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I tried once before to leave Marriage Builders.
I wasn't ready.
When I tried before, I couldn't leave because my heart wasn't quite mended.
I'm ready now. I know I am this time. My heart has told me so.
Early yesterday morning I got out of the shower, and was standing before the mirror. I had put on my favorite lotion and perfume, and was smelling soft and sweet. My husband came in from outside, and saw me there. He came in behind me, and
well, you know.
Now, for those of you who know my story, my husband had a cancer diagnosis about a week or two after d-day. This cancer made the possibility of sexual function not so likely for us.
For awhile, he hasn't even had the desire, and we have had to work very hard to recover his ability for SF. It has been a struggle. Then, even though he "can", the desire part has been very difficult for him due to medications and the recovery process.
But yesterday, EVERYTHING clicked. HE'S BACK.
It was wonderful.
Later, my husband and I went on a five hour hayride with a progressive dinner. It was with about 20 other couples, and we went through the Texas Hill Country. It was a beautiful evening - the sky was crystal clear, the Milky Way above us, a meteor shower for our entertainment. Tractors, hay, beer, wine, and new friends, laughter, cozying up to one another against the slight chill of the upcoming cooler autumn weather......I relaxed and felt close to him.......we were back to being "us" again.
The hayride took us to the top of a hill overlooking our town. We had punch served from the tailgate of a pickup truck (well, not really "punch"!). The lights of our town glistened in the distance, and we stood looking down at the world. He wrapped his arms around me and kissed me softly as we stood in the middle of the crowd of people. He'd never done that before.
I fell in love again.
That is the first time since d-day -
That I really, truly, fell in love with him again.
Thank you, Marriage Builders.
I have sent many people your direction. Please count me and my husband in your
WIN COLUMN.
Schoolbus
It is with gratitude that I say "Good-Bye" to all of those who gave to me.
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We're REALLY going to miss you SB, your input has been invaluable... even in the midst of your own pain. Congratulations on the restoration of your marriage!
Widowed 11/10/12 after 35 years of marriage
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“In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists.” Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story
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I don't recall being one of those that assisted you but I wish you well just the same.
Godspeed,
Mr. Wondering
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schoolbus, don't worry, I'll take your place here on this board. I'm sure people are not thrilled with your leaving, but they are in good hands.
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SB:
That is a send-off story!
YOU will certainly be missed by me.
Maybe, like myself, you can go, but you can't EVER leave.
Stop in, say hello, and chack on a few old friends.
Your insights have ALWAYS been amazing.
LG
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Don't know that I ever posted to you, but read your posts with hopes of gaining just a twinkle of your insight.
You will be missed.
Your "wonderful evening" has me teary eyed...Just awesome.
All the best to you and your H.
BW(me)
DDay EA 4/05
DDay PA 6/05
In recovery
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schoolbus, don't worry, I'll take your place here on this board. I'm sure people are not thrilled with your leaving, but they are in good hands. Well, golly gee, BA! You actually have a sense of humor! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />
"Your actions are so loud that I can't hear a word you're saying!"
BW M 44 yrs to still-foggy but now-faithful WH. What/how I post=my biz. Report any perceived violations to the Mods.
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SB: WELCOME to the "I'M IN LOVE" CLUB!!! It's CRAZY AND WONDERFUL!! I often think why did we have to go through that TRAGEDY to get HERE? Why wasn't it like this ALL THE TIME? My H and I are like grown-up teenagers... What I came on here to tell you, though, is...DON'T KICK YOURSELF if you can't stay away from MBers.. THE HAPPIER I am..the MORE I want EVERYBODY ELSE to be as happy as me... Sometimes I have to pull back for whatever reasons so what I read does not affect my personal mindset or marriagebuilding... But I just feel so compelled TO GIVE BACK which actually HELPS ME.... But that's ME and each to his own... I think you offer something VERY SPECIAL here... But by all means DO WHAT'S BEST FOR YOU and YOUR LIFE... HAPPY MARRIAGE and HAPPY LIFE!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />
Don't sweat it if ever you have a question or feel you have something to contribute. Pop back with joy.
Enjoy the rest of your life SB. You earned it.
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SB, Oh, losing you is like losing dorry all over again. Harumph. Thank you for posting your milestone...just more of the good stuff MB will miss from you...appreciated greatly all you have contributed...least those posts are staying. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Be well and flourish, SB. You excel at it. LA
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Awwww, good-bye, SB!
Sorry to see you go.
But, I'm so happy to see you go happy and in love w/ your H.
All the best!
~ Marsh
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schoolbus, don't worry, I'll take your place here on this board. I'm sure people are not thrilled with your leaving, but they are in good hands. BA - while it's a certainty SchoolBus will be missed, it's equally a certainty that a troll like you is wholly incapable of taking her place. You would not even be missed.
Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
D-Day August 2005
Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23
Empty Nesters.
Fully Recovered.
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SB...sorry to see you go. I wish you and your H the best.
BA...that was very funny.
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SB, I am pouting now. When I saw this thread, I had a bit of hope that you were just posting goodbyes on behalf of someone else who had left suddenly. Or something. And you dashed all my hopes with your first paragraph.
Well, you've earned a break, but don't be a total stranger. I'll miss seeing you around here.
A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
~ English proverb Neak's Story
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SB, I am pouting now. When I saw this thread, I had a bit of hope that you were just posting goodbyes on behalf of someone else who had left suddenly. Or something. And you dashed all my hopes with your first paragraph. Don't worry, be happy, because I'm still here.
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SB, you gave me wonderful advice about my H's medication
induced ED. I did what you said and what a difference in just a few weeks! You truly have insight like very few others. I will miss your widsom greatly, wishing you a thousand more evenings like the one your just described!!
GF
Marriages don't fail, people do.
(And I don't recall who said it)
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SB, I am pouting now. When I saw this thread, I had a bit of hope that you were just posting goodbyes on behalf of someone else who had left suddenly. Or something. And you dashed all my hopes with your first paragraph. Don't worry, be happy, because I'm still here. SchoolBus, I've been a big fan of yours and will miss your wise words. Bogus Advisor,Put down the crack pipe! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> Sincerely, Jo
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Bogus Advisor,Put down the crack pipe! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> Sincerely, Jo Is that the best you can do, accusation without merit? I have never done drugs and I wonder how many of you can say the samething.
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SchoolBus,
Congratulations!!!
You will be missed and your kind advice to others will be missed as well.
God Bless,
JL
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SB....say it ain't so!!!
You are such a blessing to so many of us here...I am most certainly one who has benefited greatly from your advice and wise, wise words of wisdom.
Did I mention that I think you are incredibly wise?
I will miss you so much. More than you know.
At the same time, I am so happy for you. What an evening...what a success....what a lucky man Mr. SB is.
Enjoy every bit of happiness.
((((SB))))
I miss you already,
Sis
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