I meant to comment on this one earlier. Thanks for quoting it Jayne.

It's another logical fallacy.

I do not solicit nor communicate with ANYONE off the boards for the "hidden purpose of later using anything you receive to coerce or manipulate the people".

It is only LATER after such individual tries to lie and/or deceive the people on this board, that I have exposed private communications in an attempt to put such person on the path of truth.

This RARELY happens.

Most people are quite honest.

Further...one situation DID involve private warnings and encouragement to BE HONEST on MB. I even think we told her on the board that we have the chat log (thus, giving her the chance to be truthful FIRST). You've quoted only a small part of the context of such thread in your signature line. Maybe a link to that affair marriage thread would help wherein the poster was distorting the facts to TRY to make it seem her affair marriage was not, in fact, an affair marriage after all. Like they met wayyyyy down the line after she had separated from her 1st husband. But then again, FULL context would kinda ruin your disparaging implication.

BTW, the "dismayed" poster...emailed us several times AFTER being exposed requesting my wife and I chase down her cheating spouse in Michigan again. I think she was more upset with herself than us about the lies. I think she even apologized to us (there I go again...revealing more confidential communication). If she'd have been honest and contrite in the first place we may have been more inclined to continue to help her off-line...privately...even though it was an affair marriage (shocking).

Respectfully,

Mr. Wondering

How would you determine the relevancy? An example?

and

Exactly what procedure/s would you use to expose the truth as you saw it?

Stellakat - Do you have something against the Bible? Don't believe God's Word? "Bible Thumpers" indeed! Why ARE you so bitter and disrespectful and attempt to "put down" believers in God's Word IF you are a Christian yourself?

This "cheap shotism" you are taking is highly unbecoming.

Mr. W just emailed me some private information that I thought I'd pass along...He scored 675,493 singing the High School Musical song "Status Quo" in duet with his dd on Wii!

LMAO BK,

Now THAT is a betrayal of trust in my eyes.

You, at least, could have warned me privately before posting that.

I feel so violated.

Mr. W <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

Starfish, no one is required to "reveal every detail of their lives to strangers" and no one has said any such thing. That is a gross mischaracterization that does not help the discussion.

While folks are not required to tell anything, that does not ENTITLE them to LIE to others about their background THAT THEY HAVE REVEALED. Folks here are not obliged to help folks deceive others about their own backgrounds, especially when it is very pertinent to the thread in which they are posting. I will not sit by and knowingly watch a person to deceive another on this forum when it is very pertinent. That ain't gonna happen.

That being said, I really have no idea what the issue is. Graplin hints and scolds a lot without giving specifics, so who knows? If the issue is simply being careful about what you share with strangers, then I would agree in principle. But, who wouldn't? <shrug>

ForeverHers,

You are correct. The Private Messages feature was NOT "disabled due to the misuse of a few."

It was never activated!

And FIO, mods were never notified about jilly's posted email. This is the first time I have heard about that incident from 2 years ago AND, had we been notified, it would have IMMEDIATELY been removed from the forum! As I have said in the past many times. we can not possibly read every post on these forums. PLEASE alert us to problems! I often have had to edit out people's REAL names, addresses, phone numbers and employers info. Personal email correspondence without permission is no different. It is not allowed on MB.

All this information is common internet sense.

Tempest has MANY warnings on MB---

From Tempest...
I would just like to post a caution here. While we do try very, very hard to make these forums a 'safe haven' for all forum participants, we have had occasional incidences where participants have been followed here and bothered by individuals they know in real life. If you are planning to post a profile containing any kind of personal information anywhere, keep in mind that anyone can read anything posted on the forums and in user profiles.
Try not to publicly post any personally identifiable information if you have any kind of concern about anyone reading your posts/profiles and knowing it is you. This caution is meant solely for your own protection.

Thank you.
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Tempest, Moderator
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This is not only true on MB but on ANY forum, any chat or any email. The kind of stuff we teach our kids! Internet common sense!!

NOW, can we get back to helping some of these members still struggling??

OK, people....here is the bottom line:

There are some posters here who *may not* be posting the "whole truth", or in better terms...

"THEIR TRUTH" ...about their situation.

Maybe they have been on both sides of the fence...and for all intents and purposes, they have been.

Kudos to them.

However.....

So, they've been all of the following:

~a BS

~a FWS

~ the parent of an OC.

Yet they are not representing themselves as all of the above. And their advice/opinions/whatever
supports only one or two of the above positions.

You do the math.

Would this change things in the advice they were giving you?

Think VERY CAREFULLY ABOUT THIS, from ALL aspects.

That's all I'm sayin'...

For what it's worth, I have never posted any information that I received by either email or in private chat.

I will admit to posting on MB to "remind" a poster about his/her dishonesty regarding that poster's appalling behavior, the story of which was bragged about on another board by that poster. As to that poster's identity, I only know the first name, and I mentioned no names in my post, nor did I give the details. There is no reason why anyone other than the poster I was "reminding" should know who or what I was talking about, other than someone whose name I shall not mention blabbing who she thought it was all over the board.

That said, in regard to all the posts from folks trying to dictate how others should post, I would like to say that if anybody feels that any of my posts violate TOS, report it to the mods; otherwise, how I post is my business.

Is this a test?

I think someone who brags about "authenticity" owes it to be honest about their hand in:

* destroying the marriage of their affair partner
* interjecting herself to this day in his relationship with his mother.

and bragging about this to someone who is struggling with her husbands OC and the OW's relationship with his mother.

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In the meantime, I maintain my position that people should not offer confidential information to total strangers. **************edit***********
MrGGW

I would agree 100%

And i maintain that if people led honest lives they wouldn't have to worry so much about keeping their lies straight with everyone.