Welcome to the
Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum
This is a community where people come in search of marriage related support, answers, or encouragement. Also, information about the Marriage Builders principles can be found in the books available for sale in the Marriage Builders® Bookstore.
If you would like to join our guidance forum, please read the Announcement Forum for instructions, rules, & guidelines.
The members of this community are peers and not professionals. Professional coaching is available by clicking on the link titled Coaching Center at the top of this page.
We trust that you will find the Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum to be a helpful resource for you. We look forward to your participation.
Once you have reviewed all the FAQ, tech support and announcement information, if you still have problems that are not addressed, please e-mail the administrators at
mbrestored@gmail.com
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jan 2007
Posts: 20
Junior Member
|
|
Junior Member
Joined: Jan 2007
Posts: 20 |
My WW has been back for 9 months now. SF has been bad and recently (last 4 weeks) we have stopped having SF and she wont let me touch her. This has been a huge red flag. I can not verified NC because she has email at work that I do not have access to. She now says that she does not want to be married. She has said this before, but after nine months I am unsure whether it is lie or maybe the truth. I can not make her work on the marriage. It has been 15 months since DDay. I too want to either fix the marriage or move on with my life. Any advice?
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Sep 2003
Posts: 27,069
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Sep 2003
Posts: 27,069 |
It doesn't sound good. Did you do all of the recovery stuff like meeting each other's top emotional needs, spending 15 hours a week doing fun things together? Did you work on changing the things that made your marriage vulnerable to an affair in the first place?
Has something else happened in the last 4 weeks?
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Sep 2005
Posts: 10,044
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Sep 2005
Posts: 10,044 |
she most likely either NEVER stopped the affair or is back in it.
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jan 2007
Posts: 20
Junior Member
|
|
Junior Member
Joined: Jan 2007
Posts: 20 |
It seems as though she has not been willing to really work on the marriage since she has been back. She says that sometimes se does not want to be married and that she is not motivated. Is my willingness to work on the marriage increasing her guilt, shame or what ever and making her feel like it wont work. The reason I ask this is because she has said that she does not think it will work recently. I am I being lied to again? I don't know.
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Sep 2003
Posts: 27,069
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Sep 2003
Posts: 27,069 |
No, it sounds more like she is still in contact with the other man.
|
|
|
|
0 members (),
354
guests, and
99
robots. |
|
Key:
Admin,
Global Mod,
Mod
|
|
|
Forums67
Topics133,625
Posts2,323,524
Members72,035
| |
Most Online6,102
Jul 3rd, 2025
|
|
|
|
|
|
