Hey everyone,

I am pretty much doing great!!!

Have moved across the state, remodeling my H grandma's house, which is just awful but wonderful at the same time.

So much better to be in a place where there are not so many triggers. As you vets all know, I have had the stalking, unrepentant, no conscience ow. It has been great being away from all that.

I have moved home. All my good friends and wonderful support have always been here.

My H and I are in a great spot emotionally and have such a great marriage now. We have grown so much.

Of course we have some issues, and it is hard on rare occasions, but I really try to step back and get on with it. Mostly I am successful, sometimes not. LOL.

My H is crazy about me and we are doing well. I landed a great, however difficult job. Finances are better. Thanks to me, but that is okay, to a point.

I will update on my frustrations later.

But things are 95% good.

Oh, and I have my monster on a leash, (are you listening Melody Lane?) And I want to say HI to weaver aka JOSIE LOL!!! And HELLO Mimi. You too FOREVER HERS!! (even tho you questioned if I was really a Christian). God has blessed me and my family in an awesome way.

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I do have a couple of questions for you all when I get back and have time.

I have no computer at home at this time so I am at work, being bad,and oh yeah, I work late, and I have always been on late, you all know that.

Orchid, thanks for asking, am glad that someone even remembered me, as you know I have been quite shy all these years.

God Bless
Love in Christ,
Miss M <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

Miss M,

Good to hear from you and even happier knowing u r away from the OW. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Awaiting your next update.

take care,
L.

Hello again Miss M. It is always so good to hear from you. Glad things are working out for the good in your life and with your husband.

Hey Miss M. Wow, it's really good to see you posting.

I have often looked for you here.

I want to know about your new, great job. Can you talk about it on here? If not, I understand.

I think the board is in needs of your gentle kindness lately, so hope you are going to be around now even if only occasionally. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Thanks for your kind replies.

Orchid, yes I am much better now that we are about 300 miles away from ow.

Thank you believer, thanks to MB and the Lord my H and I have the best relationship we have ever had. My H has grown so much!! Pretty wild stuff with your XH. We all knew it would end someday, too bad it was too late for your R. You are in a much better place now. Haven't we all grown and done well in our own way. You are a winner, believer.

Weaver oops Josie,
I have a great job as Banquet Manager at one of the top 15 hotels in WA state. It is a wonderful historical bldg and very elegant. I love it, but it is a lot of work and hours, I am hoping to improve my management skills, am going to a seminar tomorrow. I had 3 events at once this weekend and at one point just wanted to be the organic farmer and play music instead, but you know I am doing that also!!!! Can't complain. I was surprised to see you are now married, congratulations!!!!So happy to see you have moved on and have a MUCH better life. Would love to hear about it from you. I really quit this site for about a year and was so happy to see you are doing well.

Thank you, will update more later.

God Bless you all,
Love in Christ,
Miss M <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Miss M,

I remember you talking of your story, how you were so devastated...curled up in a ball on the floor crying...and how you pulled yourself up and how your marriage was saved.

I think you are such a success story, along with Mimi, and hope that others read of your story and find hope, as well as strength.

On your new job that you love...Woohooo!

I am in the process of trying to find a new job in the new state my new husband and I are relocating to, and it is soooo scary. I have been in the same job, same office, almost same position for 20 years and where oh where did my confidence go. Talk about a wimp.

Speaking of work, something just came up so have to go.

Looking forward to more updates from you.

okay, I am bumpin me up just to do it!!!

LOL!!!!

Will tell all when I have time and can tell you all what is going on!!!

Ha Ha Ha La La La!!!!

Love in Christ,
Miss M <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

Hi Miss M,

I pasted your first post of this thread on the Success Stories thread but I'm hoping you'll post your full update (when you have time) on the thread itself.

Success Stories Thread

So glad you bumped this......we rookies need the inspiration you and other veterans have to share.

Thanks,
Ace

Ace,

I have a very Loooong story, and will post it when I have time.

Today I have 4 events, about 350 people, 4 bars silent and live auction, all at ONCE!!! And I am manager of all. So I be a bit busy.

I will have more time next week to get this to you. It will be long, and since I have almost 7 years into recovery, it's gonna take awhile to remember all of it,

My latest issue is googling my DH name and up come 2 bands that he has recently played with, I clicked on his name and guess who pops up? ow's face front and center, listing my DH as her alumni in her band. Holy Moly. So what do you do about that? I guess it will be forever in my face. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

Anyone out there have any ideas how I can get my H's name off her website? He only subbed for her for goodness sake.

This just p!sses me off, and brought back alot of not so fond memories. Aargh <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

Thanks for letting me vent

Love in Christ,
Miss M <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

Hi Miss M! I wanted to thank you for helping get my DH's novel (sorry, honey) read and answered the other day.

It sounds as if you have a FWH who is a musician, and so I hope when you get time you can give us some of your (from what I've read) great insight.

Good luck with everything!!!

Resonance,

I am a musician. I sing, play bass, and play congas, bell, and stick parts.

I just gave it up to raise the kids cause my H is so gifted. He traveled all over the USA, and I stayed home and worked and supported our family. He had an affair with a singer that did none of the above, and her children do not like her. Do you know how much that hurt me? I was very very good at what I did musically. I am able to do whatever it takes to raise a family and support my own financially.

I am playing again.

I understand musicians and music from the inside out.

I hope you read my above post, and understand where I am coming from.

This is why I advised you to forget the CD, throw it in the trash, and start all over again with MB principals.Your DH will have NOTHING but triggers whenever he hears it, even 10 years from now. Gotta start all over sometimes, ya know?

Love in Christ,
Miss M <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

Can anyone help me out here?

Refer to the above post before I answered Resonanse.

Thank you, and yes, I know I am technically challenged. LOL.

Love in Christ,
Miss M

Miss M....I think Resonance's H (W2S) is a professional Web guy...maybe you can put an appeal on his (or her) thread.

Thanks for sticking around for a spell....hopefully longer than a spell.

Ace

Oh yes, the part about her big fat face coming up when you searched for his name on google...? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

I just asked DH and will get back to you (or he will).

I have shelved any and all talk of music, and I have gathered up all the CD's and stashed them WELL AWAY until he is 150% OK with it (even if that means NEVER).

Thanks for your advice!

Missy M,

Unfortunately, I doubt there is really anything much you could do about the website with her on it. From what I gather, the site is either hers or someone that has an allegiance with her. If its hers, you are pretty much stuck. If it's not hers you could appeal to the people that own it and see if they will take your DH's name off the site. That's probably your best option. Otherwise, you could pay me a small fee and I could hack the site and put all kinds of nice words on the picture for you! (just kidding) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

Thank you Want2Stay,

I know I am pretty much stuck, it is through a website for NW bands, and the manager of the blues band H was in had requested some time ago for my H to be taken off the link to xow's website. Didn't happen. I never thought about it until I googled H's name.

It still sucks tho' <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> I just hate those kind of surprises. Yuck, yuck yuck.

And I wouldn't want anyone messing with xow, she likes whatever attention she can get!!! I believe I saw at least 3 guys that she had slept with on her 'alumni' list. Yuck again.

Oh well, what do you do? I just needed to vent about it. I know my H felt pretty awful when I told him what I found. That's what counts.

It's really not so bad when you are as far into recovery as we are, thank you God. I just wish it wasn't there to see. It is a bit of a slap.

Love in Christ,
Miss M <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

So sorry to see this affect you so long after your recovery. You are a true inspiration, Miss M, and I am looking forward to your updates.

Thanks for coming back and making such a positive impact by starting only 2 threads. I hope you post on K's thread (MB Reunion) again, too. Your grousing thread was timely. Do they actually still have grouse in E. WA?

Again, thanks!

Ace