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You've recently shut down a very valuable thread that Mel stated a while ago, because of recent controversy between the "usual" suspects and other. I feel your doing this is likened to throwing out the baby with the bath water!!
There are many good and encouraginging things on that thread that should not be shut down because of the disrupting influence of certain posters.
It is totally unfair to shut down this thread.
Rather, you have the option of deleting the contoversy that you find objectionable, but leave the original thread intact. It is very vital and important to BS who feel that they must somehow, leave the marital home.
I aapeal to your sence of justice, to unlock and edit this thread. Ther are too many good jewels on this thread to lock it up and throw it away.
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Jerry, which one was it? I may have asked her to shut it down.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Mel,
She shut down down the "Men don't leave your home" thread.
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Mel.....could you just repost the first post on a new thread? I too think the message is a very important one.
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shinethrough,
You are absolutely right. It began & could have continued to be a VERY valuable thread and I had hoped to be able to add it to the "notable posts" list on the JFO forum (I am in the process of trying to fix the links on the General Welcome and adding new posts) But the bickering was not something I wanted to include as a "notable post."
I'd like to encourage her to start a new thread, perhaps gender neutral (BS don't leave your home) and those wishing to supply SUPPORTIVE advice and additional info to repost.
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ahhhh, Madmax was trolling it. I understand, Justuss! Thanks for the heads up, Jerry, I will start a new one.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Mel,
If this lockdown of such a vaulable thread is allowed to exist, it will completely take away any real and true meaning from this forum for me, at least.
If one cannot speak the truth without somehow being shutdown, then this forum has no meaning, and the truth we all came to believe was simply a lie.
I cannot be come subject to this. This thread gets unlocked and edited, or I am outa here for good.
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Jerry
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Oh c'mon, Jerry, please calm down. The thread turned into a major distraction because of the bickering. I would much rather have a fresh thread that was productive and stayed focused on the issue at hand if it is going to be saved as a notable thread. I like justuss's idea of starting over and want her to lock it. Please don't leave over it, friend, it will be just fine. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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I have too much compassion!
It's my achiles heel.
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I love ya, Jer!! Have some compassion and please don't leave, ok???? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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I agree, it is an important message and the message was being lost because of the bickering. It would be nice to lock the new thread and make it a notable post.
The locking is to preserve the message from distractions, not because it's a bad thread. And it will stay at the top.
Then if someone wants to comment, they can start their own thread. If the mods think that thread becomes damaging, they will probably lock it, for different reasons - and it won't stay at the top.
Mel, I really don't want to start an argument but I would like to clarify something. Maybe no one would be confused about this so maybe it's a non-issue. But is it clear that the advice to not leave the home does not apply in the case of dangerous abuse?
I'm asking here because I don't want to muddy your message by replying on that thread.
And please note that I agree with the message, and I suggested to missalot to ask on GQII for advice to move back to her home.
me - 47  H - 39  married 2001 DS 8a  DS 8b :crosseyedcrazy: (Why is DS7b now a blockhead???) (Ack! Now he's not even a blockhead, just a word! That's no fun!)
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A person should never remain in a dangerous situation. They should contact the police/get a restraining order and have the person removed. If that is not possible, they should remove themselves AND THE CHILDREN TO A SAFE PLACE AND INITIATE LEGAL PROCEEDINGS TO HAVE THE WS REMOVED.
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Jayne,
There is no problem with asking that same question on the new thread because that is an important point too worth discussion. No nasty comments or fighting. And I do think some comment was already added about safety. I made one.
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Mel, I really don't want to start an argument but I would like to clarify something. Maybe no one would be confused about this so maybe it's a non-issue. But is it clear that the advice to not leave the home does not apply in the case of dangerous abuse? Oh absolutely, Jayne. All bets are off if there is abuse. That goes without saying, IMO.
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perhaps something very very good will come from this.
All Blessings,
Jerry
PS; now you are unfettered!
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A new thread has been started and I hope to add it to the "Notable Posts" link on the "General Welcome" thread. As I said, I am redoing that thread, fixing the broken links and trying to add new, current posts.
ALL-- PLEASE add your constructive suggestions, comments and advice.
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Thank You Justuss,
Thus i will leave and lurk i the shadows, again.
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No sense in lurking Jerry. Join in on the new thread. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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You rock Justuss. But hey, I'm decidedly partial when it comes to board moderators.
Welcome back Jerry!
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Thank you for all that you are doing!!
I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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