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I am putting out a call for some assistance on Tarnsy's plan B thread. There are some developments that I honestly think she needs some input and insight with and I, am at a loss as to what to tell her.

Please check out her thread and recent posts and give her a hand.

Thanks,

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Thx Who,

Please take a look at my thread - Time for a new thread - WH is peeking thru the fog but not sure what to do next.

Thx in advance

Tarnsy


BW (me) 40
WH 41
DD's 9&15
D Day 12 Nov 06
Married 16 yrs
PBL 24/12/07
WH lived with OW 07-07 - 07-08
WH returned home 08-08
Found out NC broken 29-10-08
WH leaves again 15-01-09
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Tarnsy,

How are you doing? Sorry I didn't respond earlier but my FWH and I were out of town doing research for his most currrent book and when I got back, well, the MB site was undergoing it's update.

Any news re WH?

I do see that there might be glimpses of your H vice your WH. Unfortunately he still seems to be operating under the assumption that he can take all the time he needs and that you will always be waiting, even if it takes years.

I guess if it were me, I'd just go back to total darkness. I have no idea how long a plan B should last. There are some here who have plan B'd for a couple of years. I don't think that I could do that.

It seems that once you learn to completely live without your spouse and start building a life without them that is satisfying and happy, well you might now want to risk letting them back in to potentially hurt you again.

I don't see that your WH actually "gets" that by the time he finally decides to come home, you may not want him back anymore. I suspect that the mere idea of that would completely shock him. However, I don't see any way to convey that to him either.

Sorry that I can't be more helpful.


I am the BW,
He is the FWH
D-Day: 12/02/03

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