Charlotte, you and I should both go to bed. I know someone has dredged up a bunch of my issues so I'm sitting here reading on MB trying to decide when it's time to call it a night. I think this is the time. Don't know about you but I will only get about 5 hrs of sleep tonight.

I know I haven't posted to you often but I think you are doing a good job. It's amazing how well we can handle these things when we have to.

[color:"red"]A woman is like a teabag - you never know how strong she is until you put her in hot water.[/color]

Thank you, cinderella!

I'm still hangin' in, even though Mr. Gray's being such a thang!

Five hours? I don't know if I'll manage that much!!



So, so true! LOL!!

Have a great night!

Okay, here's MY interpretation of the blog. This should take care of any problems I guess:

Yes, I'm still up.

I hadn't checked Mr. Gray's blog out lately.

Here is what he posted on November 14 @ 12:36am or so:

Blah blah blah Divorce blah blah***
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Well fellow friends and colleagues, my wife has filed for divorce. I didn't listen to her when she told me three or four times that she had filed to protect herself from my actions. I was taking money out of our bank account by the fistfuls so I could use it to have fun with my affair partner.

So when I was served at work...I was sick and sad and I threw up ALL day the next day!

Yes, I cheated on my wife and she finally called me on it. Like the coward I am, I ran away and couldn't face her for a few days.

The woman I came home to was someone I didn't recognize. She oozed self-confidence and frankly...she SCARED me!

I thought my wife would be begging me to come home so I could be home and relax and continue my affair in relative comfort while my wife took care of the menial things like laundry and keeping me fed so I could keep up the strength to continue my affair.

I haven't been sleeping well and I think my wife is going to take all of my fun stuff away. All of my things that are SO important to my survival, like my Avenger and Stargate DVD collections.

I guess a lot of the other stuff will have to be sold to afford a Doberman. She does need protection against me now, after all. I guess I'll get a Chihuahua. Should be sufficient.

And cheaper.

Well, I guess I'd better sign-off now. I'm living downtown in a slophouse and the water heaters aren't very big so I'll probably end up taking a cold shower. Oh well, I guess I need it.

Here's irony for ya': our first hearing is next week. It's the day before Turkey Day, which also happens to be our 14.5 year anniversary. Nice, huh?


'Nuff whining,

Mr. Gray
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Hey C22,

Where's he posting his pity party? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

No need tell....just curious. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

Be strong. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

L.

Charlotte, if you want to preserve your anonymity, it's probably not a good idea to refer to content that sits on a website run by your H or yourself. Anyone who knows how to use a search engine like Google can quickly find out more about your identity than you prefer to reveal.

I agree, it took me a few seconds to find.

Charlotte, I would advise you to edit that post and delete what Mr. Grey posted.

Hi Orchid!

His blog on our website.

I'll just bet he was hoping I'd see it.

At least he didn't badmouth me.

Hi MIM and suamico,

Thanks. What's in there that makes it easy to be found? The title?

There's really nothing on there that I have to hide.

charlotte,

if you type any of the text you posted from his blog and enter it into google, it brings up his blog. I agree with others, edit it out.

Is he serious with that username? Is that in reference to his pill use?

sending strength and prayers your way...

Ah, I see.

No, his username is in reference to our last name.

Should I care, really?

He blared it out there for the whole world.

The only thing I wouldn't want is for it to bring him here at this point.

I put MY name in a search engine and the second page led to my profile here! My real name, that is.

CHARLOTTE! Now I know your first, his first and your last name, What state you live in etc. With that info I can find out all kinds of info on you. This is what we are talking about. It isn't that you have something to hide but that some looney can show up at your door step! Please edit it out.

Wow, really?

I hope you didn't see that terrible pic of me on there.

Gee, I didn't know all of that was on there. I'll see what I can do to edit and preserve content. Kinda wanted to see what others thought about it, ya know?

I hope this is better. I put in a bunch of different lines and the site didn't come up.

Naw, I didn't see your picture but I did find out how much HAM and CBing mean to Mr. Gray. I know he is being a complete A$$ right now but I hope you find it in your heart to make sure he gets that stuff. I also can see from his posting where he is a caring person (some stuff he wrote about you and others) and see where you miss Jonesy..... I hope he comes back, if not in your marriage (praying) then after so you both can be close again. You KNOW Jonesy is in there but Mr. Gray has him pinned down. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> As for my opinion on his blog, he is having himself a great big pitty party. If I didn't know anything about you and just read that post I would feel sorry for him...but I know better!

Charlotte,

It's never a good idea to let too many people know your business even if exposure tends to help end affairs. He wants sympathy pure and simple.

He's coming up with all sorts of justifications and he wants others to throw a pity party for them.

Beleive me, when my WxGF e-mailed me she told me her emotional state to draw me in to give her symptahy. Problem is I saw it for what it was a way to make her feel better.

Yesterday she sent me an e-mail wanting to meet in person to give me a check. Yet one month ago she didn't want to see me and wanted to send my mail to my parents house.

Mr. Gray is lost because he's nowhere near defogging. He needs to face reality in order to reach a breaking point. You need to let him hit the deepest darkest of holes before he'll be capable of showing remorse.

I'm only two dayspost A and my WxGF has shown nothing to indicate any remorse for what she's done.

Thank you, suamico.

Mr. Gray has been in charge for so long now that I am forgetting how good and sweet and kind Jonesy was. I don't know if I'll ever see him again.

I don't want any of the stuff in our house. As far as I'm concerned he can have all of it. It is nothing but a source of pain. All I need are some clothes and cooking utensils. Everything in there is a trigger. Movies are a trigger. TV shows are triggers. Books, frying pans, coffee cups...on and on.

I might as well just go find a cave to live in and make my own tools to use.

We like so many of the same things that there's just no way out of this hellhole for me.

All of the things he loves are now tied up in court. So now he hates me. I don't want the stuff. Granted, the money used on it should have been used to pay bills but the only reason I had my Doberman add it to the agreement was so he couldn't sell things and use the proceeds to further his affair.

Now he hates me. I guess if I was shaped like a Browning "Golden Eagle" or any number of others and I had a tuner and a squelch I would be A-OK.

I will do Plan B for me. It won't make a bit of difference in his corner.

I'll just be relegated to some nasty name like he has for his XW.

I was already just an initial to him so it won't be much of a stretch to come up with a name for me, I'm sure.

I'll just work on me and pack up the house and get crap in order for inventory and tour that school and stay busy and wait for the inevitable.

Thanks 411.

I know your right. I just don't know if he'll EVER get out of the fog.

I might as well move to London. At least the fog is world famous and not such a bad thing there. (Unless you have to live with it all of the time, I guess. Then it might be a different story. Especially if werewolves are hiding in it!)

Maybe I'll just take my 1/2 or whatever of the settlement and move out of America. I guess I might have been right. I don't think I can stay in the States anymore with him here.

Oh, THAT name. No, it's a radio.

I have an aunt that actually had it written in her divorce decree that she would remain in her home state and he would have to move to ANY other state in the country. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> It worked for her!