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COnfused,



""my WS confessed in the end when the ONS resulted in pregnancy.""

Wouldn't that lean more towards the busted side?


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BTW, my serial adulterer WXH was busted 7 times, so does that count as 7 votes?

One time after an OW had sent him something via snail mail I met him at the door with a pad of paper and pencil and told him I had foudn out about an adultery and challenged him to write down who it was, to confess all.

He laughed and said he wouldn't know where to begin!

Seriously I should be studied by medical professionals for soem sort of natural immunity to STD's! I was lucky to get no diseases from his philandering phoolishness. No seriously, I thank God - literally - for HIS protection over me. Sometimes I wonder if my WXH will enjoy the same protection from STD's now that I am no longer involved with him...

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Busted her with their emails.

Just think how many affairs went undiscovered prior to the advent of the internet and email?

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Quote:

Just think how many affairs went undiscovered prior to the advent of the internet and email?



How true!!!

H's A in 1990-91 was mostly long-distance (military), and I have no doubt they would've enhanced it with mushy e-mails had the technology been available back then. Sure would've made it easier to catch them!

As it was, it went on for a year before he was busted. He denied it all until I tricked him into admitting PA....I told him I tracked her down and SHE had fessed up to everything. She hadn't, but he sure thought he was busted!

As for my A, , I was busted when a friend of H's told him he saw me out walking with some guy. Ick. Shameful memories.


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Busted,

After months of suspicions and repeated denials, I decided to follow her. Needless to say she did not go where she said she was going.

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One night FWH stayed out REALLY late, didn't call. When I called and was HOT, he didn't care. When he got home, I knew and he spilled it. He was just matter of fact and said that he wanted to fall in love with her, didn't love me anymore and hadn't for some time. I was floored, literally, sobbing and fearful. How attractive that must have been...

Dday 2 was me again. No sobbing on the floor that time though, I was just done.


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Unprompted confession. I knew within hours.


Cowards die many times before their deaths; The valiant never taste of death but once ~Shakespeare
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Well the internet may make it easier to bust them, but I think it also makes it easier for people to hook up in the first place.

Some folks are just lousy at covering their tracks also. My XH lied about all kinds of things - he was a good liar, but not a good sneaker. He could look me in the eye and tell me a lie and was very convincing, but he always left some sort of evidence for me to find.

Of course without hard evidence it becomes his word against mine... so if I suspected a lie, before I'd out him on it, I'd make sure I had the sloppy evidence IN MY HANDS before I'd confront him on it. Even with evidence in hand he'd still continue to deny.

The last time I busted him in a lie, with hard evidence, and he continued to deny, I simply told him that he could keep denying it til the cows came home, I knew the truth and if he didn't quit what he was doing, I'd take the evidence I had to the authorities. What he was doing was cause for legal action on my part.

What do you know - about an hour later he fessed up.

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F/40, DD15 DS13 M 1989 DDay his EA May 1998. S Aug 2004. D Dec 05. I filed. 4/07 Post-D Plan A with 180, with hopes of R. 6/23/07 XH said no to R. 8/24/07 Went on a date with someone new, "B". 1/22/08 Still seeing B, life is good! Learning and growing each day. Ask me about Geocaching!
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Short version:
Day after Christmas [While using her vehicle to take our sick daughter to the Dr]
found my favorite sexy nighty (for her) in her work bag.

She lied. Radar up.

Frantic trying to find proof.
VERY Difficult when ALLLLL sex taking place behind locked doors of a hospital.

Soooo,
stop having sex with her (Which at that time, she'd become kinda nympho ....& before I knew why was kinda fun) .....waited 2-3 weeks and then tested her undies with a semen detection kit.

Kinda hard to refute DNA .....which sure wasn't mine.
Busted!!

Although
When I started my confrontation (at HER insistence....as she caught me with a paper from her purse)
she thought I'd simply found some of their naughty text messages on her phone ....which of course she tried to play off as just fun and joking .
Funny part is,
At that time I couldn't find anything on those type of gadgets {never used them}...............that was her work stuff.
Believe me I tried ......but didn't know what I was doing or which buttons/prompts to use.
That was how she knew I was looking.
So I never saw anything ....(but NEVER let them Know exactly what you Do or Do not Know) ....you'll find out Much More that way!

However,
You can bet I can find my way around techie stuff now!
In fact,
we didn't even own a computer UNTIL she just went out and bought one (so she could have email contact with her CLB ).
Now I use it more than her by a long shot. Strange how things turn out.


Fooling people is serious business, but when you fool yourself it Becomes Fatal.

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Seems more people are busted by their cellphone or PC than any other means. But I would be willing to bet, more affairs are carried on via those two methods than any other way. I'd be interested to know the percentages of how much adultery increased with the invention of those two communication methods.

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