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So I read FWW's IM logs w/ her cousin a while back. Something has been bothering me about it. Her cousin is really attracted to FWW's friend. He said to her "everybody wants to ****** her" to which FWW replied "I already have" Then a few lol's back and forth. (this conversation was during the A) I asked her about this a few weeks ago and she said that she was just joking around and that no she never had sex with her friend. Now my wife isn't bisexual but she did have 1 experience back in high school. I think I believe her about this but I have this nagging feeling that something happened here that she's not telling me. Should I keep pushing this issue or just choose to believe her??
BH - Me 25
WW - 25
D-Day - Aug. 11 2007
NC - Late Aug. 2007
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Considering how recent her A was, I wouldn't trust that as the truth.
I don't know how you feel about the issue. The truth appears to be more important to you than the act, which is what I would want to know. Seek the truth.
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She moved away with the kids April 08. I contested it and got a lot more time with my kids. She's unhappy that I want to stay involved in their lives and don't settle for being an "every other weekend" dad.
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Yeah. The thing is is that she's been really honest and committed since NC. I don't want to keep pushing if she really was just joking around with her (4th?) cousin. I guess I could bring it up in MC next week.
BH - Me 25
WW - 25
D-Day - Aug. 11 2007
NC - Late Aug. 2007
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He said to her "everybody wants to ****** her" to which FWW replied "I already have" Then a few lol's back and forth. This is a very odd thing to "joke" about. I am a female and I wouldn't joke about **** anyone in the past even before I met my husband, especially another woman. I would bring it up in MC.
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I would believe her regarding this. I have heard jokes like this from straight women in the past.
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We are only 25, people around our age joke about this type of stuff all the time. The A just makes me question everything though.
BH - Me 25
WW - 25
D-Day - Aug. 11 2007
NC - Late Aug. 2007
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Of course it's impossible for us to know. But that is defintely weird, and the way it was worded, I'm not sure it was a joke. It sounds more like a confession with some LOL afterwards, in case the other person freaked out, then the LOL could be used to say "I was just kidding."
That's just my take on it.
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