the thread later to get an update.

Everyone, I'm so happy for Charlotte22.

Hey Charlotte,

Sorry I missed you on the Night-Shift... I was outside the wire all day today.

I'm praying for you!!!

Semper Fi,

RIF

They came in the same car. Hers. How sick is that?

I wouldn't have known but OWH told me.

The infidels didn't have to take the stand. H agreed to everything my adorable lawyer put forth. And he can't remove any of his collection and sell it, either. A third party is going to inventory the collection and he can move it out then, but he can't sell it because that would be part of the settlement later.

I had to leave the room a couple of times when we were in with our lawyers because talking about doing this and that with our stuff and dividing it, etc. really got to me. My lawyer came after me to make sure I was okay. So H watched another man go comfort his wife. Hope he enjoyed the Effin show.

I argued with H's lawyer a couple of times because he kept making little Snidely Whiplash comments. I couldn't help it.

I did not shed a tear when we were in front of the judge. OW and OWH were in the courtroom for that.

I might add that Miss Charlotte put that sorry [censored] ****** to shame in the looks department. On my worst day I still look better than her. Slut.

I talked with OWH and my lawyer and I were always sitting very close together and he put his arm around me a few times for comfort. He was also my blocking mechanism because they were on the right and we were sitting on the left (when you face the bench) so I wouldn't have to look at the two sickening adulterers sitting on the other side.

What the h*ll is wrong with people?

Dang, my lawyer is cute. If it wasn't married I'd probably date him. I don't know if he's married. He doesn't wear a ring but I'm not looking now, anyway. I'm just sick that those b*st*rds would actually have the gall to come in the same car.

OWH told me I deserve WAAAAAAY better. He said he is still keeping his options open but he has no plans to file for divorce at this time. I know he still wants her.

He made a comment about that b*tch having two men at her beck and call, etc. and that it wasn't that way now. He wasn't going to be abused in that manner. Good for him.

He said OW thinks that she's automatically invited for the holidays, etc. And that she has another think coming.

He said he had to hold back laughter because in the agreement H asked for a couple of his DVD collections and when he heard "Stargate" he had to stop himself because he didn't want to bust out in front of the judge.

When we were in the little room together and that came up I just said, "It's just stuff."

When the tv came up I complained a bit but that's just because I don't want anything moved around and disturbed in our home. I complained about H's dresser because we were antique shopping together when we purchased that item.

I don't know how my lawyer put up with me when I went after H's lawyer but he said I did really well. He said it was nice to represent someone so nice because he doesn't get to do that very often.

H's lawyer is a balding little anal retentive man while I have a passionate Italian. Ha! Who's the romantic here?

I don't know what to do. I feel like going into Plan B but I can't do that until H comes and gets the rest of his personal items.

This is so sick. How could they? That is so low. I felt so bad for OWH and then he told me that OW said she had mail in the car for him. I told him not to go over there. I told him he was a good man and he didn't deserve to be treated that way.

He said OW has lost her mind and I told him he was exactly right about that. (okay, I'm crying now. Kick me in the butt.)

OWH said that OW's greatest fear is the Jerry Springer show.
Hmmm. Should I? I would do it. I have nothing to be ashamed of. At the very least I could write them or call them and they could call her and put the fear of God into her, ain't it?

They left the floor first and we waited upstairs. But then they were still sitting there after OWH and I finished talking to my lawyer. They were still in the parking lot, OWH said. What the heck? Did they want to see if we walked out together?

I didn't look at them. When I pulled out after talking to OWH for a bit I popped on the Sopranos intro and pealed out. Lucky for me the cop that was in line didn't mind!

So now I am at home trying not to drink until after 12pm.

I don't know what to do about my H and his scummy behavior. I wish I COULD Plan B right now. That was a big draw on my bank. Because of the hurt it caused me and the hurt to OWH.

Those lousy jerks. Geez.

I told my lawyer to delay as much as possible and at the same time I have to question my sanity at wanting to work things out with someone who would do something so trashy.

I know it's not Jonesy but really Mr. Gray, but still...

You're way too classy for Springer. Maybe Dr Phil.

I'm so sorry to hear this Charlotte. It sounds like a terrible ordeal.

However,

Remember the general rule to not date for two years after the D.

My impression is that since the OWH was still meeting EN needs for her she doesn't completely understand the impact of a D until he yanks the chain.

Your H may just need to live with the OW for a a period of time before realizing how screwed up she is.

The problem is your LB maybe too overdrawn by that point to allow him to reconcile.

Time for a dark dark dark Plan B. Work on you. Improve yourself for you and continue to come her for strength and understanding.

Thanks for saying that, Dobie!

I know you are right but if she fears Springer so much I may have to lower myself to her level. For the show, not an affair.