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Wow TMTS! Your timing is awesome, your instincts impeccable! Great job. I'm so happy for you. I haven't posted to your thread before, but I'm very impressed.
me - 47  H - 39  married 2001 DS 8a  DS 8b :crosseyedcrazy: (Why is DS7b now a blockhead???) (Ack! Now he's not even a blockhead, just a word! That's no fun!)
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TMTS!!!! O.M.G. So very happy for you dude!!!! Doin' backflips-who knew I could still do those??? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> EXCELLENT advice from The Pepster about getting away this weekend...In fact, after this weekend, if you guys have any vacation time, plan a tropical getaway for a week...Undivided attention in early recovery is just the best way to kickstart things towards the positive...No relationship talk...Focus on having FUN together...Get those lovebanks as full as possible in the beginning...Recovery is a rollercoaster at times-hold on... Anyway, just had to pop in and tell you how happy I am about this news!!! You done good boy! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Mrs. W P.S. Btw, I still owe several of you clowns here an [censored] whoopin' for takin' my name in vain on this thread the other night...Y'all thought you were crafty and got away with talin' smack, didn't ya??? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> Hmmph!!! We shall see! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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That is so awesome..... Congrats to you and your family..... i am sooo happy for you
Truth can stand on it's own two feet....A lie needs support....FRM
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(I told her about all of you, and I think in a week or so she may come on... maybe sooner) I'd advise you to WAIT on this...REALLY...I know you have great timing and all that, but don't get too cocky...Seriously, letting her read your thread this early is NOT a wise choice, imo...You would eventually like her to embrace MB, and right now, if she reads this thread, she will take on a VERY adversarial position to it I believe... And, there are parts of your struggle on this thread that she, so newly coming out of the fog, is still "too cool" to read-I'm afraid instead of stirring empathy in her towards you at this point, it could stir feelings of contempt or other harmful thoughts-or she might think that you were manipulating her and that your changes aren't real-we know they are, but she is EARLY in this...I know you are excited TMTS...I know that your adrenaline is in overdrive, but I hope that you will listen to me about this...Just give it some time...JMHO... Believe me, when the time is right, she will be welcomed and embraced here by all of your supporters... Mrs. W
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TMTS,
Just got back in from a little grouse hunting, and I'm sitting here with a big smile on my face ... I am VERY happy for you ... GREAT JOB!!!
It may be WW's B-day, but in my book, YOU DA MAN TODAY!!!
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Mrs. W is right about wifey reading this thread. Of course you could change your name and start a new RECOVERY thread.
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TMTS, I am very happy for you, your W and your family! (I told her about all of you, and I think in a week or so she may come on... maybe sooner) I'd advise you to WAIT on this...REALLY...I know you have great timing and all that, but don't get too cocky...Seriously, letting her read your thread this early is NOT a wise choice, imo...You would eventually like her to embrace MB, and right now, if she reads this thread, she will take on a VERY adversarial position to it I believe... And, there are parts of your struggle on this thread that she, so newly coming out of the fog, is still "too cool" to read-I'm afraid instead of stirring empathy in her towards you at this point, it could stir feelings of contempt or other harmful thoughts-or she might think that you were manipulating her and that your changes aren't real-we know they are, but she is EARLY in this...I know you are excited TMTS...I know that your adrenaline is in overdrive, but I hope that you will listen to me about this...Just give it some time...JMHO... Believe me, when the time is right, she will be welcomed and embraced here by all of your supporters... Mrs. W TMTS, Another FWW POV. I also suggest you wait. If she starts to read here now while in withdrawal and still in fog all of this will be like reading a foreign language. Trust me I know from experience. I would highly recommend getting "After the Affair" by Janis Spring. It's broken down into separate sections for BS's and WS's. It's very easy to read and understand. She, most likely, is full of confusion and unless you live it have no idea how hard it is to read what the rest of the worlds sees as common sense. Feel free to pass my email address onto her (it's in my profile). I will be happy to talk to her if she needs someone to talk to. LC
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Listen to MrsW, TMTS.
This is still your place to gain strength and knowledge.
Right now you need to apply MB ideas. not try to teach them to her. You might get to that point, but until you are well into recovery, it might take away from your efforts to both be posting here.
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congrats and best of luck tmts!
FS: Me, 31
WS: Dh, 36
DD's: 6, 4 weeks
D-Day: 11/16/07
Plan A: 1/13/07
Recovery: 3/10/08
My Original Thread
God's timing is perfect. He is never late.
--Joyce Meyer Battlefield of the Mind
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Ditto on the advice from that silly hick! Give it some time and enjoy having fun together right now!! YEEEEE-HAAAAAW!!!!!!!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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Ditto on the advice from that silly hick! Give it some time and enjoy having fun together right now!! YEEEEE-HAAAAAW!!!!!!!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Uh Huh...Brave words from a Yankee that lives so near me...It's only about 3 hours from me to you Missy...Probably less with the way I drive...Nothin' one of us REBS loves more than turnin' a "Yankee" into a "Spankee"... Mrs. W P.S. Did I ever tell you what the bumper sticker on my car says? No? Here it is..."You'll have to pry my gun from my cold dead fingers!!!" Just sayin'...<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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Uh Huh...Brave words from a Yankee that lives so near me...It's only about 3 hours from me to you Missy...Probably less with the way I drive...Nothin' one of us REBS loves more than turnin' a "Yankee" into a "Spankee"...
Mrs. W
P.S. Did I ever tell you what the bumper sticker on my car says? No? Here it is..."You'll have to pry my gun from my cold dead fingers!!!" Just sayin'... Oooooh....sounds like a chick fight! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Congratulations TMTS. I am so happy for you. If your wife does read this thread, I hope that she will see that it wasn't manipulation. It was you changing into a better man, learning MB principles to have a GREAT marriage with your wife, and that you were FIGHTING for HER. I know I would be moved to tears if I was her and saw how hard you were fighting for her. BUT, like the others have said, she'll need to be out of withdrawal probably before she'll appreciate it. Now you two can fight for the marriage TOGETHER. YAY!!!
Husband was unfaithful to me before and after our marriage, at least 7 times. I found out 13 yrs into the marriage. Trickle truth for an entire year. Several different d-days, so it was more like a d-year. Difficult recovery.
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Congrats, TMTS! I'm still praying for you and your DW - if recovery is as tough as everyone here says it is, you still need prayers and support.
God bless!
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TMTS!
Man, I don't even know what to say! CONGRATULATIONS! I knew you'd pull it off. I never doubted it for a second. Party up and enjoy the weekend with your W!
DM
BH- 33
WW- 31
DDay- 6/07
Separated
A ended 10/07
A2 - WW dated OM2 12/07 - 2/08
Agreed to R 2/08, but WW not serious.
6/08 - ILYBINILWY - No longer wants R.
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Uh-oh! *running for cover!* There's nothing worse than an angry redneck, ya'll!! I'm in the dog house now fo sho! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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TMTS,
I'm so glad to hear the news... Good for you! I'm happy for you...
Very inspirational...
BH, 46
STBXWW, 41, Serial Cheater
D-Day #1 5-26-2006 (Our Wedding Aniversary)
D-Day #2 12-26-2007
D-Day #3 5-11-2008
Separated 1-5-2008
STBX filed for divorce March 2009
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I am so happy for you! This goes to show there is always hope!
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Awesome news! Now let the HARD work begin. No lie. Recovery is not for the feint of heart. You know that Affair Rollercoaster you've been riding. You've just switched seats to the Recovery Rollercoaster. Takes a strong stomach. But the ride does smooth out eventually. Wonderful. Just wonderful. God bless you and you family.
Widowed 11/10/12 after 35 years of marriage
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“In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists.” Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story
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TMTS congrats!!!!!
Please take heed in what Princessmeggy said. But relish in the joy right now she's staying.
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TMTS,
I'm so glad this happened for you! I've been keeping up with your thread every day even though I don't post much. I knew she would not be able to resist your awesome power!!
I with both of you the best and may your recovery be as swift and easy as possible. I'm sure there are boulders and chasms in the road ahead but you'll be able to negotiate them like Superman leaping the tall building in a single bound!
You are a very strong person and a great human being and you've been an inspiration to everyone here!
Charlotte22
BS-42
WH-Mr. Gray-52
M-15.5y
DS*DIL-26, DGS-1
DS*DIL-22
DD-21
Dday: 6/27/07 (Plan A-sort of)
10/30-BRAVE NEW WORLD! Exposure!
11/1-Filed D
11/21-Temp hearing, Shiny takes all
12/15-Plan B
5/13/08-Spousal support extended, my Shiny
Attorney totally ROCKS!!
7/17-Court again, Shiny rules!
7/22-OWH temp hearing, Shiny kicks butt again!
12/11-Mediation; Gray won't budge, we are now headed for trial
Shiny="A Dynamic Force of Epic Proportions"
Shiny WILL win!! No doubt, Sugah!
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