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got a text message and got myself deleted from his myspace because I didn't lie to his brother......I am severly pissed...almost to that ****** hath no fury point.... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

got a text message this AM:

what stuff do I have of yours and you can toss my stuff. You called my brother with some crazy stuff and put the first rift in 25 years between us. we wernt together long enough for all this . It's over. We don't need to get together and to talk things through. Talk to your friends and family not mine.

I got ticked and went off a bit:

First off your brother and I are friends he asked me to call. I am not going 2 lie to 2 save face for you. U know what stuff you have of mine. I don't want to talk things through but I do want some questions answered. Lord it's amazing how u don't know how much damage u have done. Look I have always been honest with you. But I feel you have been less than honest with me. Why did you have to use me. Why did you have to give me hope. I am glad u can eat, sleep and not cry through this. I am sorry I never ment anything and was just another notch in ur belt in monterey. Everything in that selfish email told me 2 u we never ment anything. U attacked my worth as a person and as a mother. I told mysself once I would not date a soldier again and I thought u were different and had some honor. Make the plans to exchange the stuff and quit being a coward. U created this mess be a man and clean it up so we both can be left with some dignity.

Texted him with after I cooled down a bit(I know I shouldn't have sent this but):

I am sorry for being angry but U know I am hurt and from that comes anger. I don't want 2 be angry. I want 2 b 2 sdults who can communicate. I heard all about how u were feeling I listened 2 u. I obeyed what u wanted. I felt u never accomodates me in the same way. Now things r out of hand and i feel as if I am being made out 2 b a bad guy that I am not. BF u sau u don't want 2 b an [censored]. stop being one.

Got more text messages at lunch....he doesn't quit:

XBF:I only have a minute here. Things are out of hand because you made them that way. You read into everything I have said. I was honest and that is why your are angry.

My response...you need to re-read what you wrote from my perspective.

XBF: I have not ever made you out to be a bad person and I have not attacked you as a mom. Right now you are taking things out of hand. We were not together long enough for the drama of not eating. It's over and I can't see what else there is to talk about. I have given you what answers I have and you make more out of them there is. You have sent me about 20 ( <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> really where did XBF learn to count) texts here in a few hours. Please stop I am concentrating on arabic and I'll get you your stuff back to you.

My response:
Just set the time up and give me the respect of answering what I need to know.

XBF:
what do you need to know it's going to be several days before I get any time to do anything.

My response:
Good I need time 2 cool down before asking anyways. Just set it up.

ARGGGHHHHH! Damn this man.....I don't like being a cold hearted B*tch but damn.....he's lucky I was looking up the contact from the command staff as he messaged me. He doesn't know how much he saved his [censored]. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

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Meh.

He'll be eating with a set of hooks with that kind of attirude.


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did I at least handle it well towards the end *wince*

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Hey Wake!

Well, I'm not a MC or a Relationship Coach... but...

I would just thank my lucky stars that this guy is out of your's and your DS's lives...

I'd stop texting him and let him set up the 'hand-off' of stuff... Go completely dark with him. Don't call him, don't txt him, don't think about him!

You will find the right guy... this one wasn't it. I'm sorry that things didn't work out, but as painful as this is for you now, it's much less painful than if you'd married this guy and then found out that he didn't love your DS later on down the road...

Semper Fi,

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Me, BS

Her, Forgiven

Married Dec 86

Multiple A's that ended '90

Rebuilding In Faith since then...

Currently deployed to Iraq, but TEXAS is Home!

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