It's funny now, but sure wasn't at the time.

Both my sons just broke up with their girlfriends. So V-day is dragging for them too. But we all got a good laugh out of Valentine's Day past.

At JT's house, the (grown) kids are watching the 5th Annual Valentine's Day Evil Dead-Evil Dead II-Army of Darkness marathon.

This wonderful event was started by DD25 back in college when none of her friends had significant others and were bummed-so they choose this as their way to remember the day.

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JT - That sounds like such FUN!!!!!

One reason I don't like V-day is because so many people are left out. My sweetie is gone, my son's just broke up with their girlfriends, my roommates are both alone for now, the 2 ladies I work with don't have anyone.

In Mexico V-day is more like friendship day. EVERYONE participates in festivities.

I didn't let it get to me... I texted him at midnight last night, (he was awake at work) said "Happy Valentines Day", and then in the email I sent to him this morning I said it again, he didn't say it back, not once, oh well, didn't expect him too .... DD14 got into my scrapbook supplies at some point and made me a really nice card and signed it "we all love you" such a sweety, and I know she either already had done it when dad said to do it or she would have even if he didn't say to, because that's just the way she is. Such a sweety OMG can't believe I didn't ask her is she got anything from the guy she bought candy for,,,, oh bad mom, only thinking about her self shoot!! Tomorrow, first thing, I'll find out. geesh. well she wasn't in a bad mood, so that tells me her day went well.

Greatest horror flick ever made. I laugh everytime I see it. My kids think I'm nuts.

TMTS, That wife of your let go of you long enough for you to post? I'm so surprised...

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Mark

Mark,

You sir, are making a lot of us jealous. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I posted on mine too... pressure from Not. It explains how I got away. Hve you checked your mail? I finally got back to my reading plan.

Sorry for the T/J Soon.

TMTS,

I replied to one email a day or two ago. Nothing there tonight that I can see.

Mark

Mark,

Send it to my home, I've got the same ailment as you and your DW.

Lucky I decided not to take his Valentines gift and drop it at his work last night, jerk took the night off, so he could do overtime today! And didn't bother to tell me!! grrrrr!!! I know should expect no less than that, but why does he just keep piling it higher and higher, soon the shi* will be as tall as the snow banks out here!

Soon, Did you read Marks post on Not thread. Expect to be disappointed.

things ok at your end?

yep, read his post on her thread, don't like it though, I want to expect good things darn it!!

I HATE fridays!!! Anyway I'm being dragged out of the house, kicking and screaming ;-) I'm sure I'll enjoy myself, WH agreed to pick up son later so I could go out.

I don't like weekends, the weeks seem to fly by to fast nowadays!!

you all behave yourselfs on this board and don't let me fall off the first page while I'm out ;-p

SS,

My point was that this is what you need to expect when dealing with a WS. You have to expect that you will be stood up, stomped on and chewed up and spit out. Plan A is really hard stuff. You have to keep your Taker under lock and key and do everything within your power to try to make your WH's feelings for you stronger than for OW. At the same time, you have to establish that you aren't going to simply allow him to have his OW and keep you for when he gets tired of her.

Assuming he is truly fogged out and claiming he wants to leave you for her, you have to do things that are to your advantage and to her detriment and avoid the antithesis.

If he is trying to keep you and at the same time trying to keep her in the loop as well, then you need to work harder at establishing what you will and will not tolerate.

The thing is, you have to do whatever you are going to do with an intensity that will exhaust you in a matter of weeks. You have to give it 110%, but you can only do that when you know how long you will have to keep it up. When the day comes that you are on the verge of losing all respect and love for him, you need to have all your own stuff together enough to pull the trigger on Plan B so you can stop the pain and the constant bleeding from your own love bank.

The other way of course, is to let him have his fun, keep him interested and wait for him to tire of OW and come home to what he knows he can't lose. The biggest problem with that strategy, is it will almost ensure that the same thing will happen again.

The other problem with this strategy is that it also leaves you totally vulnerable to any guy who comes along and doesn't act like an a$$.

Hi Soon,

You sound in better spirits. How you doing?

you talk to him today? yesterday was pretty wild.

((((Serenity))))

How's it going tonight??? Good I hope. If you aren't out having the time of your life, you at least better be scappin'...

Anywho,,,just checking in with ya.....


not2fun

Mark, I didn't mean that I hated your post on n2f's thread, I was being sarcastic... you know I'd rather not expect bad things, wish life was better and I could only expect good things ;-) I copied the post and printed it to read over and over when I do start having those darn expectations!

N2F deep breaths! no WH will win father of the year, we all know that! Jerks!!! ;-)

So did some catching up with friends, had a couple glasses of wine ;-) WH texted said I hope you're having fun. I reminded him his gift was at the house, when he picked up and dropped off son, to get it. He did and then he texted. "Thanks for the gift. You and I both know I don't deserve it. Becareful there are still icy spots on the roads." So... all the gift was- some candy he likes and a card I made that could, if he wanted to keep it, fit in his wallet... probably won't- anyway it said something about the path he was on and i was praying it came back to me someday soon and that the rocking chair on my porch when I'm 80 will either have him in it or no one ;-)

Actually in an ok mood for it being the weekend... working on my craft room and getting ready to take girlys shoppin'

Hang in there all BSs!! We all have happieness & 'serenity' ahead! And to FBSs, thanks for your continued support, 2x4s, suggestions, instructions etc.

I second that.

Have a fun day, Serenity

ok, so we're home, I'm bummin' missing dh. Not sure when I'll see him today, wasn't here when he picked up son to spend some time with him, cause I was out with daughters. it was an ok time, always hard 'cause 14yo thinks money grows on trees, as usual. we did all end up with some cute tops though. hehehe good thing is she's my size now ;-) I can borrow her clothes ;-) usually she wouldn't dare wear moms, but I've caught her with a couple of my tops! I got some cute/sexy pjs, hopefully I'll get to wear them for a certain somebody in the near future, if not i'll wear them for myself anyway!

ok... i really, really am going to do some "fun" reading!!

Not, was just thinking... instead of reading... I wish I had a list I could work on... no I don't wish to be in your shoes... but WH has said all along it's not your fault, it's mine, I haven't been happy for quite some time I just didn't know how to tell you, you didn't do anything wrong, blah, blah, blah... Yeah right! is what I think. I know I'm not perfect, but darn it, for some reason I can't think of things that I should be working on!

I like a drink every now and again... have a cabnet FILLED with all sorts of alcohols... bartended for awhile and know how to mix a few good drinks... but if that was one of WHs requests I would definately consider giving it up. Maybe give it up for a "season" and if things don't go as planned and you don't recover you could go back to having your alcohol. anyway... it was just a though.

Now I'm not vain, but help me out here everyone... what could/should I be working on???