Invasion of the Body Snatchers!!!!!!

SG:

You have gotten in touch with the love you have left for your ACTUAL HUSBAND!!

The man you are talking to IS NOT YOUR HUSBAND...he may look like him..sound like him..but he is NOT YOUR HUSBAND...

He has LOST that POSITION..needs to be treated like the WAYWARD, ALIEN that HE IS, meaning that he cannot be believed..cannot be trusted...he is possessed with EVIL...evil ways and practices....

Your goal is to CAPTURE your REAL HUSBAND back through use of the MBers' Plans...lure him away from the ALIEN SPACESHIP...

So you LOVE YOUR HUSBAND..and not THE ALIEN...(Orchid, I hear you.. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />)

I'm not familiar with how the TORAH version is different than King James Edition of the Bible...but PROVERBS teaches how to be a GODLY WIFE to a GODLY HUSBAND..you don't have a HUSBAND like that at this time...

Mimi,

Ok, I am hearing you. Since you had success, I have to trust you. I am just worried that I am not being a g-d ly woman and won't be blessed with my Husband coming home. Does that make sense.

Ok, just to clarify. The goal of Plan A is to work on me and through that, hopefully he will see that I have changed. Not necessarily, but hopefully.

Again, the old me would withold the recipe. The new me wants to do what G-d wants me to do. Does that make sense. Tell me where my thinking is off.

Charlotte,

It's HIS family recipe. I got it from his mom. Now, how can I respond. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

SG

Oh geez!

I'll have to think about that one for a while!!!!!

Actually Mimi, this man that emails me is so far from my husband it's scary. The words he uses, the cynical attitude. This one has no sense of humor and quite frankly he's a real drag right now.

Ok, since I am in touch with the love for MY HUSBAND, what do I do with that love?

SG

And you know what else, I think his mom would KILL me if I gave out that receipe to her. If his parents were alive to see what he is doing, they would have disowned him.

So, I almost thought to make a joke about it and say, "And face your mom in heaven? I don't think so.

How's that?

SG

The point of PLAN B is to SAFEGUARD the LOVE for your HUSBAND..the more you see of the ALIEN,there's a great likelihood that your love for him will die.

You are striving in your PLAN A to be the best YOU that you can be...when and if you have YOUR HUSBAND again..you will be a GODLY WIFE...but that has to be put ON HOLD...

What you are doing NOW is PLAN A...different than being a true WIFE..since PLAN A is one-sided..only YOUR GIVER is in action..that's what has to be short-term..you cannot expect anything in return from HIM-THE ALIEN...GET IT???

Girl, you should be in bed.

I'm trying to get it!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

I am not looking for anything from him in return, just don't want to push him farther away. That's the part I am scared about.

ALL I expect from the ALIEN is toxicity. And he is FULL of it. He is so poisonous, I'm afraid it will kill him. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

So his family recipe. What do I tell him, Plan A style?

Sorry to be so dunce tonight. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
SG

Tell him that you will be GLAD to continue to cook it FOR HIM as usual. He's welcome to come over to share some with you or whatever...

Tell him that sharing the recipe would communicate that you have given up on your marriage and that you have not...that you would love for him to share future Thanksgivings with you... as his mother assumed would happen when she gave you the recipe...

That is a good one! And very tempting. Mimi has the best answer to him, I think. Certainly better than mine, LOL!!

Or you can simply say: "I can't give away a secret that YOUR MOTHER shared with me. I don't think she would like that".

I will pray on both suggestions and see what comes to me. I would be lying if I called it a secret recipe. She wrote it down, but I lost it after I memorized it. And really it's a recipe that's in my head that I just create by taste and have perfected over the years.

I sent some of it home with my daughter to give to him at work. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I just have to realize that no matter what I say it will piss him off because it's ALL about him and what he WANTS.

Besides, Thanksgiving it over, since he is Jewish and doesn't celebrate Christmas he shouldn't want it again until next year, oh but wait, his OW isn't Jewish.

Now that's where the latkes come in. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

And there is truth to what you say about the recipe, his mother shared it with me AFTER I was his WIFE, not someone who makes meals for her son or breaks up her son's family and hurts her grandchildren. I really wouldn't want to face my MIL in heaven over this one. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

Thanks Mimi,
SG

Good for you, SG!!!!!

You da Latke Lady!!!!!

Show him what for!

And da latke woman has the recipe in her head. Thank G-d my mother never cooked with recipes on paper. She always memorized or improvised. I was such a good student.

Poor WH - LOL

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Hi SG-

I've been out all day and just was catching up on your thread. You are doing great! Da latke woman will keep that recipe at home (and not share it with the OW). The idea is to make being HOME attractive-and if your WH wants some latkes, then he'll just have to check his alien brain at the door....

I was reading some of your earlier postings about wondering where wanting your WH to suffer comes in with loving him? Well, it's partly human, and it's partly our sense of justice that we get from God. We also want something to happen to them to get them to find the right path-like when we discipline our kids. As we choose to follow God, He tells us to let Him be the one who doles out vengence. He also says that He is slow to anger. Because He is sovereign, He knows what is the best timing for each of His children. Sometimes He lets us suffer the consequences of our choices (like your WH not getting his latkes). Sometimes He has to send extra pressure to get hardened hearts to turn around (think Pharaoh and the plagues). The best thing for you to do is step out of the way and let God deal with your WH. God knows the best way to do this. Hopefully it won't take a big fish like it did with Jonah.

You also said you were reading Prov.31 to be more of the woman God wants you to be. I would recommend you look at the stories of Ruth and Esther. These were women who lived through difficult circumstances and their responses were to be obedient to God in very different ways. Also Hannah-who gave her son Samuel to God after praying for a child for so long. And even though he's not a woman-Joseph's story is also a model to follow. Sometimes we have no idea what God is preparing us for and just have to cling to our faith.

Hang in there. You are doing great!

Thank you JT.

I had the strongest day I have had in weeks, and today I am waffling again. I think the fear is creeping in.

Darn that Satan. I wish he would just go away and leave me alone, for good. And give me back my HUSBAND.

The pain this causes kids is so hard to watch, you know.

SG

SATAN wants you to DOUBT your FAITH in GOD to take care of you.

TRUST IN THE LORD WITH ALL YOUR HEART AND LEAN NOT UNTO THINE OWN UNDERSTANDING; IN ALL THY WAYS ACKNOWLEDGE HIM AND HE WILL DIRECT YOUR PATHS. PROVERBS 3:5-6.

Hi skinsgal! Just checking in on your thread. You are getting some great advice. You sound strong and that is good.

Any idea how long you are going to remain in Plan A?

Stay strong....more tomorrow!

Hi Zorro,

I am very blessed with the advice I am getting and truly appreciate it.

I am not sure how long to stay in Plan A. I think I will let Mimi guide me for when it's time. I do know I have a lot of Plan A left in me and want to do a really good one.

My WH is so typical from the words, to the selfishness, etc. And yet, when it's your own story you somehow think it's the worst case ever and there is no hope.

All I have is my trust and faith in G-d. I somehow have to find a way to build it deeper and stronger. Please pray that I find the path to G-d deeper.

How are you doing?

SG

Good morning,

Ok, here's the happenings that I just found out about on the other side of the street.

I don't think all is perfect over in fastasyland. I found out that OW pulled another disappearing act one day and my WH was VERY angry that he or anyone else couldn't get a hold of her. I wonder if she was out using again.

I also found out that my WH isn't contacting my kids b/c OW won't let him have a relationship with his kids unless she is around, which won't happen. So she is keeping him from his kids and their relationship is being destroyed.

My friend gets the impression that OW is out for as much money as possible and he got the feeling like she was trying to get my friend to give her and WH money for the work that my WH was doing.

I think her true colors will come out over time. What do you all think?

The hardest part is that my kids really miss their dad, but they are as stubborn as their dad.

What do you all think? I am just keeping with Plan A and being the sweet giving woman, not to much - no RECIPE.

On a sad note - Sean Taylor, the most talented player my beloved Redskins had on their team died last night from a gunshot wound he received Monday night. This was my son's favorite player and he is really hurting over it. Some of you may think this is stupid, but I love my Redskins.

I just need a little reinforcement that my HUSBAND is gone to the mother ship, and that's why he hasn't called to show some concern. My HUSBAND would know how bad this hurts, couldn't he just muster some sympathy or is that just me being knaive.

Please keep me on track.

SG