It is NOT a matter of a spouse not having needs met and gradually moving a boundary further and further until they find themselves in an affair.

One thing. I don't know if this makes a difference SMB. I don't believe the time he cheated on me when I was pregnant was more than once and it was with a hooker. That's when things started to unravel for him drug wise.

But MY HEAD WAS UP, CHEST WAS OUT, SMILE WAS SHINING AND LAUGHTER WAS ON.

What issues do YOU HAVE with self-respect and anger?

I believe that the HEALTHY WAY to express ANGER is with CONTROL and PLANNING the BEST and most EFFECTIVE WAY to do so, calmly SPEAKING YOUR TRUTH in a way that you are HEARD.

I have been a very busy GODDESS today. VERY BUSY. I got up, went for about a 3 mile walk in the sun around the lake, then went to the library, picked out a few books and then went to the tanning booth. Sometime during my walk I gathered up enough strength and decided to go to WH's lacrosse game.

OH YES, CHEST OUT, HEAD UP AND SMILE SHINING, I walked right down onto that field with OW there. I immediately started talking to people and introducing myself as WH's wife. I got asked to keep score. At one point I needed to leave the field and get a pen. I know she was hoping that I was leaving for good. NOT.....

I walked back down and invaded her space and blocked her out. I talked to the players, one of them particularly from the high school team. I talked to the mgrs wife introduced myself as WH's wife and that he was having an affair with a crack addict with hep C. I loved him and was fighting for him to come home. I told her that I was here to support my husband and that I wasn't going to cause any trouble.

Then she said, you've changed. I asked her if we had met before she said yes and then she said my hair was shorter and a different color. I laughted and said that was the other woman she had met. LOL. I chatted with the refs... they know me as his wife..and the lacrosse mom for Maple Valley.

I walked up and down the side lines, cheering for my honey, very sweetly and supportive. She didn't say one word. She walked over to the ladies at one point and stood by them and they pretty much ignored her. I don't know if they were doing it on purpose or not.

And then at half time, I went and got near where she was, pushing her away from those ladies and just started talking.

My WH, ran by me and barely said hi, in fact I don't think he did at all. He completely ignored me pretty much the whole time and would walk over to her throughout the game and give her a peck kiss. Actually not a very loving kisses, but that's my interpretation.

I can only imagine what OW was thinking. I looked FABULOUS, tan, getting skinny and strutting my strength and territory, all the while completely ignoring her. The weirdest thing is she kept picking at her nails. Constantly. Don't know what that was about.

She was pretty quiet throughout the game, stood really close to WH. At one point he got sandwiched pretty bad and she walked over there. So did I, but I calmy stayed away and just my presence was enough. I hope he knew I was there.

I felt empowered. She has no idea when I am going to turn up next and when I do, I walk right in like I belong, which I do. Right after the game, I handed off the scoring information and walked away. As I got almost to the end of the field I looked back and there she was staring at me. I turned and smiled, walked up the ramp and held my hands up in success.

I have NO clue whether he is pissed at me or not. I have no idea what home is like for them tonight. But I do know, that she wasn't smiling too much while I was there. Oh, I did notice she is wearing a ring on her wedding finger. I wanted to puke. But of course, I was showing off my BIGGER diamonds in the sunlight and turned to face her a couple of times so she could see that I wear my H wedding ring on my neck. My very tan neck.

So, how did I do? I don't have much Plan Aing time left, so I really wanted to take this opportunity. I just needed to do it for me. I left with the wifes knowing that my H is going through a mid life crisis, I even asked one if she thought he would come out of it. I told her we weren't even legally separated. I just had to do it. I might have lost him forever, but I was going down with a fight, the only way I know how. With my grace, love and support for my H in my heart.

Oh I do have to cop and say that when it was over, I turned to the one wife and said, well I have had enough of being around the slut for one afternoon. I know that was wrong, but I did it lovingly and jokingly.

Do you think this will matter to him at all?