If a spouse has the important need to be respected and the other spouse the need for affection how would you guys out there deal with this scenario:<BR>H kisses W goodbye (she's leaving for business for a few weeks)the kiss is a peck which barely touches her lips. W feels slighted,hurt to a degree for the lack of affection shown by H. H voiced concern that he would get lipstick on him. W is perplexed to the point of saying "f@#$k the lipstick" she wanted a little tongue action so to speak.H get pissed and leaves for work. H later states to respect that he doesnt want lipstick on him. Neither spouse is right or wrong in the above scenario for how they are feeling. So how could this be played out? Should the W never expect passionate kisses when lipstick is involved so that she respects H's need for respect? Should H show her affection by giving a good smackaroo thereby filling her need of affection? <BR>I realize this should probably go under Other topics but felt like I'd get some feedback here. I'm curious to know how some of you would handle this 'his need her need'and apply it to fulfilling our S.O needs in our own scenarios. Am I making sense...lol...i know its a silly scenario but quite basic when it comes to the different way men and women think and feel.

Don't put on lipstick untill you are in the car. Then H won't have an excuse. A little compromise???<P>------------------<BR>di<P>

yep, thats a good compromise. <BR>

If she wanted tongue action, I’d put mine down her throat . I could wipe off the lipstick. Besides, isn’t lipstick to make you moire attractive?<P>Yes, I think if it is a problem for him, then she could get the tongue action before she put on the lipstick.<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html</A>