Sorry for yet another new line...

I am convinced that WH is reading my posts. I am concerned about what kind of stuff he is planning on pulling. Have these emails ever come up in a divorce preceeding for anyone?

I am not a lawyer, but if there is access, it's in a public domain and can be used I believe. During my very aggressive D, my BS subpoened anything could get hands on....and I had admitted everything!

I am not sure what your issues are, but barring any safety concerns, I would remain unfiltered for the help....just my opinion

I think I am a little thick in the head tonight. Not sure what you mean by remain unfiltered. You mean keep posting and let it all hang out?

I think I am just giving him the heads up about filing and my next moves, which I don't want to do. I don't know what he is up to but I no it can't be good. I am the BS but he acts like he has done nothing wrong and should have all the rights in the world. I think he will be going for 50% physcial custody(which is crazy) and I think he is trying to plot against me to get it. I just don't trust the lunatic.

Hey there...

Yes, I would attempt to remain true to yourself and seek the help you need here.

I know as crazy as it is now, if you are set on the D, choose a good lawyer, and move through the process with has little destructiveness as possible.

THAT game can get out of hand fast...my BS wanted the D. I did not. If so, I suggested mediation to save some heartache...2.5 years later, and over 200k in battles has left all of us worse for wear. Don't do it...it really isn't worth it. Protect your rights, but try to exercise restraint as hard as it is...You all will lose with a contentious battle...It usually leads nowhere other than what the "standard" thing is....

Try and take it easy...seriously, the drama will overwhelm..and it can be sickening...like a catastrophic car accident with bloody bodies lying around...compelling...but turn your eyes....

blackntwrk,

Thanks for the advice. I do have a good lawyer, plus my brother is a lawyer and has experienced divorce. So I have good legal coverage.

Problem is dealing with delusional WH. I will try not to react and let the lawyers handle his delusions.

Exactly...don't get sucked in by it...and you can always defer to your family and legal guidance...It takes the stress off having to deal with the craziness...Also, always take your time in responding to anything...and try to avoid writing...everything can come back...texts, emails, letters, etc...

My lawyer actually said start a paper trail of informing him of what the boys are doing educationally and health wise. Pisses me off cuz he was never involved before. I have ceased to email anything that I don't want coming back :eek: