ESPN or something:P

Seriously, that reeks of multiple women and it sounds like Mr. Gray needs serious counseling and medication to correct his issues.

I feel ill. I almost emailed him about it but I deleted the email.

Just to let him know that some strange chick called for him, is all.

Char,

Get that Plan B letter ready. You're running out of gas fast.

Start preparing yourself for Plan B by doing anything to keep from worrying or wondering about what he is doing.

Mark

Thank you, Mark.

Will do.

I am going to email him anyway. The least he could do would be to give these females his cell number!

Evening Charlotte!



Our MC taught us that we should avoid "ALWAYS" and "NEVER" statements... such as Mrs. RIF you ALWAYS (fill in the blank) do that to me or RIF you NEVER (fill in the blank).

I'm going to use an "ALWAYS" statement here and I'd like for you to think about it....

When you are dealing with a WS and you have an incident such as the phone call from the unknown woman... you mind will ALWAYS think of the worst possible case.

Charlotte, you have a good plan. Work your plan and focus on the facts. Dwelling on this phone call from the mystery woman my be entertaining, and it may give your mind lots of things to think about, but it will distract you from your plan.

Focus on the facts...

Semper Fi,

RIF

Hi RIF!

Good to see ya'!

I will do my best. I have emailed Mr. Gray about this, though.

I just told him she called, wouldn't leave a name and number and wasn't a bill collector.

Then I asked him to please give out his cell phone number so I don't have to deal with this pain.

Said "thank you" and Love, Charlotte.

It just felt like the right thing to do.

So I did it.

Hey Charlotte!

Sounds like you handled the phone call very well... I was just trying to remind you not to sit and stew over it as it will distract you from your plan. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

I've got a few things to do today, but I'll be around on the night-shift... I hope you get some rest this evening...

Semper Fi,

RIF

Thanks RIF,

I'm glad to hear that. I almost didn't email him and then I thought...well, why the heck shouldn't I tell him?

I'm trying not to dwell on it. Just what the heck is he up to?

I'm trying to bake some bread here, dang it! And I'm making some good ol' bean soup the way my grandma likes it.

I have to go make the zasmashka now.

TTFN!

Charlotte

Well, here I am again.

Woke up around 1am. Couldn't get back to sleep.

I decided to check on that delivery to Slag. Typed in the rr# at the p.o. website.

It is sitting at the post office. Delivery was attempted on 11/28 at 6:30 p.m.

Well, it's the 30th today. Now he has 8 days left to get it signed an notarized.

I wonder if it will get picked up? Do you think Slag is so paranoid she thinks I'd be dumb enough to set a booby trap and put my return address on it? Plus send it Certified?

If it doesn't get picked up, by the time it is sent back to me it will be too late for Mr. Gray.

So I'm not sure what to do here. It won't be my fault. It will be hers. If it comes back I am taking it straight to my lawyer.

Well, could be there just wasn't time to go to the p.o. No hanky-panky at work anymore so anything like that has to be after.

But still...you'd think if she told Mr. Gray about it, it would have been picked up. Even if the carrier didn't put our whole address on there, the zip is on there. There won't be any mistake about where it's from.

The only other person she knows here is Mr. Gray.

Well, I could be speculating for nothing. It will probably get picked up today. I guess.

I think I might try to sleep again.

'Nite All!

Stop stressing. It's their problem if they can't face receiving a package. Yea.... expect them to act all paranoid, then you can use RB to throw it back in their faces. LOL!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

So be prepared....if the pkg returns you will do ___________ .

Print or save a copy of the tracking.

Now get some rest. Do some deep breathing cleansing exercises.... smith some lavender essential oils if you have.... just learn to relax.

take care,
L.

Ditto!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

I hope you're sleeping well...

Semper Fi,

RIF

Thanks Orchid and RIF!

I know you guys are right. I need to get a grip. I need to stop worrying about whether Mr. Gray will answer my email when I know he won't.

If the package is not picked up and he gets in trouble it won't be my fault. I tried. He can't sue me because she didn't pick it up.

I'm just going to try to hang on and limp along until he gets the PBL.

Have a good day, Ya'll!

Charlotte

Ditto x2!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

And you were really only doing WH a favor anyway. What's that noise? Could it be the karma bus?

LOL! Thanks princess meggy!

I am trying not to let him hurt me with his silence. I am telling myself that I won't need to worry about that after I give him the PBL.

And it won't be a moot point to give him the PBL because I'm taking away his power to hurt me by doing so, right?

Because then he won't have a choice about ignoring me. He will be out of my life.

You'll be giving him the PBL because you want to PROTECT what love you have left for him (your LB is nearing the red zone) and for your own sanity. Plan B is about YOU. You're right, you WILL be taking away his power to hurt you because you WON'T be exposed to it, any way, shape, form or fashion.

Charlotte, I am also having trouble sleeping - whole different sitch though. Last night some wind came up, and I wished it would continue, but it didn't. Now I'm considering buying a machine that makes a soothing sound, like rain or wind.

This morning it is raining, and I wish it had rained last night. Now I have to be up and functioning.

Hey, here's a thought: Freecycle. People post on it for things they need/want. People post with things they want to give away. I think I'll post an ad for a noise machine, and you could do the same.

I've seen people ask for beds, trucks, computers, yarn, and people post with dog bowls, music tapes, lamps, clothes, cars, appliances -

From where I'm sitting, time for Plan B.

You are so funny, wry, smart and brave. Protect yourself.

More: Could be the reason for the silence is that Mr. Gray and Ms. Slag are irritating each other with LoveBusters, Disrespectful Judgments and Angry Outbursts. They might even be checking up on each other.

Ms. Slag may not have told your H about the letter. She may suspect it is bad news for HER. Ms. slag may just be flakey and not very responsible about picking up her mail. Either way, if ;he doesn't receive it in time because of the slag, the sh#t will hit the fan and she will be wiping it off.

Another thought - you left a VM on his cellphone, about the ph call from the woman from [maybe] a bar. Maybe slag picked it up, they could be scrapping about that. Maybe slag erased it without his hearing it.

If it was her phone call to you, it didn't evoke the reaction she hoped for. If it was a new slag, she got a heads up and is not happy with him.

All this is good, good for you.

Charlotte-

Read your thread many times. I'm actually in Plan B..not as dark as I would like but nonetheless Plan B. I don't feel like I have any advice for you as I am still learning and going through this myself. I did Plan A for a year..some say too long but it wasn't affecting so much because H kept saying he didn't want a divorce. I guess I thought A would run it's course and I wouldn't have to do Plan B. Well he did move home for 3-4 months, but just recently moved out again. Has always seemed to struggle with the A. But he's addicted. Anyway, I just wanted to say I was thinking about you and you have a friend who's got your back in all this. You'll make it through as I will. Hopefully with the end result we're both looking for.

Ani6209

I used to have some nature sounds CD's I'd play to fall asleept to that were really nice.

Then I bought a small fountain for my bed side table that makes a really pretty water fall sound. It has a light in it too, as I don't like pitch black.

Have one in the living room, too. I have so many plants it helps to keep them humified...and the cat LOVES to gaze at the fountains and get drinks from them.

Not too pricy at Walmart or Shopko.

Hang in there, Charlotte. You are a joy, and I just can't wait until you live in joy again.

Josie, lucky you, you have a cat! My lease says no pets of any kind. I walk to the dog park for a dog fix.

Cats love running water. They prefer drinking from fountains and faucets and streams.

For some reason, I like the sound of wind best. Maybe because I'm Libra, an Air sign.