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Are you buying any of this?
LOL, you wouldn't lie to me would you.

What things do you like to read.

I get the impression that you are in need of building up your own self-esteem. My IC told me to write down 5 things that I like about myself everyday.

So here goes...
1. I like my eyes.
2. I like that I am a much more calmer person than I used to be.
3. I like that I can fit into my Redskins jacket
4. I like that I truly genuinely care for people
5. I like that my heart, as bad as it's been heart has NOT given up on my H.

Now your turn.


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For the last 6 months it's been all relationship books, but usually I'll read a fiction novel (I like Tom Clancy, John Sandford, Stephen King, Dan Brown) then something that I can learn from, financial, personal growth.

Ok 5 things I like about myself... I've never done this before.

1- I like that I look for the good in people.
2- I like I have a good spirit.
3- I like I got my weight, blood pressure and cholesterol down.
4- I like that I can get along with anybody.
5- I like that I am loyal.

How's that? It does make me feel better about myself.


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The pick 5 more things if it's making you feel good.

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SG,

I don't know how much later...It seems we have a game on our hands. Steelers 1st and goal at the 5...2nd and goal at the 1...3rd and goal...4th and goal...

Make it 1st and goal...TD...Steelers lead by 1.

I think some of the differences come from how the two translations came about and the time when they were translated. A great deal of difference in language comes from different time periods.

If you compare the two versions, you will see that there is really no difference in meaning, only in the words used.

For example..."Whole heartedly"...really the same thing as "with all my heart"

The word command is really the same as commandments. And, yes, those are the very same for both of us. It refers to the 10 commandments and to the sum total of the law, but I think can also apply to individual revelation as well, which I think in the case of David came in some cases through the profit, Nathan, but at times directly from God himself.

Jags by 2 with under a minute.

A young man asks an older man that he considers to be godly and an example of how God expects us to live our lives to be his mentor. The old man agrees and tells him to be at his house at 6am to learn about God and how to follow His will.

The young man shows up a few minutes early and the old man comes outside to greet him. After shaking hands, the older man says simply, "follow me." and walks off into the woods.

The young man struggles to keep up as the older man begins to climb the mountain. He climbs over logs, scrambles over rocks and ducks under low hanging branches with ease. The younger man is nearly exhausted just from trying to keep up. He tries to get the older man's attention to tell him he needs to rest, but the old man climbs over a huge bolder and disappears, so he picks himself up and carries on.

Finally the old man pushes through the branches of the trees surrounding a clearing and in that clearing is a high mountain lake. The old man stands on the bank of that lake as the younger man falls to his knees beside him. He pants for breath and his lungs burn from exertion. He leans forward, cups his hands together and begins to take a drink from the edge of the cold clear lake.

The older man places his foot on the back of the younger man's head and pushes hs face under the water, holding him there as he begins to struggle. Finally, as the young man is about to lose hope of even surviving this ordeal, the old man lets him up.

As the younger man flops onto his back beside the lake, looking into the face of the man he began the day with so much respect for, he cries out, "What are you doing! Are you trying to kill me?"

The older man bends down, placing his hand on the younger man's head and whispers..."You have to want what He wants even more than you want your next breath."



Steelers are toast...

Mark

PS You guys are too IM oriented for my poor old fingers. I have to think about what I'm going to say before i type it. And by the time I finish my thoughts, you guys have posted two pages on me... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

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Ok 5 more...

6- I like my sense of humour
7- I like my love for animals
8- I like that I have a nice butt. LOL
9- I like my personality
10- I like that I'm likable.


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And that's what I want, a walk with G-d that is design and approved by G-d. More than my next breath because without it I might as well be dead.


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Ok, here is a Plan A question.

I just had a short, intersting conversation with WH. I think I might have confused him. And this totally came from G-d. I wrote him hi there, he responded with Condolensces. My answer - oh there are way more important things in life than a silly game. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

And then he went on to complain about Seahawk fans and how he hates them. I asked him how come, he responded with a smart comment. Then I answered - God takes care of everyone in his own way. (I don't think he liked that comment, he said nothing) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

I followed Mimi's suggestion about helping me with frisbee. I have asked him three times now to help me throw the frisbee. He hasn't said no, but he certainly hasn't said yes. In fact we were talking about him playing soccer and he made the comment that he needs to get into shape better or that he was stiff. I suggested that running with me for frisbee would be a great way. Boom, he was gone.

Oh that was right after I thanked him for all the years he helped me with the Bridal Faire. I told him it was a blessing that I hope to ask him for next year and then asked about the frisbee.

Boom he was gone, not a goodbye, nothing. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> Why his mother would be shocked at his bad manners. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

So how should I handle it? I have really no emotion on this. It's the weekend and typically he is the binging man again. But should I keep asking about the frisbee or try something else.

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Ok 5 more...

6- I like my sense of humour
7- I like my love for animals
8- I like that I have a nice butt. LOL
9- I like my personality
10- I like that I'm likable.

What kind of animals.


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hmmm if he took off that quickly I wonder if OW came in the room and he didn't want her knowing he was chatting with you? maybe he is feeling a little guilty ;-)


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We have 4 cats, and all kinds of different bird feed outside. Not much of a dog person (It's like having a 6 months old baby).

I'm with SS. Picture him trying to babble his way out of that one. That should make you smile.


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I probably should have read this before I went to sleep. Another night of tossing and turning. UGH!!!

I don't think I should go down that road of picturing what he does at home with her. It could be very grusome and hurtful to me. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Not to mention insanity and sadness.

I'm glad my appt with Steve is Tuesday morning.


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Good morning Queenie,

I'm with you there, I was up until 4, just couldn't fall asleep. WW came home from next door stumbling drunk at 3 am, it must be nice being a party girl now. I'm not doing this next weekend! If she decides that we are not going to spend the tome together, I'm going out! No idea where or to do what, but I'm getting out. She's hung over this morning so I suspect I'll see the alone come out at one point.

Had a weird dream just before I woke up. It my have something to do with your question about animals. We were driving in the country (Couldn't tell who was with me) but I was naming off the farm animals we saw and would say what their use as a farm animal was. Saw, cows, pigs, sheep, lamas, emus, horses...then I got to donkeys and couldn't figure out their use, and then I woke up.


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Hellooooo, are you sleeping the day away! I hope you are out doing something fun!!


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Queenie,

We haven't heard from you all day. Things Ok?


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Yea...i'm kinda worried, too...


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Hi TMTS, Serenity, and Mimi,

I was at at bridal faire today. I go make up for brides. I did better than I thought.

I'm really touched that you missed me. Thank you, you can't imagine how special that makes me feel. Thank you.

I made an appt to do some timeline work on my life. I need to see where in my life my CORE belief about not deserving love or being a lovable person came to be.

I also had a break through with my sponsor tonight. I told her that I had a spark of a feeling that I can imagine my life without my H and that was ok. I sobbed for a few minutes. It was the first time I ever said something like that.

The topic at the AA meeting tonight was surrender. Could I hopefully be doing that a little more and letting my faith take over. I hope so.

I am sitting on my bed starting to write a letter to my mom and making amends to her for all the bad things I did. And then I am going to start to work on me.

How are all of your doing tonight? I missed you today. Did you watch the games. Serenity, what did you do for yourself? Actually what did all of you do for yourselves.

Back after awhile


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Glad to here from you Queenie, you had us worried there for a while. There was another poster that had changed names because the crazy OW got a hold of their sign on name, and we thought it might be you.

Sound like you are in a real good space right now, that's great.

I'll let you read my posts for today. I had a pretty exciting morning.

Other than that I cooked a chicken stew, did some reading, and played guitar hero with the kids.

Bad part is I got up at 11AM and can't sleep right now, and got to go back to work tomorrow. I also talked to my M (that's always entertaining) she was a BS in 1980, so she's not familiar with MB principals. She does have her own though... She's telling me to go to plan take care of yourself and the kids and don't worry about her. I take it as a modified plan B. LOL.

I also wrote my first draft of PBL, but it was so bad I burnt it.


I'll probably be here for a while, so we'll talk to you in a bit.


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Hi Queenie-

Yes, we missed you. I left you VM on your phone just to check up on you, but I had an idea that you were probably at the bridal fair.

Tomorrow I go back to work and YS goes back to school. OS went back to WSU today.

You are missed when you aren't around.


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JT, Thank you. You can't, maybe you do, but thank you. To be missed by people is something that I don't take for granted and am very appreciative of.

Have a good day tomorrow. Are you happy about it? How are you doing with the kids being gone? Can I do anything for you?

TMTS,

As soon as I finish the letter to my mom I'll be back and read your thread. Your mother sounds like a wise woman. Are you close to her? How did writing the first draft feel like.

What are 5 things you like about yourself today?


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Queenie-

Thank you. I am glad to be going back. I miss my students when I'm gone. I am also glad that my OS is back at school safely (crossing the pass can be dicey) and am feeling so much better about him because we had time to talk and relax. It's so good to see him with his little brother. He is also a very open young man, so we were able to talk about a lot of his concerns. It's hard to be the oldest boy in a situation like this. He feels a lot of responsibility for his little bro with his dad gone. But it is much better than last year and the worries they all had about me....enough said about that.

We need to plan some time to get together. I think it would be fun to come down to Bellevue Square sometime now that it isn't the holidays. Let me know when you have a free Saturday. I'll take advantage of it and visit my folks too (on M.I.).


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