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HI ss,
First thing that comes to mind is cards and board games. Video games can be work too if you find something you can play together or take turns at. We play pinball and guitar hero. Bowling or golf game we work too because you could all get involved.
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SerenitySoon, if money is an issue, I would suggest:
1) Taking a walk/jog at the beach, lake, park.
2) Sports. Basketball, Tennis, etc. if you have a communit court or a public court.
3) Church (tons of stuff for teens and parents)
4) Library (tons of stuff for teens and books for adults)
5) Shopping. Just one outfit for yourself and ask them for help or opinion on what's cool. This will help improve yourself at the sametime.
If you're willing to spend a little money, there are many other options.
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What are some things we can do that don't cost much if anything? Camping Hiking Picnicking Frisbee throwing at a local park/open area. Roller skating Community Theater Community Choir/Music Pursue family history - recording family history & stories from grandparents, aunts/uncles, or trace your family tree. Research local museums, parks, historical attractions. Have an all-day movie day at home and invite teens' friends (supply popcorn, sodas, cookies, etc.) Put together a 3-D puzzle Family board game night Volunteering: Food Bank Soup Kitchen Habitat for Humanity Big Brother/Big Sister "Adopt" an lonely elder Adopt a mile Maybe that can get some thoughts and ideas flowing.
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Hi SS,
saw your post to Queenie. Did you get out today? Are you in better spirits?
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I'm voting for board games. We just got some new ones for Christmas and are inviting some friends over to play games one night this week.
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Nope didn't get out today... too cold! I hate it when it stays below freezing!!!!
Better spirits though... WH came over for a few hours. We discussed bills again. I showed him what we could do to avoid bankruptcy. He liked what I came up with and even had a couple ideas of his own to add.
While here he received an email from his mom. She didn't "sound" too happy with him, I hope it sinks in. He didn't want to stay for dinner but said he'd probably be by a couple times this week to cook and eat with us. ;-) And he'll be picking up the kids after various activities as usual.
Oh and the kids HATE board games!! I'm hoping to find stuff to do away from the house. We used to do kickboxing that was fun, but it costs too much. I'll take them skating soon.
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So I'm reading a book called The Weekend Marriage by Mira Kirshenbaum. Great book!! Too bad I didn't get it about a year ago!!!
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Sound s like your making a little headway. If he come bu a couple of time, get all done up for him and see what happens. The eyes tell everyting.
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we're chatting on the computer right now. he's at work.
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Turn On that Charm!!! I don't know about you but sometimes I think it wold be easier if they just hatted us and told us where to go. This being all guilty and nice drive me crazy sometimes.
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"This being all quilty and nice drive me crazy sometimes"
Thats what I don't understand, I am on the other side of the fence...I am the WS. I don't understand why you guys have to do all the work. Isn't our job(WS) to be fixing the marriage?? we are the ones who messed up.
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drives me crazy too... but I guess I'm thinking whatever happens between the two of us, we've still got three great kids to finish raising and the better we get along the better it is for the kids. They're all pi**ed at him but won't say anything... guess they really take after us.
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our WS aren't sure what they want right now, so we are doing our very best to "win" them back... it's a tough fight when you are up agains their fantasies.
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I get that, I do. So do you think plan A would work for someone like me..in the reverse situation?
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That’s what I don't understand, I am on the other side of the fence...I am the WS. I don't understand why you guys have to do all the work. Isn't our job(WS) to be fixing the marriage?? we are the ones who messed up. Difference is Shannon is that just the fact that you are here means that the fog is lifting. Would you have thought the same way a couple of months ago? Congrats on being here, it means allot to us BS to see that WSs can come out of it. It gives up hope.
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Thanks TMTS, I do understand the difference. The fog has been lifted for about 4 months now since I told my husband about the A. but no I couldn't see being happy with him before that so I do understand. Let me tell you though, a A is very addicting and I will pray for your both and your healing.
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ugh!! see we're chatting just fine now online everything is A ok... sometimes I think I can live like this, with him being just my friend, visiting sometimes, but then other times I'm soooo sad and want him to come home... I hate this stupid roller coaster!!
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I can't even imagine what you are going through. I am sorry. All I have to say is it is a complete selfish act and I have learned more from this experience then I have anything else in my life.
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(((((Serenity)))))
I missed you hon....and I see you have met my sister....lol.
and you can read about the "good ol' time I had on the Rollercoaster Ride" this weekend. I just want to drop in and say hey, I won't be on too much this week, and hubby took my power cord for a business trip. He asked nicely, actually almost took it back after he said it, but I felt like it would be a nice thing to do. Don't know where that fall under any EN, but oh well. Plus, it is my DD bday tomorrow....my baby is 14. So I will be getting ready for that.
Keep up the good work, and hey, my shoulder is available when you need it.
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In a couple short weeks my son will be 16 yikes!!!
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