i'm working on trying to read her thread... i read a little each day..... just hard with everything else in my life..... but will make an effort to read more tonight.....thanks for all the support

So you thought I wouldn't track you down hey? New thread... nice try.

You have one major cake eateron your hands here. This guy comes over tells you what you to hear then goes to her. As far as your plan A goes it's pretty good but hold back an asking questions that you don't want an honest answer to. Like when are you comming home. You know the answer will be I don't know so why ask. More pressure on the OW is needed, he is playing you dear becasue as long as he does it keeps you focused on something other than the A itself which is what needs to end.

Big kisses to your little one.

Call his counselor after hours. If you get voicemail, you can leave a message stating everything. Or if you do get her, SHE may not be able to talk to YOU but YOU can certainly tell her what's up. You may not "hear" her response but she may rethink her "advice" to your WH.

(((LovingHim)))

((((LH4E)))))

How are you feeling today?

Well i would like to thank everyone who has tried to help me on this forum..... i will no longer be posting as my WH told me tonight that he has been reading my posts on here. He found my new name and knows that i have been posting under this name..... lucky me..... at any rate i guess i am going to give him what he wants.... he knows about MB and what it's about and i just emotinoally can't deal with this right now.

he told me tonight that he does love me but that she isn't more important than i am but he just doesn't have the enegry to deal with my emotions right now and i understand cause my emotions are so up and down it's hard to get things straight.......

Again thank you to everyone who has tried to help and who has listened.... i am hoping one day i can have a chance

Come back under a new name.

We'll find you.

Leaving here because he told you to do that will be a BIG MISTAKE!!

He will find you more attractive if you stand up for yourself.

he didn't tell me to leave..... i just hate that he has invaded my journalling of sorts and he knows it..... he has found me each and everytime i have changed my name it sucks that he knows how i think and everything about me to find me so easily.

100% bullchit

LISTEN TO MIMI, SHE HAS WHAT WE WANT.....

PLEASE STAY... fight for yourself and your M

at least he's interested..

He must find the forum to be threatening...giving you what YOU need to FIGHT the AFFAIR..

Use your smarts to come up a name he can't possibly figure out...

How about IWILLHATEMYHUSBANDFOREVERIFHEREADSHEREAGAIN?

I'm being silly tonight...

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Loving,

Lurk, read, maybe post under a new name and don't share IDing stuff yet.

It's bad but not devastating that he's reading. You feel violated now but maybe the posts of other WS's will get to him. Who knows? Focus on what you can control.

Pull yourself together, Loving. Your DD needs you to vent to us for her own good. We'll all be here for you.

You can do this....I'll be praying for you.

Ace

He actually reads your posts? My suggestion would be to continue posting - but choose to not discuss what you post with him unless YOU want to. YOU keep control - don't allow him to control you.

IMO in some ways you're actually lucky he's interested enough to read your posts, if that's what he's actually doing. Some WS's, and FWS's, couldn't care less about their S looking for support on an Internet forum....

There was a time that I, too, feared my H reading here. I actually deleted most of my first posts here for that reason.

Then I decided that I NEEDED this place, and I would just post AS IF he wasn't here. If he was lurking and reading, oh, well, maybe something would eventually sink in.

You cannot control this. Just do what YOU NEED. Reading here, venting here, sharing your feelings and struggles and hearing back from those that have BEEN THERE and TRULY understand is WORTH IT.

Maybe you can't post strategy right now, but you can post your feelings, your daily struggles, your agonizing sorrow. You can post all the wonderful things about your baby that your idiot WH is missing out on. All the beautiful memories you get to have that he doesn't because of his selfish, self-destructive choice to abandon you and her.

Stay. Let us support you.

Please don't go...my email address is [email]stillstaying@gmail.com.[/email] Email me any time you want. There are plenty of stories that are similar to yours that you can read and gain knowledge. But don't let his ignorance stop you from doing what you need to do to heal.

I wonder how his HO would feel if she knew how interested he is in what YOU are doing!!!!

Hi SMB,

Glad you're here helping Loving. I remember your disappearing posts last spring. I was thinking of you when I posted to Loving earlier.

Loving, SMB has recent experience with this. Please consider her post very seriously.

Glad things are going so well for you, SMB and tst.

Ace

Sorry to hear you considering this. Do you have other sources that will support hat you are doing to save your marriage? If anything, encourgae him to read the basic concepts and Q&A sections of the site. (Yes, that one is for you H of L4H) he may see where there is a way to come back.

loving,
this post is for your Wayward Husband....if he is reading!!

I pray you grow up and accept the role of husband and father with the woman you are married to. As you and I know everything you say and do are nothing but LIES.....You know this and you also know you can't run from the TRUTH.....

It isn't your wife that's wiping you out emotionally, It's your LIES that's are wiping her out emotionally...She isn't the problem, YOU ARE.

You can run but the problem will follow you everywhere you go...because YOU are the problem...

This affair can end, but it requires you to stop blaming your wife. You made this choice!

MR. Wayward Husband...If you really want to discuss things you can contact Justuss with your email and Justuss will get in touch with me...Do you really have the courage to start a dialog and discuss truth with someone who has been where you are????

Loving, I am praying for you and your family.

Loving!

You're doing exactly what I've been doing. Well, OW found my posts, not WS, but he ended up reading them, too. WS tried to make me feel guilty, but I'm doing nothing wrong but trying to get help, right?

Remember, he's only complaining because they have an effect on him. Oh, and don't let him give you the crap about 'manipulating' him.

Ok so WH asked why i wasn't going to post here any more.... i guess he read my thread again although he said he didn't read much of it.

I am going to try the name change again and see if this works.... so much has happened the last few days it is absolutly crazy. Will try to post in a while