Z, as you well know, you and I have been having this discussion for a LONG TIME. I'm gonna try again. When will you believe me? YOUR WH is GARDEN-VARIETY WS..following the EXACT SAME SCRIPT as my H...NO DIFFERENT...
What is necessary now is PLAN B as Believer has stated..also in agreement with Believer, there is ABSOLUTELY NO USE to a CONFRONTATION with the OW..you might want to tell her that you LOVE YOUR HUSBAND and will be FIGHTING FOR YOUR MARRIAGE..by phone..CLICK...that's wbat I told the OW and my H has since told me that freaked her out..because she wanted me to GIVE UP on him and that was her biggest threat...
He has recently done a few major things to my kids that have me furious and I can't seem to get over it, even though I am supposed to be believing he is an addict.
I'm confused by this Z. What you describe that he is doing provides EVIDENCE that he is an ADDICT. All an ADDICT cares about is his THE FIX..the HIGH..haven't you heard about COKE ADDICTS stealing from/even killing their loved ones???? All he cares about right now is GETTING HIGH off of her and he is BINGING....He will not be able to continue to get high off of her...
You've been doing PLAN A long enough and YES, it's time for PLAN B...
Personally I think that my WH LIKES not having any contact with me. It rids him of the guilt he feels and lets him and OW be together without any interference from me. I think that Plan B is going to push him right to her and that will be the true end to our marriage. It makes me very sad.
I recommend for you to read my PLAN B thread. I am going to bump it up for you. I thought this, too, but it is not tur. PLAN B allows him to learn the REAL her and he will begin to miss YOU and his FAMILY.
I want her to SEE the reality of what she is doing. I KNOW it won't make a difference and it will make WH furious, but I feel like I need to do it FOR ME and MY KIDS.
Why do you NEED to do this for you and your kids? Go to her GUTTER LEVEL? Be anywhere in the PRESENCE of such EVIL? She may not look like a DEMON but she is...she will use anything you say or do AGAINST you to CONTINUE to try to DESTROY you and your family...
This is a WAR. Do not reveal yourself to the ENEMY.