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Hi everyone,
I have a friend who is having difficulty letting go of her ex-husband emotionally. They are divorced, but are still very emotionally dependent on each other. Both of them know they do not want to get back together, but they are having trouble letting go.
I'm afraid I'm not of much help to her, since I had a counselor and a counseling group that helped me through my divorce. But I thought the least I could do was ask you guys if you had any helpful recommendations for either emotional dependency, or letting go after divorce.
Thanks for any help!
L
Me: WS/BS
Him: BS/WS
D-day 1: 07/08/03 my 4mo EA/PA
D-day 2: 09/12/04 his exit EA
D final 05/12/2005
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I would think that a plan B, no contact would be in order.
Remember that if any one of them remarries, ex lovers will not be acceptable to new couples. So I guess, to cut off all contact with the ex. Out of sight out of mind. Just to start.
Books? Anybody?
BS44 XW33 0kids M6“01
DDay8“05 Plan A 8“05 S Harley
XW preg OM due 5“08
D 4"08
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Hi LIT
Has your friend thought of going to a DivorceCare group? You can go to their website and find groups near you.
It sounds like they are very co-dependent. There are some good books on that. "Co-Dependent No More" is a title that comes to mind.
Also, there's a book called "When He Leaves. Help and Hope for Hurting Wives." by Kari West and Noelle Quinn, who both went through divorces. If they are still depending on each other, it might not be the right book but it might help her sort some things out.
Hope this helps-
johnstwin-
"I may not know what the future holds, but I know who holds my future." -Martin Luther
Remarried my FXH 25 years to the day of our first M. God is so good-and sometimes so unexpected!
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