My husband of 15yrs moved in with a girl after only 3 weeks
it has been 2months since he has been gone--- his reasons for leaving are stupid. mid life crisis I think. he heard i was having health problems and stopped by to see me. i asked him how he is -- he said well im doing-- i picked up he is not doing that great by his attitude. I asked him if we would ever get back together he said - who knows there is always hope. b4 he left he put his arm around me and said take care of yourself, I told him to do the same.
so 2 days later he shows up again--- asking how I am doing and feeling-- I said ok -- I asked to give me a chance- he said : you are such a good person, he has his head down alot when he talks with me--- I told him I miss him ans all I wanted was him--- He said I know that--- he kinda smiled and winked at me. He left because he said I spent too much money and did not like his friends, a bunch of stupid things. as he pulled away he beeped his horn good bye--
I just dont know what to do?--- PLease someone guide me

Hope your health is getting better.

What this means is that there may be trouble in paradise. They only knew each other 3 weeks and moved in together? I'm sure things aren't turning out as rosy as they planned.

Stay in Plan A, and continue making changes in yourself.

Hi mmatchin,

This is the third time you started essentially the same thread. Try to just stick to one thread and ask specific questions from there.

Have you been reading the information on the site?

Did you get “Surviving an Affair” by Dr. Harley?

Do you understand the concept of Plan A and have you started any work there?

Have you studied up on Emotional Needs and Love Busters and their role in relationships.

If you want to enact a plan with the MB principles you need to get the reading done.

So all that said, what specifically is your goal here?

thanks I just get so confused --- next time when my husband comes around I think I will ask him if he wants to come back.

I am concerned about what I read in another of your posts - that his friends drink and do drugs, and more importantly, that he SLAPPED you. Does he have substance abuse problems? Has he hit you before?

ok-- when I fist meet my husband he had a crack problem-- drinking problem, than things got better he started doing very well----than all of sudden with in the year it started again. I caught him a few times doing drugs--- This was the first time he had hit me... but very verbally abusive towards me----- I love this guy so much---- I just dont know what to do exactly with my whole situation

Get some counseling. It sounds like you may be co-dependent. Then you will be stronger to make good choices.

Are you going to Alanon or NarcAnon meetings?

LA