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*Dealing with childhood molestation.

*Having my children molested by other children - family members.

*Losing my grandmother.

*The death of our little boy at 20 weeks, and having to bury him in a coffin that was ridiculously large for him, but it was the smallest they had.


~~~This thread inspired by Lady Clueless, who has suffered even more, yet for her also the infidelity was still far worse.


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In case I wasn't clear, you're supposed to add your "worse than", also.


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I'd tell you, darling, but then I'd have to shoot you.

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P.S. Your son says goodnight.

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Mom

Good night, Buddy Boy!


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...cancer and chemo...


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"I may not know what the future holds, but I know who holds my future." -Martin Luther

Remarried my FXH 25 years to the day of our first M. God is so good-and sometimes so unexpected!

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* my daughters being molested

*watching my daughter take the stand against the perp, with him in the courtroom

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* being molested as a child
* watching my grandparents who lived with us die


Truth can stand on it's own two feet....A lie needs support....FRM
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anything I've ever experienced in my entire life.


BS(me) 40
WH 40
D-day 10/03/2007
***Recovering and growing wiser and stronger.***
I was divorced 10/08/2008.

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Worse than....

Loosing my mom to a car accident when I was 13.

Loosing my father when I was 25.


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STBXWW, 41, Serial Cheater
D-Day #1 5-26-2006 (Our Wedding Aniversary)
D-Day #2 12-26-2007
D-Day #3 5-11-2008
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..I ever thought it could possibly be.


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anything I've ever experienced in my life.

I can't imagine anything being more emotionally debilitating.


Me - 32
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...any nightmare I've ever had.
...anything I ever thought I'd experience in my lifetime.

Basically, she could have told me ANYTHING on the night of D-Day other than this and I'd be over it by now.


BH (me) - 33
FWW - 32
S - 3 & 1

Married 7/25/98
EA/PA 2/02 - 2/04
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... any torture you might wish inflicted on your greatest enemy.

Unless you have endured it, you cannot know what betrayal is like.

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being abused as a child

watching my mother die of cancer

dealing with the my father's suicide


Me (RBW) 6w5 DFW (RWH) 3w2 Established 1/93 Rebuilding since 9/03
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hmmmm,

Let me see...

If you took the sum total of EVERYTHING that has hurt me, emotionally, psychologically, physically, even small cuts and bruises (and childbirth and surgery), over my 36 years, and raise them to a power of a gazillion, I still don't think you could touch the pain, fear, panic, anguish, sadness, ANGER, disappointment, etcetera, etcetera, etcetera...


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* Losing my mother to cancer when I was 10 and growing up without her.

* ...I could ever had imagined. It ripped my world apart. Shredded every belief that I had held my entire life. It altered who I am.


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Quote:

* ...I could ever had imagined. It ripped my world apart. Shredded every belief that I had held my entire life. It altered who I am.




I would have to agree with this statement and the alterations are not for the better.

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"Losing my mom at age 21 due to a heart attack"

"Losing my dad at age 23 due to an accident"

"The second A devasted me, changed me to the core, I will never have the same beliefs about many things again...some of that is good, most of it isn't"

"The financial ruin due to his A and WS mindset at the time"


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1st PA - 1985, 1st known EA - 1992/1993
2nd PA - 06/02 to 11/04
1st D-day - 09/03, D-day 2 - 10/04 D-day 3 05/08
NC e-mail - 11/04- it wasn't real
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MicheleG and Still Crazy, I just have to say that even if you have some changes in you that you consider for the worse, that your hearts are golden. Any of us BS's who survive this have our worth proved in the fire.

Not that the affair was some gift that brought this out - I do not buy into that at all. The affair is not a gift, it is the worst thing that could ever have happened to us. The grace of God through our trial is a gift. The healing He brings is a gift. The friends we found here are a gift. God can bring good out of the worst circumstances, but that does not mean they somehow were not the worst circumstances. His love in our hearts as we understand a little of His pain, is the greatest gift of all.


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Anything that I can imagine. I would literally rather die that experience it again.


I am the BW,
He is the FWH
D-Day: 12/02/03

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