Let's hope for Japan. Can you accompany him?

Yep! Its an accompanied tour with me and our two youngest children. Our 20 year old is staying in the states and building a life of his own. We did our passports and medical/dental clearances while he was here. All we need now is our port call and set up household goods. I have my fingers crossed that he can convice them to let him go.

If he has to stay at Gitmo... I'll be living with my parents...again. I'm really not looking forward to that. We could afford a house, so I may rent of things get dicey in their home. Every time I've lived with them I've gained weight. Its very stressful.

Im watching Project Runway. Nice escape....

I hope you get to go to Japan. My boss at work went and LOVED it. She was there for 2 years with her husband, and got pregnant there. He was accompaning her - she is the service member.

Check out the goddess thread. You need to take good care of you. No fat, no sweats.

We lived in Okinawa 11 years ago and it was the beginning of my depression-- right after the crying ow-- and I hid a lot at home. We also lived in Guam and I dealt with the Ddays there finding three online OWs (one was a PA as well the year prior),so a lot of the positive changes I was making there (I was proactively coming out of my depression) were kinda lost in all that.

We have finally had a pregnancy that was sheer joy and stress free and several years of just good times together. We just paid off the majority of our debts this month. This time we plan to fully enjoy our overseas assignment. I am really praying we get to have that.

Ok, Runway is over and now Im going to force myself to bed.

thanks, ladies, for chatting with me.

Night Mojo.

Think happy thoughts. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Waving to you from out here in the boonies of the tri-cities when you arrive!

You are being thought of!

(((((Mojo)))))

and...

Thank you for your family's sacrifice and service for our country!

(((Ragamuffin)))
I was raised in Bellevue, NE at Offutt AFB. Hubby was born there, too and we met there in 9th grade. He considers it home. I like Lincoln and he is still trying to convince me to retire there instead of San Antonio. He does not understand I want a fresh start in a place where he didn't commit any infidelities. Then again, it would be nice to reclaim my home as well. I do miss the plains.

Go Huskers!

I slept well last night, suprisingly but I'll be waiting by the phone all day.

I have googled both recent OWs. I have done a search on HIS computer for their names and anything else I know about them. I HAVE seen their photos - one of 2nd OW and FWH holding hands at the finish line of a marathon race. Both were very different from me. Both had long, shoulder length hair. I have recently grown mine to a chin-length bob. Both were taller than me. Both had what I call "horsey" faces - long with high forheads. I have a roundish face with a low forehead.

I actually feel better knowing what they looked like and every tid bit of information I found on them (which actually wasn't much - just some photos and e-mails he had hidden). So keep it up.

Keep up the questioning or you will have those questions in your mind forever. If you do ever have another relationship, you will need to know the signs that an affair is taking place/ or is about to.

Mojo, I feel your pain.

Well, hubby called finally. He knew I was hurt but had no idea that I'd stew on it all day and night. FWs's and Ws's are sooo clueless. He was in great spirits and said he would have called had he had any idea I needed to talk to him.

He'll call me again from work tonight after 8. It felt good just to tell him I have been upset and that he can help me get through it.

He doesn't even remember her name. Neither do I. Really, they aren't important.

Had to get on my PC to post. Drying out the laptop now-- my 2 year old sprayed it with Oxy Clean carpet cleaner he grabed off the kitchen counter while I was in the bathroom. Good lord.... hubby just left it here for this week! Ok, THAT is drama I can handle LOL.

Ok, here's to going back to a drama free life!

Hey mojo ((((mojo)))))

Hang in there girlfriend. Funny, I've never seen my WH's OW either since she lives 10 hours away. I once asked a friend to drive there with me so that I could check her out, and she said "Don't do it. If she's ugly you'll feel bad, and if she's gorgeous you'll feel just as bad." Well, I figured if I was going to feel bad anyway, what was the difference? I didn't go. Now, I don't care and don't really even want to know that badly anymore.

OK UPDATE TIME!!!

Hubby called TWICE again this evening to check in on me. The first time was just for 14 minutes then his phone card ran out. He told me before it clicked off that he would call me tomorrow. I was frustrated a little but I figured it was ok. About twenty minutes later he calls again. He had run from his barracks room to the store to pick up another phone card. He called because he said I stil sounded sad. Then he told me that he had left his notebook with our budget in it and asked if I could please find it.

I figure he wants to talk about money, so Im silently rolling my eyes looking for it while we chat a bit. I find it near my desk under some stuff. He says, "Ok, its a 3 subject notebook. What is in the first section?"

"Um, its some notes for our move to Japan. The kids Socials Security numbers and stuff."

"Ok, the second section should be the budget, right?"

I look and its the budget. "Yep."

He pauses and says, "Check out the third section."

I look after the tiird divider and I see his handwriting. "Its some writing..."

"Read it."

"XXXX,
Well here is the letter you thought you were never going to get. YOu have been picking on me for awhile to get it and I've always said you'd get it when you would least expect it. I wanted to apologize for the things I have put you through



The writing stops abruptly there. I'm stunned.

He says, "I meant to finish it but every time I got started, I'd get interrupted at work and have to restart and its all I have down so far."

"I never thought I'd get that letter from you... I've really resented it for years and you actually started it this time..."

He laughs. "See, you weren;t expecting it. Does this make you feel better and believe that I love you?"

"Yes, this helps. This helps a lot."

Ya see, when my Dday in March 2003 happened I wrote him a loooooong letter apologizing for my failures as a wife. I have received nothing like that in return, even after our mariage counselor made sure he understood that I did need something like that from him. He always said he was going to but he was awfully stubborn about getting it done when HE was ready and OH YEAH, I resented it BIG TIME.

So I can see he's really been thinking down there on that island and was just about to put it all down on paper. OF course, its funny that it stops right after the apology... it makes me gigle a bit because I can totally see him trying to figure out what he should say next, what he's comfortable with saying, yada yada yada.

I have it sitting in front of me right now. I know it isn't much, but its a start and WOW, what timing does he have, huh?

I'm going to sleep really well tonight which is great because Im getting sick now. LOL

mojodiva,

Well, if your H is anything like my H, this is HUGE. LOL!

If it is any consolation, there is so much I do not know, to this day, before his A, you know more than me. LOL.

However. . .

I am so happy you are happy!!! You know, you an H are getting THERE. Sometimes it just takes awhile. And I believe your H is really, really coming around.

Will you join me in the happy dance?

Bless you and yours!

Love in Christ,
Miss M <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />