BWAAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! They sound scrumptious, alright!

o_O did you try them on....?????

I'm really not that kind of guy, but they smelled delicious.

How much were they?

Oh, they were well out of my price range. I'm a tennis shoes-Birkenstocks guy. Which reminds me--I just got some new Mocha-colored Birkenstocks, but I didn't think to look for other flavors. I wonder if they make them in, say, chocolate chunk? Sis, do you know?

a guy who knows colors...I have a friend from the board here and when he gets in his feminine tizzies I always tell him your two steps from metro and metro is one step from gay.....it's all in good fun. he gets a kick out of it....

Ok back to snickerdoodles...

From Mimi Still_Crazy: YOU'VE GOT A PROBLEM....LOL...

ROTFLMAO! Geezzz, actually I wished that would work, I'd be rolling on the floor all the time! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

SC, Food has it's place but PLEEEASSSEEEE desserts should always be served FIRST! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I almost broke down and bought a fruit tart last night....*sigh*

A FRUIT TART????? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

You can at least eat a few M&Ms....gee whiz...

but it's good...with custard and a chocolate lined crust....mmm *drools*

I'm in for the CHOCOLATE-LINED CRUST..I'll leave you the FRUIT...

So, here I am, off trolling for shoes on the internet, and you guys are STILL talking about dessert! Gotta love that!

Found THESE shoes; I may have to find a dress to go with the shoes instead of the other way around...

yes but there is something so evilly sexy about strawberries....

You have turned in a GODDESS over night...

YOU LIGHTNING BOLT, YOU... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

SL I LIKE those shoes!!! However for ME...I'd need accident insurance LOL! I have a hard time walking in flats. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Come out and take another bow so that everyone can see THE PRETTY LADY!!

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I vote for a change in the THREAD NAME that's about your PERSONAL RECOVERY!!!

Hey lady Mimi!

How's things? I like the thread name change; we'll see if it's still possible to edit the original.

I'm doing pretty well these days. I had a babysitter for this Saturday to go catch a movie, but her son has the croup, so I don't think she'll be by. No matter. I emailed PWC and let him know that I would still like to go catch the movie. I told him that I could postpone for another date, if he would like to see it. He replied that it looks interesting, but he's not dying to go. He would be fine if I wanted to go it alone.

I am going to go. I may roll the movie and shopping into one day, so that I have time to spend with the family on Sunday.

I am surprised at how much better I feel. I'm totally honest and open, with not a twinge of resentment in sight. I am so happy to be responsible for my happiness and well-being. It never has been PWC's responsiblity. HE can choose to meet my needs, and he can choose to really make huge deposits with my most important one's; again, up to him.

I'm not indifferent AT ALL to my sitch; it's actually quite the opposite. I feel like some veil has been removed from my eyes. I SEE what he has been doing, and do have a finer appreciation for his struggle, and for how I have approached him, with anger and resentment. It's probably not so easy to LOVE that angry little beast that I portray.

I don't much like making myself unhappy anyway.

I told him, I want to be wanted. To me, that means that I must change myself, in order to be someone to want. To me, that also means that he will have to find his way back to me, if he wants that. It's a 50-50 thing.

I will keep working the recovery path; personal recovery is very important to me now. I was SACRIFICING to save the M. That CLEARLY doesn't work. My H needs his confident, fun loving wife to fall in love with. That's really who I am, at the core. I let that go. It's time to get her back on her feet.

Since last weekend, there has been a shift in the house. PWC seems a bit more relaxed; almost like he had some pressure release, or he's been let of the HOOK. He is responsible for the things he's done in the past, not me. I think I've been so angry and resentful, that it's kept him anchored to all of that guilt and resentment, too. Gotta be prepared for the wrath of SL at a moments notice. YUCKY-POO!

Anyway, I'm just speculating at that; let's just say, I don't feel that there is something keeping us apart, like a force field. It's nice.

IMO, you should not reinforce this GOING ALONE stuff. That's a problem. I would recommend that you tell him that you would love for him to go with you and then stay home if he doesn't want to go. Most if not all of your RECREATIONAL TIME should be spent together, IMO..especially during this vulnerable point in your RECOVERY...there's a large part of him that wants this to fail and wants you to enable this failure, REMEMBER?

Doing stuff TOGETHER needs to become a HABIT..rather than giving into the PRACTICE of going alone...

My H and I NEVER used to SHOP together for years and years..you see where that led us...

Now that's one of our MOST FAVORITE things to do TOGETHER...

He does things with me I like to do and I do things that HE likes to do...POJA...but I had to do the LEADING at first...he was not accustomed to being with me AT ALL...