I'll be back with an update shortly!

Brain still fried here!

Miss Charlotte - Are you still recovering from your ordeal, or are you giving everyone a chance to go out for popcorn?

Where is that girl!??? She will fill you in, but it went pretty well. She was nervous at first, but noticed that he was shaking. They were both very pleasant about the whole thing. As he went to leave, she handed him the Plan B letter and asked him to read it. He left then.

She called me up and told me everything and we ended up laughing our heads off over something....

Charlotte: I gave him the letter

Mel: oh good! and who is your intermediary?

Charlotte: YOU..

Mel: ME?

Charlotte: yep, you offered and I have the PROOF in an email!!

Mel: BWWAHAHAAHHAAA

Charlotte: BWAHAHAHAAA!

It really was hysterical and we were laughing so hard I could hardly talk. But she is heartbroken, you guys. Hopefully she will come here and fill in the details soon.

I just want to say again how very much I love you guys for posting to her. You keep her uplifted and positive and she was so happy about your posts to her last night and this morning. That means so much to her! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Mel:

Is Charlotte your friend IRL?

*sending strength and prayers to plan b rockstar charlotte*

If she wasn't before, she sure is by now. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Charlotte-- I read the blog and.... well, you show a lot of restrain from exposing him to his 'radio buddies.' I seriously doubt they'd give him any sort of comfort if he was man enough to tell the truth about his situation.

I know today was very hard for you. By going to Plan B, you really are doing the right thing. I honestly believe you will have no regrets.

Charlotte - Hope you are doing okay. Please have some hope that Plan B WILL end the affair. You just need to stay very dark.

The seeds of the destruction of the affair are in it's beginning. My ex's OW cheated while her husband was in Iraq. My ex was a vet and very proud of veterans in general. I used to ask him how he could feel okay about the start of their relationship.

Well, he didn't. From the start, he knew in the back of his mind that the OW could do to HIM what she did to her husband.

Your WH's OW left her sick husband. Don't think hubby won't be mulling THAT one over in his mind.

Also OW laughed at you and is just generally a nasty person. It won't last.

Charlotte....

You are lovable.

Heck, us MBers have never even met you and we all love you.

You are courageous.

You stood up for what is right and good. You did it anyway and you were scared to death. I am very proud of you. You won't regret this. You have to teach people how to treat you. Make no mistake about it, Jonesy will have boat loads of respect for you now. You'll see.

You're not alone.

We're here for you.

Side note.....did you picture us cheering for you? WAS Mel picking her nose?
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{{{{{{{{{Charlotte}}}}}}}}}}

Yeah, and I held her hand today with dat hand! **snort** <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Ewwwwwwwww! Lol! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Hey Charlotte!

Looking forward to your report... (Mel - You're such a good friend... thanks for being there for Charlotte!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> )

Semper Fi,

RIF

Wow!!

I'm sorry guys!! I got jumpy about Mr. Gray coming back. DS25 & pal were going to follow him back in pal's truck so Mr. Gray
wouldn't have to drive them back.

Well, that apparently changed by the time they got outside because they left pal's truck.

So, everything went well. I was SO nervous but he was pleasant and so was I.

BUT-the stupid radios came up, of course. I just told him I didn't have anything to do with that, he'd have talk to my Doberman. He brought them up again about some radio mags. AGAIN...sorry I don't know anything about that, you'll have to talk to my Doberman.

Yet again: we were in the radio room and he started going on about how there aren't any really any worth anything except..."maybe those two over there." I said, I'm sorry, I don't have anything to do with that, you'll have to talk to my Doberman!!!!!!!!!

I told him that was between my Doberman and his guy, let them hash it out, I don't know anything about it.

Other than that it went really well. DIL had to stay home with DGS because of the weather but she was faithfully propping me up in IM. My sister was, too.

So I'd be over here, over there, over everywhere and ding! I
had to IM someone, or answer my phone doorbell for an IM. They were making me LAUGH!

At one point Mr. Gray asked what was that ding-dong? My phone. I'm sure he was wondering who the heck I was talking to! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

I was in the bedroom with him while he was taking things off of his dresser. That's when I noticed that he was still wearing his ring. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />

And he was picking things up...BOY was he SHAKING!!! He was shakier than I was!!!

Those are two things that gave me a lot of hope. I know, I shouldn't read too much into it, but I can't help it!! I thought it was a good sign!!!

He had DD25 and pal get the TV out of the radio room for me. He didn't take his desk, though. And nothing out of his closet, either.

And he had a big ol' truck, too!! I don't get it.

Oh well, there's gonna be fur flying now!! I gotta warn my Doberman...the radio heat is going to be turned WAY up, I'm sure!!

I have the perfect solution for him to take to the table, though. An estate sale!! Let him run THAT one by Mr. Mudd!!

LOL!!!

Wooooooooo!!

Now Mr. Gray is dawdling with DD25 and pal. Watching a movie? I don't know.

Now they are eating, according to DIL.

I gave him the letter and the write-up he did for our wedding for the paper all those years ago.

Now waiting to see what, if anything, will happen!

I went for a really long drive and ended up in BFE waiting for him to come back and drop DD25 and pal off but I finally had to give up and go home. I'm at DIL's right now, though!!

Thanks EVERYBODY!!!! I would have NEVER made it without ya'll!!!

Big hugs all around!!!!

Good job, Charlotte! Especially the part about talking to your attorney. Excellent, excellent. No muss no fuss, no errors. I always made the mistake of getting into long conversations about things like that. Way to go!!!!!!!!!!

Great job Charlotte!!!

Now you need to turn into a big black hole... turn off your IM so he can't see you. Don't answer your phone. And try not too think about him...

Now's the time for him to remember all of the great things you did for him over these past weeks of Plan-A... trust me, he IS thinking about you...

Semper Fi,

RIF

There are a lot of growth opportunities in a plan B. Everything from learning how to achieve happiness without relying on someone else AND you can learn how to make sushi or something to fill your time.

You're going to come out better than you were, regardless of which way it turns out. Guaranteed.

SSDD, Charlotte.

You did outstanding, honey!

Jo

I DO!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

He didn't take them cuz he doesn't want to have to load them up, and tote em off and then have to do it again soon cuz he knows he wants to come back!

And I totally agree that the ring was a very good sign. The shaking too cuz he's unsure of what the heck he's doing. That or he has a really bad hangover. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Must be part of the script in the WS MANUAL.

My H left his whole closet full of clothes, too.

I think the RING is definitely a POSITIVE SIGN.

He had to FACE the REALITY of what he was doing. That's what PLAN B is all about..coming to grips with REALITY...

Hey Mimi,

Will you ask your H the reason he left his clothes? I'd like to see if we're right. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

LOL!!