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SG,

Psalm 5:11 & 12 But let all who take refuge in you be glad; let them ever sing for joy. Spread your protection over them, that those who love your name may rejoice in you. For surely, O Lord, you bless the righteous; you surround them with your favor as with a shield.

Joshua 1:9 Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.

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Oh thank you Mark and PM,

I will put these down in my prayer book that I am creating. I am creating quite a nice bedtime ritual between G-d and me.

I actually look forward to my ALONE TIME WITH HIM.

Do you all know how special you are and how you help me stay with G-d. He is definetly working his miracles in me.

Last night at my AA meeting I realized that my children are coming to EXPECT me to make them breakfast and dinner. That was something I DID NOT do on a regular basis and I THINK was important to my HUBBY.

And I am DOING it because I WANT to do it for my children.

SG


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PM,

I am Jewish and actually very proud to be Jewish. But about a month or so ago, my rabbi and I had a LONG talk about what was going on.

He agreed that I was caught up in a cosmic battle for my H spirit and soul.

I told him that I felt way more support from the Christian community and he told me that it really didn't matter where the support came from. There is ONE G-d and his will is what is most important. And where I got support was what's important not what religion they were.

Please know that I am humbled enough to accept ALL help from people who walk with G-d. That's all that's important. I am EVEN WILLING to read excerpts from the New Testament if it will HELP G-d restoring my marriage. So, please suggest away. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I hope that make sense.


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SG,

Just had to drop in on this -

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I told him that I felt way more support from the Christian community and he told me that it really didn't matter where the support came from. There is ONE G-d and his will is what is most important. And where I got support was what's important not what religion they were.


As you may have noticed, I am not a 'religion' debater, but am a person of great faith. I don't want to start any 'religion' discussion, but I have to say that I think you have a GREAT rabbi! To me, he gave a perfect answer and I admire your ability to see the value in all of the support, no matter the source.

You are doing So Well!

{{SkinsGal}}


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SG

Was just checkin on my fellow MBers and wanted to tell you I think you are doing great--love the red girl.
STAND TALL, HEAD UP, CHEST OUT!!


Got to run--schoolwork calls.. Talk you Saturday!

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Hey Smartie, I am missing you SO much. I hope you are having a nice week and talk to you Saturday.

Bugsy,

I am very humbled by your commitment to your recovery. Please pass along any words of faith, prayers, etc that you think would be helpful to me. I truly believe that G-d has faith in me and my abilities to walk through this terribly time with grace and dignity, learning ALL the lessons I need to and is counting on me to be there when my H comes home, as Mimi says, broken and sick.

In fact, my rabbi told me this summer when I spoke to him first about this, he said BS, you need to get rock solid strong. I guarentee you WS will crash and burn and he is going to NEED your strength. I truly believe ALL of you on here are my angels that are helping G-d change and work his miracles in me. And for THAT I am so grateful and humbled.

And you are RIGHT, my Rabbi is awesome. He retired a few years back and we MISS him horribly. But he came back for a Bar Mitzvah.

I hope to hear from you more often when you have time. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

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SG, I'm glad I can help. My heart goes out to you because I can SO relate to everything that you express about your doubts and fears and hopes. I remember feeling the same things. I didn't have anyone to help me and I was just lost, lost, lost. I will never sit back when I see someone in the same awful pain I experienced if I can help in any way at all.

I respect the Jewish faith very much. I have a love for the Jewish people because they are after all-- God's chosen people. I LOVE their dance, devotion and worship.

Your Rabbi is obviously a wise man. Don't let go of that.


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What a BLESSING you are....

As are you. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />


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PM,

Thank you. Are you going to be pulling for my Skins tomorrow night. They sure could use a lift in their life. It's been a rough ten days for them.

Please know, you are helping. This understanding and reading the bible. There is so much and so many places to go. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I read your byline everytime and chuckle to myself. The one thing I had to change through this whole thing is EVERYTHING.

I have to ask, do you see hope in my sitch and is there anything you thing you think I could be doing wrong or do more right?

SG


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Are you going to be pulling for my Skins tomorrow night.

Okay, now you're really pushing the bounds of friendship. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> (Just kidding).

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They sure could use a lift in their life. It's been a rough ten days for them.

Yeah, I know. I feel really bad for them. So so sad and what a waste.

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I have to ask, do you see hope in my sitch and is there anything you thing you think I could be doing wrong or do more right?

Absolutely I see hope but I'm not really the person to ask about what to be doing because I did everything the PM way (since I didn't know about MB). Stick with Mimi on this Plan A stuff. She rocks.


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Desparate times call for desparate measures. I stretch any bounds for my Skins.

It was a waste and looks like it was on both sides now.

Oh, I am SO sticking with Mimi on this. I can't believe how generous and giving her and everyone else has been. They have been very patient with me.

One day, I will return the kindness for someone else. I truly believe G-d is teaching me to give to others.

SG


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SkinsGal -

Here is one of my favorites -

Proverbs 31:10-30 (New International Version)
New International Version (NIV)
Copyright © 1973



10 [a] A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.

11 Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.

12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.

13 She selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.

14 She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.

15 She gets up while it is still dark;
she provides food for her family
and portions for her servant girls.

16 She considers a field and buys it;
out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.

17 She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.

18 She sees that her trading is profitable,
and her lamp does not go out at night.

19 In her hand she holds the distaff
and grasps the spindle with her fingers.

20 She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the needy.

21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet.

22 She makes coverings for her bed;
she is clothed in fine linen and purple.

23 Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.

24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
and supplies the merchants with sashes.

25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.

26 She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.

27 She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.

28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:

29 "Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all."

30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.

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Believer has provided you with a more modern version of PROVERBS 31 that I spoke to you about earlier.

PROVERBS 31 is MY MISSION STATEMENT..

The Lord led me to read this at my grandmother's funeral..she was the EPITOME of the PROVERBS 31 wife..I strive to be like her...

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Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all."

30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.


DO NOT COMPARE YOURSELF TO THE OTHER WOMAN!! You do not even live in the same universe as she does...


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I COMPLETELY understand this and WITH ALL MY HEART, desire to be this woman.

Do you think G-d will give me the chance to be this woman with my husband? Or do I become this woman regardless of him?

This one - 15 She gets up while it is still dark;
she provides food for her family and portions for her servant girls. For over three weeks, I actually have gotten up every morning to make my YS breakfast in the dark. It's one of the most joys of my day.

Ok, I am breaking down crying. This is so much of what MY LIFE was like. What happened then? NEVER MIND, what happened was G-d wasn't FIRST. Plain and simple.

So MY PLAN is to BECOME this WOMAN for G-d.

Mimi, can you please help me?

OK, I will work on the stopping comparisons. This will be HARD for me because my self esteem is so LOW. But getting higher each day.

SG


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Hi SG-

Greetings from the north!!!(Well, north of Maple Valley at least)

I have been reading off and on all day but didn't have any time to post until now. I think you worked your plan wonderfully today. And I agree that your rabbi is a wise man.

I wanted to add a verse for you-for your prayer book and for you to recall when you start to make those comparisons. This is how much God cares for you. That makes you priceless!

How precious to me are your thoughts, O God!
How vast is the sum of them!
Were I to count them,
they would outnumber the grains of sand.
When I awake,
I am still with you.: Ps 139:17-18


johnstwin-

"I may not know what the future holds, but I know who holds my future." -Martin Luther

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Hi JT,

You are up late. And greetings from the south end.

Thank you for the verse. I think that I need to start to learn to keep this book with me AT ALL TIMES.

How are you tonight?


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Hi Mimi,

How are you doing today?

I have a question. Haven't heard from WH, not a surprise at all.

Where do I plan from here?

I should have my money in a week or so for the lawyer.

I have a few bills that I need to get to him. If he didnt' get my phone message then he wouldn't have known about them. I can email him and ask him if he got my message. If he said not, no problem. If he said yes, then I know he is avoiding me and I can just remind him I have bills for him?

Thank you,


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Can you carry the bills to his office attached to another special goody?


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Why, yes I think I can do that. I was going to make cookies next week.

I should just leave them there without seeing him maybe?

One bill is his car registration that's due this Saturday, but it really doesn't expire until the end of the month. Since we are "supposedly" splitting his paycheck, I was going to give him half of the money for the registration. What do you think about that?

So, just to check in, I am still working a very HARD Plan A, because Plan B is just around the corner? What kind of timing are you thinking about? Or what do I need to accomplish before Plan B?

I should also mention my anniversary is January 1st.


BS 52, FWH 53, Married 1-1-84
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Plan A 9 months, DARK Plan B 3-17-08 until 3-2-09
WH and OW broke up 1-09
Started over 7-09
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