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Well, of course I have my sons. But my new man is away. The last 4 I spent by myself, or with friends.
But, there is a good side, LOL. My ex is by himself for the FIRST time.
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I am here with you Believer.
Are you ok?
This pain that is crippling me inside to where I don't want to feel anymore. Does it really GO AWAY someday.
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BS 52, FWH 53, Married 1-1-84
D-day 5-14-07, WH moved in with OW
Plan A 9 months, DARK Plan B 3-17-08 until 3-2-09
WH and OW broke up 1-09
Started over 7-09
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Believer,
I'm on my first alone. What about all of the kids? Didn't you have 8 of them? Where is your new guy??
It sucks. I don't have much family, so really no place to go except the nursing home tomorrow to see my mom.
BS - me 56
XWH - 57
12/25/06 - Dday - WH promised NC. Plan A in effect. Thought we were in recovery.
6-3-07 - Dday#2 Found out NC never took place and A never ended. Found MB NC promised again, but WH would not write NC letter.
9/07 - Dday #3. Still lying and sneaking around. Plan B implemented
WH wants nothing to do with me
Divorced as of 12/09 after 36 years
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Chai,
How did you get your name. It does suck. I am sorry that you are alone?
BS 52, FWH 53, Married 1-1-84
D-day 5-14-07, WH moved in with OW
Plan A 9 months, DARK Plan B 3-17-08 until 3-2-09
WH and OW broke up 1-09
Started over 7-09
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Well, one of my very favorite things in the world is Chai - which is Indian for tea. I love the chai from Indian restaurants. It's almost like a coffee drink. Have you ever had it??
BS - me 56
XWH - 57
12/25/06 - Dday - WH promised NC. Plan A in effect. Thought we were in recovery.
6-3-07 - Dday#2 Found out NC never took place and A never ended. Found MB NC promised again, but WH would not write NC letter.
9/07 - Dday #3. Still lying and sneaking around. Plan B implemented
WH wants nothing to do with me
Divorced as of 12/09 after 36 years
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Oh, I'll see all the kids tomorrow, but our family stuff is pretty much done. The affair ended all that. For the last 5 years, OW took my place.
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NO WAY - how could she take your place?
Tell me how you worked through that. You seem so strong.
What are your greatest lessons through all this?
BS 52, FWH 53, Married 1-1-84
D-day 5-14-07, WH moved in with OW
Plan A 9 months, DARK Plan B 3-17-08 until 3-2-09
WH and OW broke up 1-09
Started over 7-09
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Merry Christmas, Believer.
t&l
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I have had it.
I was wondering if you were Jewish because to life in Hebrew is Chai.
Dinner on the table, brb.
Crabs tonight, not east coast, but will be ok nonetheless.
BS 52, FWH 53, Married 1-1-84
D-day 5-14-07, WH moved in with OW
Plan A 9 months, DARK Plan B 3-17-08 until 3-2-09
WH and OW broke up 1-09
Started over 7-09
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Merry Christmas, Believer!
I'm sorry you're alone tonight. Wow, the last 4 Christmas' with OW pretending...must have been very difficult for you, but I'm glad you are in a better place now.
LoBoy
"You cannot dream yourself into a character; you must hammer and forge yourself one." Thoreau
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Merry Christmas T&L. My best to your family.
Well, I'm used to being alone, and enjoy it. But I won't pretend that it is easy. We used to have huge family gatherings. My ex's affair did a lot of collateral damage.
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Merry Christmas, Believer!
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Merry Christmas, SDGuy. Do you still have the kids for Christmas?
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Merry Christmas all.
Skins - no I'm not Jewish. You are, right? Your WH too? I do attend Jewish services with a friend on occasion. She was raised Catholic (her mom), but her dad is Jewish so she has been learning more about the faith and asked me to attend a few times.
Believer, I can only imagine how painful that must have been to have OW attend in your place. My WH did not even come here to visit my DD this year, so I'm sure he is with OW and her family. Hurts....
BS - me 56
XWH - 57
12/25/06 - Dday - WH promised NC. Plan A in effect. Thought we were in recovery.
6-3-07 - Dday#2 Found out NC never took place and A never ended. Found MB NC promised again, but WH would not write NC letter.
9/07 - Dday #3. Still lying and sneaking around. Plan B implemented
WH wants nothing to do with me
Divorced as of 12/09 after 36 years
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No, the kids are with the SCQ at her parents'. The switch was to be on the 26th, and then I take them to my parents' on the 27th, but the SCQ is going to bring them to me tomorrow night.
It's good--I have a little time to decompress and get ready for them.
I'm making rolls. If Oceanside were just a little closer, I'd bring you some.
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Hi Believer - Wishing you a Merry Christmas. I remember you were here with me last year while I was hanging on alone.
Divorced on 3/25/2008 but I have primary legal and physical custody of my 2 kids. Plan A Thread Plan B ThreadEphesians 5:25 - Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her
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Merry Christmas, Believer. And everyone else too! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> ~ Marsh
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Merry Christmas, Marshmallow.
Eph - Do you have your kids?
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Eph,
How are you doing tonight?
BS 52, FWH 53, Married 1-1-84
D-day 5-14-07, WH moved in with OW
Plan A 9 months, DARK Plan B 3-17-08 until 3-2-09
WH and OW broke up 1-09
Started over 7-09
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TJ: Merry Christmas, Marsh!
and Skinsgal, and Eph
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