It looks like he is not the man of the your dreams, after all. This is why it is a good idea to date someone for at least 2 years, so you can get a good look at their traits, the good, the bad, the ugly.

Dating is a job interview for marriage, I would suggest that this interview has been a flop. An alcoholic is a terrible choice for a spouse that will damn you to a life a misery. He would be a dreadful choice. And you can't change him.

One thing you can do is call his parents and tell them he has a drinking problem. They won't be able to do much without his willingness, though. Neither can you do anything. You can't change other people.

Leave, never look back.

The only dreams he is capable of is nightmares and broken.

If you stay, you will end up black and blue.

run fast and hard the other way.
my father was an alcoholic.
he has been sober many years now thank god. but growing up was awful in my house.

don't do this to yourself. and certainly don't bring any children into this.

and thank god you saw this side of him before you agreed to marry him.

mlhb

What a blessing to you that you could see this so early in your life.

Yes, please, move out & move on. This will ONLY get better when and IF HE wants it to, and NOTHING you say or do will help that happen.

In the best interest of YOU, separate from this boy completely.

It may look worse to you, but you have taken a positive step. Your boyfriend’s problems become your problems only if that is the path that you choose.

A love interest at 20 years old or 40 years old, often times becomes an addiction. We become both physiologically and emotionally attached to our love interests and consequently we fall in love with them. Sure enough, that is what has happened to you (and to him also).

Fortunately for you, you have sufficient maturity to realize that the object of your love is not in your best interests. His faults have surfaced and although you may have great regret and a lot of second guessing your choices I would propose to you that you have take the best step to your future by separating yourself from him.

The pain that you feel as a result of that separation is a normal response to the addiction that nearly ALL relationships endure. These forums are virtually littered with folks similar to you, looking for advice and guidance to break a damaging relationship. It is seldom easy, filled with pain and not everyone is successful. The key to ending any love relationship is found in these two simple words, “NO CONTACT”. That means no phone calls, no far away sightings, no emails, NO NOTHING as far as he is concerned. If you do this for a period of weeks, your feelings for him will fade and you will congratulate yourself and life for you, will return to normal. That is how you break this addiction.

I applaud your brave step to leave, salute your maturity and offer you this parting suggestion:

“NO CONTACT”

There will be many “next times” for you and armed with the lessons that you have learned you will be able to find the man of your dreams and not of your nightmares. You will love again.

Mr. G

Call the police or go to a local shelter. They will help you fill out the required paperwork for a protection order...and YES< YOU NEED ONE. Your boyfriend has threatened your life. The MOST DANGEROUS time when getting away from an abuser is when you are freshly apart.
Get protection and take his threat seriously. I have carried too many bodies of abuse victims that did not take such a threat seriously.

Get help.

You MUST protect yourself.

Have you let his parents know about these problems?

The places where he buys his liquor should pay attention to the minimum drinking age laws. Here it is 21.

You can not make this boy rescue himself. However, you can rescue yourself.

Have you let YOUR PARENTS know about this problem?

You love a drunk.
That is your issue.
Go to AL-Anon - look it up on the web.
Find a meeting.
Keep going to meetings.

CALL your parents and ask for their support.

Pep

Yeah, that too!!

Listen to Pep!!!