I'm just curious about what the advice of the forum is on giving gifts to WWs for Christmas and significant anniversaries. We also have our 30th wedding anniversary coming up shortly. A year ago I bought WW an expensive diamond pendant but now we're just six weeks from exposure after her A which began in July, I don't know where we are headed (hoping for recovery but lots of stumbles so far), my Taker is saying give her coal but my I'm thinking she will appreciate something meaningful (she usually gets jewelry).

She says let's get something for the two of us which I'm okay with but which doesn't seem like will do much toward meeting her ENs.

Advice?

I decided to answer my own post. I bought WW something not too expensive that I thought would be the right romantic touch for Plan A which for her is earrings and perfume. OM is out of the picture thousands of miles away and should have just received his NC letter so reminding WW of our family and me was not really in order as has been suggested on posts elsewhere.

One thing we did do is buy me a new wedding ring which I have not worn for 29 years. (I always worked in positions where wearing rings was discouraged for safety reasons and I never have worn jewelry other than watches.) I never realized how much it meant to her until the current catstrophe so I offered to start wearing one. So tomorrow we will exchange jewelry, gold earrings for her and a wedding ring for me. The only other thing I asked for was "recovery" which is pretty hard for Mrs. Hurt to deliver but that I hope we are getting started on.

Merry Christmas to to all MBers. Thanks for helping me the last two months.

Hurt,

Sorry that I missed this. I think you've probably picked appropriately---give something meaningful, but not over the top. The wedding ring for you is a great idea, if you're OK with it. And MB counseling is a great idea as well---if 'middle east' is Virginia, and not Saudi Arabia...

Merry Christmas to you!